Question for the girls who wear mini skirts but don't like guys looking at their legs

[Anonymous]

OK so why wear such revealing clothes if you don't want guys checking you out . its sort of spring here and the girls are starting to wear more revealing clothes I have noticed . I'd had a couple encounters with girls wearing mini skirts that has made me wonder . the first one I saw at the college library , was a cute blonde and she had really nice legs but she seemed uncomfortable that I was checking her out in that area . then I saw a group of girls at bus stop last night and this blonde had on a really thin flower skirt that was revealing and as expected didn't like it much that I checked her out . but she was showing a lot of skin so what did she expect and she was hot as well . I don't get some of these girls why show so much of your legs , thighs if you don't want people checking it out ? anyways these girls should be proud of there body not uncomfortable to show it off

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+1 y

wow this question is getting about as much attention as the hot blonde in the mini skirt I saw yesterday

[bnwsmile]

Just gonna toss you some definitions to get more clarification for these girls you're check out..

Look: to make use of the sense of sight; to see.

Stare: to look fixedly at usually longer than a look

Gawk: to stare stupidly

Ogle: to keep looking (at) boldly and with obvious desire; make eyes (at)

These are all different.

Put yourself in a woman's situation. With the things you hear about crimes involving rape etc, if someone is Staring, Gawking, and/or Ogling at you while you're wearing something comfortable (yet flattering) how would you feel as a woman if you didn't know the person that was staring at you? Do you wonder if they have ill intentions or if they just think you look nice and they're attracted to you?

Women DO wear clothes to get attention but there is a line here. If I want sexual attention I will dress provocatively with a low cut top, bright colors, a sexy up do, tight around my bottom yet showing how sexy my legs are as well. IF I'm wearing this then yes I want attention.

HOWEVER, If I'm in a thigh length skirt, paired with a conservative top, and flats then it means I'm trying to look nice for my job, for a meeting, to go on a date, to just in general wear something that fits for the occasion.

Place is also a factor. If I see some guy I don't know checking me out in a club yeah that's cool. If I'm in a parking lot and he's checking me out on the way to my car then that freaks me out and I get paranoid thinking if he's going to follow me.

Now onto looks. No woman is going to mind if some drop dead incredibly sexy man is checking her out. Same with guys... If a REALLY hot chick is checking you out no matter where it is you're going to be cool with that.

What if the person is mildly unattractive or incredibly unattractive to you? You're probably going to wish they just went away and you'll want them to stop checking you out because there is that feeling of "unworthiness" so to speak.

That being said it's a tough call for your situation. It really depends on how you were looking at these ppl, the time of day, and where it was.

I hope this helps!

Bnwsmile

[Bruce]

Unworthiness..........huh ?..............Oh................I see it depends on just WHOM is checking you out.

[GIntrovert]

Exactly bruce. Men are expected to read their minds, and only check her out if she likes him.

[Misadventures]

Actually, ALL men are expected to check out the hot girl in the mini skirt (she needs that ego boost) but only the ones she finds attreactive are allowed to approach her (because hot guys are mind readers and less-than-hot guys should know their place in the food chain, obviously)

God help you if you don't know what classification you are. Girls are vicious, and the mini-skirted variety are the most dangerous of all.

[bnwsmile]

Perhaps unworthiness was a bad choice of wording. However, like I stated before if you're not attracted to someone and you don't know that person AND he's going overboard with his gawking then YES it will make that woman uncomfortable. It's not JUST not being attracted to that person. It is a variety of things that can make someone feel awkward in this situation. Stop being closed minded and know that it all was said to form a bigger picture.

[Bruce]

'you can't always get what you want" .....the guys you want to look don't look......."But if you try sometimes you might get what you need"..........there is probably a message there........if you don't get checked out by the 'hot' guys.............you are probably not as "hot" as the "hot girl" you see in your mirror............EVERYBODY has an ego........and women who believe they are the 'hottest" woman going,,,are the ones that get dumped on the most.

[bnwsmile]

Bruce, you're looking too deep into what I said and missing what I had actually meant. Read my answer to this question: https://www.girlsaskguys.com/Relationships-Questions/184393-is-it-true-that-every-relationship-has-a-settler.html Hope that helps with my choosing of the word, 'unworthy'.

