In my almost 40 years of life, I've noticed that people FEEL GOOD being rejecting others?

[TenderFantasy]

Not only are they selfish but yeah.

Anyone know why? I certainly don't feel good doing that. Also, I've noticed that a lot of people are sheep. They do what is popular because it is popular! Without even questioning for themselves whether it is something that will benefit them or not, if it is popular, whether it is good for them, or not, they do it a lot of times.

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Rejecting others I mean.

[exitseven]

I suppose it is way better to be the dumper than to be the dumpee.

[TenderFantasy]

Wow, I guess a lot of people don't have guilt complexes or empathy!

[exitseven]

@TenderFantasy I dated somebody for 4 years. 3 of those years were long distance. I decided I did not want to go with her anymore and it took me about 4 months before I could call her late one Saturday night and break up with her. It was really hard for me to do it.

[TenderFantasy]

Well thanks for the infor :). I am not just talking about romantic rejection by the way, but many other things in life.

[exitseven]

@TenderFantasy Well, I had hired many people to work in my department over the years. I never enjoyed rejecting anyone except this one kid that was a real smartass and he had a ponytail. He had an impressive resume but I just did not like his attitude. He was friends with one of the VPs too so he thought he had a lock on it. I felt pretty good rejecting him.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO😎

[Spade_01]

Ego boost. It plays deeper in people's live than they imagine.

[TenderFantasy]

I agree.

I wonder though how they would feel if they died and God asked them in purgatory/limbo if they were ever MEAN to some people and he played out the videos of people that they hurt like a fly on the wall and see how much crying and/or suffering they caused that person. How much HURT they caused that person! I mean, yeah, at the end of the day, one could say that you shouldn't GIVE that much power to people and that you control your feelings towards a situation, but not a lot will know that, or it is definitely easier said than done! Also, what if it was a child that got hurt? ! I mean I guess, child on child violence or MEANNESS is a bit more forgivable? ! Especially if it's another child bullying or hurting the other child because they don't know any better, but still...

Also, what if the SHOE was on the other foot? ! I mean, okay, maybe I am being a little sensitive with this because I am starting out in sales. I got my life agent license recently because I joined my parents in their little insurance business, but rejections can STILL hurt! Sometimes, it's even done on purpose I was thinking back then that it was hard for me not to take the rejections personally because well yeah, maybe they just didn't like me? Or didn't want me to succeed? ! I know I probably shouldn't have taken the rejections personally but yeah, I like said, it was still hard not to at times.

.. Or yeah, romantic rejection like some people were saying, especially in your younger years. Either that, or rejection in ANY form in your younger years..

[Spade_01]

God fearing people won't even do such immoralities. But then again, there are people who no matter how rightly guided, give into bias, temptations and urges to hurt other people, including children.

It's a simple moralistic rule to not lead anyone into false hopes. But people often do that to cater to their own ego and get attention this way by making others feel attached to them.

[midnightmoon05]

Most don’t go around rejecting others with the intention of hurting them…Those who do behave that way will never be around my circle of people.
Surround yourself with kind hearted people, you will have a more optimistic outlook in life.

[TenderFantasy]

❤ ..

[heyuas]

not everyone is like this. It doesn’t make me feel good rejecting men who ask me to date them.

[Dargil]

ultimately their own rejection will be their own reward.

[eagle1951]

interesting