Why do some people feel harrassed but others say you're not being harrassed?

[Anonymous]

Now I don't know if how I feel is the extremity of the situation.

I usually feel pressured, micromanaged, doubted, rushed, like they don't trust me... and gaslighted, bullied and mocked

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you need to learn to stand up for yourself

[Asker]

I do. And I did. I'm going to the government and getting a lawyer now
It's come to that. That you for saying that. I thought I was maybe over reacting as my own mother says I'm not getting harrassed

[Asker]

Thank you*!!!

[Opinion Owner]

Wow, ok. Good for you. Go get en!

[Opinion Owner]

I kind of meant putting people in their place when they start doing those things, before it gets to the point of needing a lawyer, but that works too.
I don't know what you're going through, so I can't judge

[Asker]

I tried to reassure them I know my job.
But time time again if I struggle then they intervene stressing me out even more. My supervisor bombed me with 30+ texts within 45 min... doubting my work while working lol. She has no confidence I can do my job. And sometimes I get foggy when over whelmed I have to learn to place people on hold. I have a recording of her not telling me what I consistently do wrong as she makes it seem I'm horrible at my job when people literally praise me everyday for fixing their issues. I don't know I thought I was doing great but she makes me feel otherwise. It's un fair. I'm 7 months pregnant too so she threatens me aswell about not doing good at my job stressing me out as I need income for my kid. I Fix others mistakes. Nothing is good for her when I make 1 mistake

[Opinion Owner]

Have you tried going above her head? Like to her boss?
I do that sometimes, I usually gets them I line.
Keep climbing the ladder until someone with some authority helps you out
Just do it in a nice way or they'll turn you away too

[Asker]

Yes! The boss said she will reach out to my sup to make the 2:1 meeting so we can all be on the same page.. guess what she never did. As it showed me I know my job well. She's yet to make that meeting. That was officially 2 weeks ago. Just more and more evidence for me to build up. I already have: harrasment, discrimination, bullying, hostile work environment, gaslighting

[Asker]

I'm always nice and kind. I'll also fight for my job only for my unborn. Thinking fo taking the supervisors position.

[Opinion Owner]

It sounds like you're doing everything right. I'm sorry you're going through that, but I bet you'll come out ahead
You're gonna be an amazing mother

[Asker]

🥹🥺 that is very kind of you. Thank you

[Opinion Owner]

No problem, but it's not a compliment, just a fact

[Asker]

🥹 stop it. 💙

[Opinion Owner]

Lol..

[Stevefiveo]

They are your feelings. No one else can tell you how to feel.

[Asker]

I appreciate you

[Stevefiveo]

Thanks. The people that listen to you are your friends. Get rid of the other people.

[Asker]

Damn man. You are friend for telling me that. Stay blessed

[Stevefiveo]

Welcome. Feel free to pm me.

[OddBeMe]

I guess perspective…some bosses and clients do that shit and think it’s ok. It much to do accept quit.

[In_Trance]

perception