[Subotai]

Thats the hypocrisy that p*sses me off a hot guy looking is cool. A guy you don't find attractive is a total dog. Just think about how horrible that sounds. What about older men are they creeper lower beings than young toned guys. If you dress provocatively you make it hard not to look. What about that boy in a wheelchair or the boy who just has terrible acne. He is not allowed to be a sexual being but mr hunky prep football player you'd arch your back and stick ur boobs in his face

[bnwsmile]

Lol.. I was defining possibly WHY she was giving him a weird look because he was looking at her. I said nothing about someone of age or in a wheelchair...... ......

[Anonymous]

There are a lot of girls who wear revealing clothes because they do want the attention but not every girl is the same, these girls you are talking about may be "hot" but it's uncomfortable when boys just stand there and goggle at you as if your a piece of meat, deep down we may appreciate it but we wear clothes what we feel comfortable in as well as what's new out in the fashion. I'm a girl my self and I'm quite heavily busted I used to wear revealing tops and dresses, not to get the boys attention but because I liked the style of it, sometimes I used it to my advantage but trust me when a boy stands there and goggles at you it's really uncomfortable. You should just try the suttle approach next time, if you like the way a girl looks have sneaky looks don't make it obvious unless she makes it obvious she's checkin you out as well. My boyfriend asks me the same question, he goes nuts if I'm showing a little bit of cleavage and asks stuff like why you wearing that, do you want boys to stare at you? It's like your saying just because we have breast or nice legs we can't wear the clothes we want to because if we do it means we want attention it's not about that at all it's just what we feel comfortable in.

[kereru]

it often comes across as negative attention, because it makes you feel like you re advertsing something, or giving them a message, that you re not.

I lived in scandanavia for a year, and their they re a lot more relaxed about nudity in general, like families will take saunas naked together there, and its not big deal, and at first I was completely freaked out by it, and thought it was weird and gross and wrong, but once you adjust you realize that its our culture that's more f***ed up about these things.

its just a cultural hang up we have about how much flesh you show and what it means etc. a hindred years ago and still in some countries today wearing a skirt above your ankles would make guys stare...

[DustBallKid]

It's all about the direction of advertisement, per-say that's how I look at situations like this. So a cute girl is walking down the street or in your case the library or bus stop even go so far as a restaurant movies starbucks everywhere. Before you go checking her out so you don't creep her out. Scan the area for a guy she is particularly talking or flirting even inadvertently flirting with a guy. Chances are she would wear something like that for him just pay attention for that link. That's one of the possibility's

She maybe was uncomfortable on how you were checking her out maybe a glance that lasted two seconds to long. But it is important to look and give a smile a wave something nice and friendly sometimes you can break into a nice convo. Getting a number out of getting caught is always fun I think.

And lastly maybe she was looking for a certain type a guy. She might be looking for that muscle meat head or a richy rich. Guys can never really know how or why some women do this but sometimes it could be as simple as her wanting to feel sexy or cute after all it is nice weather out why not be comfortable?

[frankadu]

Prevention is better than cure. If a girl doesn't feel comfortable being checked out, then why wearing such revealing clothes?

I am sure that if a "hot" guy passes by wearing boxers, for example, the girls would definitely be checking him out. What makes you any different? All I know is it's natural for a guy to be physically attracted to a girl and vice versa, and if a girl doesn't want/or like to be checked out, then she should cover her body because it's inevitable that guys will definitely be staring at her legs. The problem is, girls have double standards. They are allowed to do what ever they want, but guys are not...

some of the girls said that if you are not hot, you got to know where you stand and do not approach a hot girl... I think that shows insecurity! They didn't create themselves that way (ugly) it's not their fault that they don't look like your dream guy... and also "is it better for you to be approachable to a "HOT" guy that is a for example serial killer, or an "UGLY" guy that is nice and respectful?

