I think he's using me for sex but?

[Anonymous]

he gets jealous when men look at me, he copies me and also said he likes me a lot and once said "love you" to me before we parted. He also gets upset when I block him

[Anonymous]

The best way to ascertain whether someone is using you for sex, is to completely remove sex from the equation and list all of the things you consider to be valuable, unique or reasons that add to someones life significantly.

But ultimately, the problem is that no matter what society likes to tell you, sex is something deep, meaningful and meant to be reserved for someone who is truly committed and worthy. Your doubts likely originate from this lost way of thinking.

[ProbablyClueless]

He told you he loves you. What makes you think he's only using you for sex?

[Asker]

I don't know i was thinking he could say "love you" so we could continue having sex. And he said "love you" quickly not "i love you". I don't know everytime we see eachother we have sex, but the first 10 times we saw eachother we didn't

[ProbablyClueless]

Ah... I think I see what's going on.

The guy is giving you. a green light, but you're so used to red lights that you don't know how to feel about seeing green for a change.

Try to have a little faith in yourself. You're you! There's a lot reasons to love you =)

[Asker]

Yeah we also just go to his place, he took me to the movies once and to restaurant but i wanted to go to his place instead so we just went there. now all we do is go to his place, talk and have sex

[ProbablyClueless]

If you want to be treated differently, you have to communicate that expectation to him.

[jeffend888]

At your age, if you can't tell if someone is using you for sex, there's not much anyone can do to help you.

[DerekC321]

Do you guys hang out a lot? Or pretty much just sex?

[Asker]

well the first few times he wanted to take me to the movies but i said i was tired so he said okay we could go home. and then he took me to a restaurant once and i didn't want to eat and rather eat at his place. then on we just always buy food and eat in his car or at his place. But its pretty much sex now.

[DerekC321]

Maybe see how things go? But if this keeps up I think you have your answer.

[Asker]

But we do have other conversations and joke around a lot but we always have sex. For the first 10 times we met we didn't have sex though. Its been like almost a year

[DerekC321]

Then that sounds pretty good! Sorry, I didn't know the context. It sounds like you guys have a connection.

[Asker]

so we always meet at night because he says he's working full time and have to go to gym after and on saturdays sometimes i see him but mostly he meets with his family, he's always talking to his cousin. I recently asked him if he's serious with me he said "I tried to take you out" and saying how I keep blocking him but he never said he was serious.

[DerekC321]

I get that. Maybe work out a time that works for both of you? It seems like you guys have a connection but now, yeah, mostly sex. Maybe see if can get together and go out and do something you're both into?

[Asker]

im also really scared because I think he's really good looking and im just okayish. He is out of my league and people are so shallow. Mostly when I go on dates with good looking guys, the people always treat them better and the guy start to notice they're out of my league :(

[DerekC321]

So many people have a bad self image. I'll bet you're a lot more beautiful than you say. And looks aren't everything, anyhow. You sound smart and kind and personality counts for a lot.