Do you feel lonely? Even if your'e in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

what is your definition of loneliness? when you live alone? don't have a partner? when people doesn't seem to think like you? when you are not appreciated for the things you find interesting? when you lose a good friend? what comes to your mind when you think about being lonely? example: i am 16, never had a boyfriend and all of my friends feel lonely and say they want a bf, but i feel like this is only an excuse of boredom. your thoughts? :)

i have a partner, but i still feel alone

i am lonely and i love it! books are my best friends! :)

i can't share my secrets, i feel alone.

i don't feel lonely, i feel loved and appreciated.

i have a lot of "friends", but i don't really talk about personal things with them

[citroen]

I was at my lonliest when i was in a relaionship, but that was because i was with the wrong person, in life you have to find enjoyment on your own, and not rely on frienships or relationships to make you happy, coz if you do, you will feel lonely, other people should only be an addition to your existing happiness, your happiness should never depend on others, coz if you fall out or break up what would you do and how would you feel, probably empty and alone, we all need relationships and friendships, we all need someone to love us or to talk to and share happy times with, but we should never make other people our everything, our life shoul never revolve around them, we still need our own space and be able to spend time on our own or do things on our own for ourselves

[Asker]

wow this is exactly how i feel!!! this comment is a 100 % true! thanks for sharing girl!! i can't make it most helpfull though... i already did :\

[Asker]

oh wait i did!!!

[Lauren2410]

I do feel lonely when it comes to relationships, since I haven't had a boyfriend and I also like this guy who probably won't even talk to me, but my friends usually fill up the void because we laugh a lot together at school, on the phone, etc.

[itsme_goodsamaritan]

Togetherness has a big premium attached to it. Its not love at all. Its just give and take, and sometimes just give, give, and only give good, and take only sh*t. It can get tiring.

[VanillaSalt]

for some1 your age make friends and go out and hang out... but if u have a friend who u think is attractive and both of u are very very mature and confident nothing will happen throw on a movie sit on the couch and cuddle... cuddling is a great way to relieve loneliness but its the easiest way to lead to other things... do not attempt if u cannot control ureself!

its possible to be lonely with ure gf/bf laying in bed next to u... u can be lonely on a train... in the lunchroom during lunch with 500 people around u... lonely isn't being alone its feeling alone... find something to occupy ure time... build up a close relationship with some1 a good friend or maybe a bf... never ever have sex because ure lonely its a bad idea

[Asker]

thank you for your advice- this is much appriciated :)

[rUinSAYAN]

friends can also cover this feel. a relationship covers lust and loneliness at the same time if your counterpart is right.
you can also not feel lonely if people always fancy you, then you (me) want to be lonely.
you feel lonely if you only had people that liked you cause you had something but you only feel it the moment you notice it.
interacting with people and thinking that you are part of the 'group' make you stop feeling lonely.
being introverted or not wanting to interact with people also makes you feel lonely.
doing things that keep you distracted or being busy makes you not feel lonely for the period

[Asker]

wow thanks! really good comment! very insightful.

[rUinSAYAN]

I'm crazy, I like being lonely but I don't like it aswell. I would like a middle way. a partner can't always cover this feeling, sometimes the person you are with feel so cold that you just wait for the moment till he/she dumps you (I never dump first lol, mostly ^^)

[Asker]

haha why don't you ever dump first? whats wrong with that? i never had a boyfriend cause i always refuse them at the first second date lol. i dont want to make them feel deeper emotions if i'm not intrested. ididnt have a crush for so long haha i dont have feelings

[rUinSAYAN]

I once had to dump 2-3 to run after 1. had to dump 1 cause she cheated. got dumped after being clingy (sometimes I went clingy cause I wanted them to dump me so it kinda worked out, I'm free

[Asker]

hahahaha you just waste your time. just dump them!

