Is my boyfriend using me for sex?

[starletteee]

Me and my boyfriend met online and we are in a long distance relationship. I know that I love him even though I haven't told him yet because I feel it is still too early. But I often wonder whether he loves me. He often talks about sexual things with me and how bad he wants to do it with me, and I know that usually that clearly means they're just using you. But I really can't tell because he still spends a lot of time with me and talks to me about things other than sex. We often watch movies, play video games etc. But I still get a feeling sometimes that I am just being used. I often tell him romantic things like how I love the sound of his laugh etc but he never tells me those things. He usually just throws in a couple of '' you're beautiful, pretty, gorgeous etc ''

Please give me your input on this thank you <3

[ohsheeT]

When you are in a long distance relationship and you cannot look into their eyes

You cannot hold them touch them and let that energy flow between you both emerge all around you you start to Crave that feeling and the only way that you can express that is to say I want you I need you I want to do you LOL I want to bond with you I want to become one with you so there's always going to be a lot of that that doesn't just mean that he wants to have sex with you or using you there is a deep desire that guys get even I get it when I'm in a long distance relationship when you cannot hold somebody in your arms looking deep into the eyes kiss them soon soft and their lips to their neck

You're going to have your regular Chit Chat and how are things and what have you been doing and all this but there's a yearning for that touch that Bond
But at the same time you can tell when that's real and when somebody just wants to use you and if you don't know then you should really pay attention and listen to the words that are bringing you because a guy will tell you in a roundabout way that he's going to use you that's all he's there for if you pay attention to his words

[MementoMori777]

well some signs are there, do you ever have deep and meaningful conversations with him? like future plans, how he feels about you, how you make him feel, showing concern for your well being, your mental health, ask you how your day is, tells you that he cares about you, if he shows more interest to your apperance and the physical things you can do/do for him then maybe, that all depends if you see more interest in physical things than emotional, usually its more emotional than phsyical if the love is pure.

[RespectfulGuy]

TBH, I hate girls kept saying guys use them.

Reason: They also cum and enjoy the deed.

Hence it should be a win-win rather than one using another. Unless of course one hate it. But why the relationship if hates the sex?

Hence I rather you think on how to satisfy each other more.

[Guardian45]

1/ you don't say if you're sexting or not

2/ guys are not girls. If a guy only wants sex from you, he wouldn't waste time playing videos, watching movies or talking til all hours!

3/ ALL LDRs need a plan to meet IRL, otherwise you're wasting time.

I think your boyfriend has demonstrated his intent, but call him on it if you don't believe him

[es20490446e]

He simply doesn't know how to express any better.

[Iron_Man]

You shouldn’t have put out

[BaoBao1]

We are all using each other

[Anonymous]

Most likely, yes.