Is it possible that my close guy friend is trying to have sex with me although I told him I am saving myself for marriage?

[Anonymous]

We were emotionally close and opened up about a lot of deep issues and we got closer in a short while. But in the last while he has been extra touchy and now that I moved, although we don't chat nor do video calls (we almost never chat , and never do video calls) but it is bugging me that he is not initiating that kind of distant contact and yet he seems eager to physically see me again.

[osmanthus]

He might be wondering if you're going to 'put-out' (have sex with him) at least once. If he's living overseas and not doing all of that contact then he probably figures he won't ever see you again, so why bother? If you're still in the same city, town, etc. well the aforementioned tid-bit about him wanting you to have pre-marital sex with him applies.

Unless he's a vicar or sworn into a church body or other religious order that requires him to be celibate, it's most likely that he is thinking about pre-marital sex. You don't have to continue contact with him. You can find someone else willing to wait or else marry someone within the church or other religious order. It's up to you.

[BarryLiverstone]

If he’s just a friend it’s more likely he noticed you moved. How far away from him are you?

[Asker]

A country away. And we got closer in the last month before I moved. Now he wants to see me in one way or another

[BarryLiverstone]

Sometimes topics of conversation and words used can be an indication of what he wants. Yes you moved to another country so has he flirted with you more (and have you flirted back)

[BarryLiverstone]

Ty for MHO

[spartan55]

He's tired of being the fake boyfriend.

[Asker]

What do you mean by 'fake boyfriend'?

[spartan55]

You get your emotional needs met and your ego boost from aka the relationship experience and he gets... no sex

[AI Opinion]

Navigating friendships and understanding intentions can be like dancing on a tightrope, right? 😏 It sounds to me like your friend might be caught in the whirlwind of emotions that come with deep connections. The shift from being emotionally close to displaying more physical affection could indeed suggest his feelings are evolving—or at least, his desires are.

You've set clear boundaries by stating your commitment to save yourself for marriage, which is awesome! 🙌 The thing is, everyone processes and respects boundaries differently. His eagerness to see you in person, despite the lack of digital communication, might mean he values that physical presence and connection more than chatting or video calls. Or, it might suggest he's hoping the physical closeness might open a door you've already closed.

My advice? Trust your instincts and uphold your boundaries. A heartfelt chat could clear the air. Express how much you value the friendship but reiterate your commitment to your boundaries. Relationships, in any form, thrive on honesty and respect. And hey, who knows? Maybe this is a chance to deepen that emotional connection even more, just in a way that respects both your boundaries and needs. Keep that dialogue open and flirty, but firm. 😉