Did you ever wish you were born of a different race?

[Anonymous]

I wish I was born Asian, into an Asian family. My dad is white (American) and my mom is Mexican. I'm mix, I never liked American culture, I don't fit in with society here. I've never cared for sports or going to bars which I found most adult Americans enjoy. I don't and can't get along with my daughter's friends moms because they talk about drinking, which I don't resonate with. I found most rich Americans are greedy. I don't enjoy Mexican culture either, they too drink a lot. I don't think Mexican families have the best values in raising their kids, my mom compared me a lot to other girls growing up and didn't encourage me to do good in school. She didn't really teach me good things. Also, most Americans and Mexicans are either Christians or Catholics and this also never resonated with me. A few years ago, I went to a Buddhist Temple and it's as if I found what I was looking for my whole life. I began to learn about Asian culture, traditions and Buddhism. I like how much Asians value honor. I like how they stick together and parents raise their kids right. Asians help other Asians, they are not greedy like Americans. I feel depressed and I feel like if I had been born into an Asian family I would have been happier. I'm not saying there aren't negative aspects to being Asian or it's all positive, I know there's a balance of good and bad in all life but it seems to me like Asians have better values. Anyone else ever experience anything like this?

[KostasKouvalis]

No, that's never happened to be. Sometimes I wish I was born a different ethnicity or nationality, but not race. It sounds like you're more ashamed of your nationality then your race. You shouldn't be ashamed of your race. And you shouldn't have to play into cultural stereotypes and identity politics. You don't need to have yellow skin, slanted eyes or speak an Asian language to live like the way you described. Also, there are PLENTY of non-Asian people who are Buddhists.

It's funny how you criticize the Mexican side of your culture too, because ironically the least selfish people I've met in America were Mexicans. I do agree that White people in America are extremely greedy and self-centered and I don't like this either to be honest, but I couldn't see myself being another race. I'm often ashamed of my nationality and ethnicity, but I will never be ashamed of my race.

[Anonymous]

The reason Asians have a better standard of living is because they are slightly smarter than white people on average. White Americans are not allowed to be proud of themselves. We are living in a time where white people of today are being shamed of the things white people did in the past. People still can’t get over slavery of black people. We have tried reparations and affirmative action. Created black led sports. Created a lot of things but nothing will ever be good enough. If you were born into the 1950s, your experience would have been totally different. White people celebrated themselves, were very proud of themselves. Loved each other. Similar to Asians.
today, things are very different. Degeneracy has taken over. Our music mostly talks about drugs, gang violence, homicide, crime, etc as if it is cool. If you go to a white neighborhood, they aren’t listening to Taylor swift or rock music, they are listening to degenerate music that glorifies being a low IQ person.

[LazerBean]

No, I do not. Also as someone who is pretty deeply ingrained into the Asian immigrant community, seeing you say that they aren't "greedy like Americans" literally made me laugh.

[KostasKouvalis]

Yeah same, there's a TON of Asian people in my town as well. I've been surrounded by Asians my whole life. Maybe they help other Asians, but they sure as hell don't help other races. But even amongst eachother, I've noticed that only Hmong people help eachother. Apart from that, they are very individualistic, maybe even more so than Americans.

[LazerBean]

Indeed. The most kind, helpful Asians I have ever met were the ones who have embraced Western culture the most. Classism is still insanely ingrained into most Asian cultures. From what I hear, Asians who are extremely poor and still living in there native country tends to be very community minded and helpful to each other, but that is becoming more and more rare as their countries continue to modernize.

[KostasKouvalis]

Yeah, like the Hmong. But even with Hmongs, they had their own click. They may have been friendly with me at school, but when it came to outside of school, they only wanted friendships with other Hmongs.
Yeah, that's true.
I've also noticed a lot of Asian people are extremely entitled. They want high level positions without experience or without working their way up like everyone else. And despite the stereotypes you hear about them, from my personal experience, a lot of Asian people are very lazy and not good students at all. They feel they should finish college and someone should put them behind a computer in a fancy office. It doesn't work that way.

[LazerBean]

I see that to be more so true of Asians born in America rather than true Asian immigrants who came here as adults. I think a lot of the adults act entitled because being aggressive is extremely effective in getting what they want. But they do work like crazy for their goals. The whole lazy, bad student thing I've pretty much only seen in kids raised in America. And I think it is strongly encouraged by how our society praises people just for being a minority, so the kids get it into their head from a young age that they deserve more.

[KostasKouvalis]

Yeah, I was mainly talking about Asians born in the America to immigrant parents. Or Asians who have immigrated here. Because there were 3 Myanmar guys in my college who were the same. I won't deny that Asians in America and different than Asians in Asia.
As for old people, old people everywhere seem entitled. A lot of old Asians have a very nasty and assertive attitude, and with some it has carried over when they immigrated.
Asians born in Asia do. My co=worker's dad works in the same company. Been there for over 20 years. He immigrated from Laos and started at the bottom knowing he has to work his way up. His son on the other hand was born here. Our company was the first job he's ever worked at and he only got it because of his dad. Some how, he was already driving a fancy car and wanted to be promoted to an office position after just 3 days of being there. He was frequently slacking off and complaining and they eventually ended up letting him go.

[Guy13]

I have not wished to be any other than created as.

[gorydetails]

How dumb do you have to be to stereotype a country of 350,000,000 people?

[Alchemizt]

Yup I have wished ever since I was a child.

[BeMuse]

Nope.

[briigantexx]

Where in Asia would you like to be from?

[SmokinAces2000]

Nope

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Not one bit.