Do your habits align with your identity?

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

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+1 y

I am reading Atomic Habits.

I read that instead of making changes in your identity, and then gradually in the outcome you want, many people focus on the outcome first, and then when it comes to identity modifications, contrasting beliefs collide and mental wars begin.

[DizzyDesii]

I think some people are surprised that I’m celibate/abstinent outside of a relationship since I dont mind expressing myself openly when it comes to sexual topics. Not only am I not promiscuous nor into hookups, but I also dont smoke, drink, nor party. I don’t even masturbate because I rather someone else touch me there

[DizzyDesii]

But I definitely watch porn though 🤣 And I’m slick a freaknasty mf when in a relationship. I think i look innocent in person so people wouldn't expect that unless they were some of the ones to catch me bangin around town

[menina]

I would say yes. There are things that I will never do because they're not part of my identity or personality.

[NathanDavis]

I've aligned them to perfection... because of my OCD tendencies/fixations

[OlderAndWiser]

Very much so, indeed!

[OlderAndWiser]

RESPONSE TO UPDATE: There is an expression among psychologists, especially behavioral psychologists, that it is easier to act yourself into a new way of feeling than it is to feel yourself into a new way of acting.

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

Got it after 3 to 4 repetitions. But yes, got it.

[virtual_girl]

The only way to perceive change is to change your perspective

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

Perfectly written.

[SnowedIn]

Very much so, yes.

[Justneedtokno]

Nope all the time I surprise myself

[OddBeMe]

Never thought of my identity as lazy, but ok.