[rUinSAYAN]

I didn't waste it. I only get like 2 possible gfs per year since 13y ratio. I don't make anything out of it, I am just too lazy to waste my energy on a girl and too proud to have a long lasting gf that isn't at least a 6 in my book. so I just enjoy kissing them till I can make them run away or weird out and laugh my ass of them after

[Asker]

hahahahaha that's sad. and evil. i like you. lol

[rUinSAYAN]

I guess the value of your words

[Crushonyoufornow]

I dont think living alone make me feel lonely i want to live alone , when im around my family i feel so much lonely and depraste , thats why im running to the wrong women to have drama to forget about reality now i didn't find a gf which make me feel more lonely im messed up

[Asker]

don't look for gf yet, go look for friends first :) then you will be happy and have more self love so it will be easier with girls

[Crushonyoufornow]

You are wise for a young lady

[Asker]

thank you :) good luck and don't settle for a girl you don't like! work hard on yourself! a one great thing that women find as attractive in men is independence- men who believe in themselves and have motivation to follow their dreams - not relying on others and settle for normality. at least that how it's like for me. be your better self. don't give up on yourself. if you don't believe in yourself- no one else is going too. if you want i can recommend you about some books that will change your life for the better if you just follow them -i promise!!! i don't know if you are really serious about making a change- but if you are- then first i'll recommend visiting the website : https://www.highexistence.com/ believe me- it's so interesting and i'm sure you will find it helpful :) remember: "you are confined only by the walls you build yourself" . do tell if you found it helpful, and good luck, i believe in you :)

[Slavanna]

I have no friends, really. They're all bloody backstabbers, thinking they're cool for talking shit about me behind my back. So yeah, I do feel lonely.

[Asker]

ohh :( i'm so sorry :\ go find other friends!

[Slavanna]

Easy to say. My schedule is packed with school activities (I'm doing the IB, senior year, so it's sort of hard on me) and I'm a bit of a slow-burner with relationships, platonic or otherwise. Once I've established reasonable connection, they're gone.

[Asker]

i'm sure that you can talk to people in school in recesses !

[Slavanna]

Within 5 minutes we do have for recesses, I can barely pack my bag and get to the room where the next class is held. And anyway, I have some... reputation at my school. And it's not exactly a good one. Suffice to say, people are ashamed when I actually walk up to them.

[Asker]

oh. well then you have to make time for finding friends in other places, like library? parks? bus stations?

[waitforit45]

Seeing as I'm in a long-distance relationship, I definitely can feel alone even though I have a partner :(

[pinkZeta]

never felt alone when i was in my 1.5 year relationship. athough now that I've been single for two years i feel alone almost most of the time

[SomethingWicked]

None of those options apply to me, I'm always alone however I never feel lonely.

[SomethingWicked]

I don't understand why most people think if you're alone you're lonely.

[Asker]

me too! hahah but i meantt that i'm alone but not lonely since i have books and such lol

[SomethingWicked]

Also Asian dramas, books, Asian dramas and anime. My life is complete.

[Asker]

haha i used to watch anime all the time. i am past that phase though haha

[SomethingWicked]

Phase... I'm almost 30, it's never been a phase foe me. =P

[SomethingWicked]

For.

[Asker]

hahah i'm only 16!

[SomethingWicked]

I'm almost double your age! Muhaha, anime is awesome, so are Asian dramas, just different forms of story telling. XD

[halloweenvschristmas]

I'm not lonely I just chose to cut some friends off because of their jealousy or drama

[Anonymous]

you can be in a room full of people and still be lonely

[Asker]

yea... :(

[Klaatu51]

why books and not music? that's weird

[Asker]

and why not both? :)

[Klaatu51]

i dislike books LOL

[Asker]

i love books so much!!!

[Anonymous]

I like your mask

[Asker]

ooohh thank you haha :) this mask is a part of my "slender women" costom for Halloween XD it's creepy isn't it?

[Opinion Owner]

Extremely. It looks horrific. Id never hit on you with that on

[Asker]

hahahahahahahahhh you want me to change it so you see i'm not creepy? lol

[Opinion Owner]

No no. I don't assume you're creepy. Just your mask haha. But it's cool. Can I kiss you through one of those holes?

[Asker]

hahahah yea sure!!! :* lol

[Opinion Owner]

Lol totally when you're older. You're too young for kissing

[Asker]

what. why i'm 16 and a half!!! almost everyone kiss by this age. eccept for me haha. i turned so many guys down so i never kissed. i want to end it haha

[Opinion Owner]

Well I'm a stranger. Doubt I have much of a chance :p

[Anonymous]

Sometimes I do.