[aaroni666]

Women just have to learn there is literally nothing we can do about the staring. I have an ability to restrain myself but now I think about it, it must be a super power or I am going to develop a tumor from it. I am embarrassed to hang around my friends as they can't help but just gorp but I don't blame them. You have no idea what bare skin does to our brains, it literally scrambles them. It is really funny, especially living in England, all the girls are covered up during the colder seasons and then summer comes and suddenly there are beautiful women around everywhere and it drives us mental. If you see a bunch of guys just driving around in your town in the summer its because underneath their excuse of 'its a nice day for a drive' they're just looking to see girls in skirts. Its just how our brains work. We wouldn't know what to do with you but we do enjoy the excitement. You make us bark, chase our tails and jump up and down but that is when the dog metaphors end though as we don't wet ourselves in the excitement.

I tried so hard for many years to be one of those restrained nice guys you always see 'get the girl' in the romantic comedies. But those films are never an accurate portrayal of how much a nice guy masturbates over all his missed opportunities because he traded in being alpha male for being a gentleman. 'Something about Mary' must have been the closest representation to reality that is of course because it is the only film I can think of off the top of my head that has a masturbation scene in it.

In short - if you're uncomfortable with being stared at because your vagina is 2 inches from sun light then I'd suggest wearing a more traditional skirt. If you're unsure on what to wear to cover up ask your Dad for some advice.

[prepster25]

okay okay. here's what it is. I'm sorry, but I'm going to be blunt. I KNOW that guys will check me out when I wear shorts or skirts just like how I check guys out at the gym. but here's the thing. I don't mind guys checking me out if he is either hot or cute. but I DO mind if that guy is either ugly, not around my age, or is jus HURT. see? blunt. but that's my opinion. its the same if lets say you were at the gym with your shirt off and this ugly fat girl is checking you out. and your thinking I'm shallow?

[miki94]

That's easy. Women want you to look at them. ANY woman is complimented if she gets the guys to look at her.

Now the fact that you might be overdoing it with the staring could make them uncomfortable but, the fact that you looked in the first place counts, and they will continue to wear it because of the "results" they got, even if that result isn't always comfortable. It's still complimenting.

[jdcpa]

Best answer..

[DIPEPDINGOLD]

Ok, yea...women we want to show off our body and usually we are comfortable as we put on a cute skintight dress or mini skirt-- because most of the time...our main goal is to look nice/feel good about our appearance and maybe attract a hot guy or two...BUT NOT...have OLD ass, UGLY ass mother fo's gawking at us. *I'm not reguarding this to you--so don't get offended* But it does come a bit uncomfortable when guys are just staring and staring and staring...at least say "Hi" or something. Its creepy...Its like if a guy gets dressed and ugly FAT girls are just staring at him---If you were that guy...you would feel uncomfortable also...

[tastingray]

Harsh. but thank you, in so many words you've expressed the awkwardness of being checked out for an unnessacary amount of extended time by old creepy farts who shouldn't be looking at you in the first place.

[GIntrovert]

You don't get to choose who looks at you or not, that's not how it works.

[DIPEPDINGOLD]

@glntrovert... I don't remember typing that--hmmm...maybe because I didn't. Yes, we all have eyes...and they are made for "looking" NOT staring. It gets creepy...just my opinion. Don't like it...close your eyes...that's all I can tell YOU. =)

[aiight]

My thoughts exactly.

[edgar334]

Try a new method of getting guys attention. lol I probably sound gay saying that. but I feel for the unattractive guys ( maybe myself when I used to be chunky) . but yea I never make it obvious when I look at woman. I am like a ninja :)

[DIPEPDINGOLD]

OK @edgar....I'm kind of confused but anyways...lol...there are many ways to get a guy or in your case a girls attention. It's 50% Appearence...40% Personality and 10% of something else...I guess...whatever

[masterofthegame]

I think the women are telling you enough . They are telling you to no do this so stop doing it. Eye contact is where it starts and for a women it's one of the most important things. So I would say instead of concentrating on her legs . Just look once at her and keep eye contact. Looking to her body to much gives wrong impression so the best is to keep eye contact and it is the safest to.

I noticed btw the best trick is to look and hold eye contact for 3 seconds after 3 seconds you should start to laugh or you will look like a creep or emotionless person. Oh and last thing after the 3 seconds the girl is most likely to laugh so it's a easy . And from there you go on . But remember don't look to her like a object but look to her face ;).

