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1) Able to be yourself? Do you feel like you have to put on a front with your SO? Also, how nervous are you when your guard drops? Lots of abused women report having to be “on guard” 24/7 in what they say, or act or even wear. Are you always exhausted with your SO? That may be a sign.
2) Do you laugh? Like most conversations, are you laughing with each other? You don’t have to be a comedian. We laugh and have fun talking about reality shows are whatever. But unhealthy SO’s don’t laugh as much. And unhealthy mates HATE laughing at themselves.
3) Do you fight? It’s ok to. I see it more as venting, as well as fixing the relationship. But how bad the fights get is key too. Also, how fast can you makeup?
4) Do they trust you? Are they going through your phone? Always scrolling through social media, sensitive to minor flirtations from others? Do they try to control your schedule? That’s them being insecure about themselves. And is abusive.

A few months ago, I drunkenly texted a female friend a flirty message even though I have a girlfriend. My girlfriend and I are working through this issue. I work with the girl I texted and when out in a group for work, drinks are often involved for the whole team. My girlfriend has asked me to not drink around this girl. Because she still doesn’t trust me. I respected her wishes one time but felt extremely left out of the group and as if I were a social pariah. Yesterday, I saw this girl again at a work event and, though I told my girlfriend that I wouldn’t drink if the girl was around, I did anyway. I enjoy drinking. And I enjoy hanging out with my coworkers. I love my girlfriend but I have to drink when I’m out with the group. Everybody else is doing it and I want to be liked. I feel insecure when everybody around me is drinking and I’m not. Am I just being selfish or does this seem like an actual problem?