This will be short, and all my opinion. And the same can go for boyfriends too, but I'm a girl so I said girlfriends.
I've only been a girlfriend for 7 months, and I've learned a lot along the way. Like, a lot. I've messed up so many freaking times, and if I didn't have such an understanding, and thoughtful person as my partner, then I would have driven him away by now.
1. Don't make accusations because of a "hunch"
At least have one solid piece of proof for whatever it is you're thinking about accusing your partner of. I don't just mean cheating. In the beginning I used to always think he was cheating bc of my own insecurities and severe anxiety. That's in the past, but I still found myself casually accusing him of other things, only to be proven wrong. Again. And again.
This will really put a wedge between you both. It shows you have no confidence in the other person, and that hurts.
2. Most guys aren't as "lovey dovey" as women
Most, not all. I'm lucky enough to have someone who is sort of "lovey dovey" and if I wanted him to be even more so, he would try his best to do that. But I don't need him to be over the top bc I know that even without a bunch of texts saying he loves me and without him constantly putting his hands on me, he still loves me.
And it makes it 10x more special when he does do those things at random. We say "I love you" everyday, and I never have to remind him. And he has no problem holding hands whenever, and that's good enough for me.
3. *This one will be controversial* Stop wearing hoe clothes.
Obviously if he respects you, he's not going to tell you what to wear and what not to wear, but if you respect him you won't wear things that have the sole purpose of attracting men's stares. It's insulting, it's disrespectful, and it's tasteless. Take that as you will but most men are going to feel that way.
Lucky for me, I never wore tacky clothes even when I was single. But if I did, I would've stopped bc if I can't respect myself then maybe at the very least I could respect the person I loved.
4. Care for them!
Women like men who care for them in the protective sense, and men like women who care for them in the motherly sense. This does NOT mean do all their chores and cooking every single day, especially not if you aren't married and/or living together.
But every once in a while, make them a home cooked meal. That goes a long way. Take care of them when they aren't feeling well and reassure them, even when they doubt themselves.
This is just my opinion so don't come at me, you can respectfully disagree.
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