[Tamikaze]

No girl wants you staring at her or looking her up and down. Unfortunately girls get confused thinking that showing off their bodies will get guys interested in them as a potential date and girlfriend. Instead, it usually gets guys staring and drooling and making rude comments, and that is not exactly boyfriend material.

I personally tell girls that guys can figure out you have a hot bod without showing a lot of skin. I like dressing sexy but I have a boyfriend and I am in no need of toning it down so that I only attract sincere guys who want to get to know me, instead of my legs.

[Subotai]

You gotta admit girls who dress like that and don't want them staring are either dumb or enjoy being mean. Its hard not to look and you really can't get mad when guys you don't find attractive and aren't the target of these lures look too

[Tamikaze]

I will admit they are clueless to what it feels like to have a testosterone drive sex-drive. Girls are also fed a line of B.S. that says it's great to have as much male attention as you can get so they dress like hoochies with the misguided idea that more male attention means you will get a great boyfriend. Also, no one says you have to stare. Even I look at a what other women are wearing but I am not obvious. A casual glance should not cause a girl to get mad.

[OceanLover]

girls like to get the attention of guys that they're attracted to.. but what they don't realize is, they're also getting the attention of pretty much every creep around them.

and dude... don't stare. it's rude. you can look and admire but don't glare at them. that makes them uncomfortable.

[Anonymous]

revealing clothes are what is in style. if you go to any major store that young women shop at, you are gonna find mini skirts and short dresses and small shorts in the summer months. its very rare to find covered up clothes. and if its warm weather do you really expect us to wear sweat pants and jeans just so we don't get looked at? also if you are gawking at her or looking up her dress and being extreme about it you're in the wrong. you were probably crossing the line. a lot of guys check girls out but there are a few creeps that make you uncomfortable. we shouldnt have to wear burqas like we're in some muslim country just because we don't wanna deal with a pervert! have some respect its not like you want some random stranger staring holes into your legs

[Asker]

Yeah for sure revealing clothes is in style , its pretty sexy at the moment . although I'm not sure its revealing as a few years as when I was in college back in 2005-6 I remember a lot of low rise jeans that were revealing and mini shirts ( bare stomach area ) of a few years back as well

[kellylizzz]

I think it's stupid when girls wear stuff like that and are shocked when guys check them out. I wear sh*t like that all the time, just because I hate pants, but I know guys are going to look. That's fine, look all you want. I HATE when like, 65 year old men stop their feaking cars though, it creeps me out. I mainly dislike when older guys get really creepy about checking me out. Especially when they're driving. I swear to God, I hope one of them crashes someday because they're looking at jailbait rather than the road. But anyways, yeah, if you whenever I wear sIuttier clothing, I am not annoyed when guys look. It's my fault I'm putting it out there, and I enjoy showing off what I have. That's kind of bad , though, because then everyone thinks you're a whore. That's another topic entirely though...

[Naruto-Chan]

I don't really understand it either. And I'm a female... What I wear depends on my mood.. If I'm flirty I wear more revealing clothes, but most of the time, even if its really really hot like it tends to get where I live, I wear jeans, t shirts or long sleeve shirts and jackets.. Heh. I guess I'm not most girls. I don't care what's in style, and I hate it when they wear revealing clothes and yet blame guys for staring. It makes no sense. If they're uncomfortable with it, they should put clothes on, not jeans or anything, there are cool clothes that are not that revealing.

[m1988]

I don't have a problem showing off my legs cause I think they are my best feature =D and I like guys checking me out, sometimes though... they just give you this creepy perverted leer and it makes you wonder the sh*t they are thinking about you, a complete stranger. A nice little look up and down and smile is nice but when you get to that point it does make a person feel uncomfortable.

[voodoochild]

Damn right you have nice legs :p

[Meedo]

When you show your legs? what do you think guys are thinking about ? In fact what do you think guys ever are thinking about ?!!!! Guys will ''Automatically'' think about feeling them and touching them and sex. This is not creepy , it is biology!!!

[Rahim517]

Better get used to the idea that men are thinking 'those thoughts.' We're all thinking them, every second of our lives. How in the hell do you think these 6 billion people got here?

