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I had 2 other people that I was talking about a topic with. Person 1 was feeling upset about some stuff and wanted to talk, Person 2 and I asked him what's wrong. Basically Person 1 was thinking about past bullying that basically happned through thier entire childhood due to thier behavior. Person 1 is diagnosed with ADHD and Asperger's and felt bad for being bullied for stuff that wasn't his fault. He basically hot bullied for hyperactivity associated with ADHD, which led to him being annoying, and other behaviors that involved not fully understanding social rules that came with Asperger's. And I'm assuming that both of these combined led into him just beinf "weird" overall such as talking a lot or not paying attention in class, talking about "weird" things and just being annoying overall.
Person 2 basically told him "Well, you were responsible for your own repercussions (in this case, bullying) because at the end of the day, you are still responsible for your actions, disablilty or not"
This kind of led into a small debate between me and Person 2. My reasoning was basically that he shouldn't have been bullied for. Rather, people with things with ASD and ADHD or anything similar should work towards being understood and helped, not bullied.
Person 2 said that we can't be upset about the reactions he got growing up, because the actions were unacceptable whether he liked it or not. Person 2 said that the bullies are not at fault for reacting.
So I asked Person 2 is Person 1 deserved the bullying. Person 2 said he deserved it.
I disagreed and said people don't deserve bulkying for something that is for the most part, uncontrollable. Since he never asked to have either ADHD or Asperger's. Especailly if he (as a kid at least) try to improve and was unsuccessful in doing it. I understand if he needed improvement in these departments, but bullying wasn't required for that.

So basically GaG, please help me out a bit.
Who do you agree with and what is your reasoning?

Connected with a guy through a friend - I suspect he is an Aspie (formal choice of words, miscommunications, not understanding metaphors (taking things literally) and general awkwardness all around).

Thing is, we were supposed to meet for the first time about a month ago but I had to reschedule twice a while back as sth urgent at work came up and 2nd time I was really sick from the vaccine. That's when things got a bit strange

1) We attempted to rescheduled a third time. I offered 2 days - said day X could work but day Y would be best. He didn't respond for 4 days so I was kinda disappointed thought I was being ignored - on day Y, he assumed we were on and reached out to confirm plans but I'd already made plans but offered to meet for a quick drink that night before my later plans

He didn't respond to that. I was bewildered at this point.. I thought about it and then the asperger hit me. Someone also later told me that offering to meet for a drink before actual plans sounds like I see him as an afterthought so I gave the benefit of the doubt and assumed miscommunication. I messaged the next day saying I'm not sure what happened but would still like to meet

2) He replied 2 days later asking when I was free. We agreed to a day and on the day of i didn't hear from him (he has always texted the past few time) so i asked if we were still on. He then asked if we could reschedule to a week night as he wasn't feeling the best from a hangover on but said he could still make it. I was bummed out and told him no problem and feel better soon.

He then texted back that his:
- Schedule is open all5 days for the week
- apologised sincerely (albeit really formal) and thought his hangover would pass by now
- Later added that he could still make it but just would not be his usual chirper self

How would you find this? Does this sound like he got cold feet? He could have told me he was feeling hungover earlier in the day before I texted.