[HaleyJo]

Even as a girl, I see your thoughts on this. I've never understood girls getting offended or whatever when guys stare when you're showing a lot of skin. A little uncomfortable I can understand since most people don't like feeling like a spotlight is on them, but you can't complain when you're the one who put the spotlight on yourself in the first place. It's always been a peeve of mine when I hear a girl complaining about getting leered at when she's about to fall out of her shirt. As advice to you, try not to be as obvious about it. Wouldn't you get a little uncomfortable if someone was openly staring at you? Even if it was flattering it would still feel like you're under the microscope, wouldn't it? You're not doing anything wrong since anything appealing will draw the eye, just no gawking.^-^

[LEWnB]

Ha, I don't mind at all! I don't show my legs off in a skirt for nothing! I'm tall, and I have athletic, tanned, toned legs. Why not show them off!?!?!?!? I like to know that men think my legs are sexy, so I don't mind at all about being checked out! Now if they stare for a long period of time, it gets a little creepy, just a head turner or a slight up and down is nice. =]

[micgirl]

Well, I know that a guy is going to check you out no matter what you wear and if it shows a little skin then it is just an invitation for him to. But I wear clothes like skirts, shorts, and shirts because they are comfortable, cute, and makes me look cute. But sometimes I just wished guys weren't so obvious with their staring. I mean if ur going to look, I don't want to know that you are looking. It can make you uncomfortable at times.

[Anonymous]

Totally agree! I hate the girls who complain about guys looking at them all creepy. It's like hello I can see your vagina/ass hanging out of your skirt/shorts or I can partially see your nipple coming out of your shirt. Like you said... what did you expect?! Dress like a hoe and you will be stared at like one in my opinion lol. Girls like that are just dying for attention in the wrong ways.

[komar100]

I think that in the back of each girl's mind, she wants to be checked out and appreciated, but may feel uncomfortable with guys staring at her in a very obvious way. So subconsciously, a girl will put on a mini skirt to show off what she's got, but if you want to look , be covert about it

[Allena9119]

you idiott its because like You said

its SPRING TIME

and girls get warm

so they wear not revealing but more COMFORTABLE clothing

they aren't all pornstars

just wishing that a loser like you will come along to check them out

so they can sleep at night saying THANK GOD THAT LOSER CHECKED ME OUT

OR ME WEARING A SKIRT WOULDVE BEEN TOTALLY POINTLESS

its so they are more comfy

I don't wear anything but short shorts and I notice perverts like you all the time

bleh

and I only wear them because I surf everyday an long jeans are very comfy when ur still wet and sandy...

[clovisx]

Perverts like who, every person who can appreciate a woman's legs? That's a pretty broad brush to paint people with. I hope that you are more tolerant of people than that. I could see that response if someone was leering at you and wouldn't leave you alone, but if you're wearing short shorts or a short skirt, chances are normal people will look. They aren't being pervy just observant and appreciative of your form.

[darkknight1x]

You spelled idiot wrong.

[leasha13r]

maybe because we like the way the skirt looks on us bbefore we step outside but once out an everybody starts starin at you in a weird way you might think they're lookin at you cos you look likkea freak...sometimes we don't read guy signals very well! also if you jus stare at us an don't say anythin it get annoyin cose ur hot, you think I look hot so get on with it an speak to me! stop lookin at me as if I'm a piece of nice lookin meat!

[Happyfeet]

Girls like to show off there legs and don't mind if guys look, but however it makes us feel uncomfortable when ugly guys check us out. Then it becomes creepy and we wish we hadn't worn something so revealing at all. If it's a cute guy checking us out, he can look however long he wants. ^_^* That's my opinion.

[justme999]

Kind of bitchy, no?

[WeaponZero]

You do realize you can't just get one KIND of guy to look, right?

[Happyfeet]

Yeah I know that, I'm not stupid. I just answered the question.

Bitchy? maybe, but it's how I feel when I wear skirts.

[xBlossomx]

LOL.

[someonee]

Maybe they don't want to be checked out, it's probably just hot or humid. Or maybe they want to look good but don't want to be "perved". I may be speculating, but that's how I would feel, from my point of view:). Hopefully no girls are offended by you taking a peek at their legs in the future.

xoxo Someonee.