How come people complain when a older man is dating a 20 year old woman but wouldn't complain if that 20 year old had an onlyfans?

[Chthou95]

She could start an onlyfans at 18 and a lot of people especially women will say "You go girl" "Make that money queen" "You do you boo" etc. But when the same people hear she's dating a 40 year old, They now are offended. They call it predatory, disgusting, pedo blah blah blah. Why do they hold morals for one but don't have any for the other when it comes to soliciting themselves on the internet? Mind you a bunch of men that are probably way older than her buy her stuff online

[NaultD]

Power dynamics.

It's the same as a 60 year old man at a bar talking to you and says "all your legal debt problems will go away if you stay the night with me."

https://www.youtube.com/embed/uDx4sqUkl-I

Yes this is predatory. This is more python suffocating trap.

I'm not saying only fans isn't predatory but individual accounts operate as independent agents with their own autonomy. Being relevant and top level of onlyfans is predatory but it's the individual is still an autonomous agent. This is more of a spider web trap

[NaultD]

Both are horrible but one is greaseir

[NaultD]

The other is a famous poem.

"Will you walk into my parlour?" said the Spider to the Fly,
"'Tis the prettiest little parlour that ever you did spy;
The way into my parlour is up a winding stair,
And I have many curious things to shew when you are there."
"Oh no, no," said the little Fly, "to ask me is in vain,
For who goes up your winding stair can ne'er come down again.

"I'm sure you must be weary, dear, with soaring up so high;
Will you rest upon my little bed?" said the Spider to the Fly.
"There are pretty curtains drawn around; the sheets are fine and thin,
And if you like to rest awhile, I'll snugly tuck you in!"
"Oh no, no," said the little Fly, "for I've often heard it said,
They never, never wake again, who sleep upon your bed!"

Said the cunning Spider to the Fly, "Dear friend what can I do,
To prove the warm affection I've always felt for you?
I have within my pantry, good store of all that's nice;
I'm sure you're very welcome–will you please to take a slice?"
"Oh no, no," said the little Fly, "kind sir, that cannot be,
I've heard what's in your pantry, and I do not wish to see!"

"Sweet creature!" said the Spider, "you're witty and you're wise,
How handsome are your gauzy wings, how brilliant are your eyes!
I've a little looking-glass upon my parlour shelf,
If you'll step in one moment, dear, you shall behold yourself."
"I thank you, gentle sir," she said, "for what you're pleased to say,
And bidding you good morning now, I'll call another day."

The Spider turned him round about, and went into his den,
For well he knew the silly Fly would soon come back again:
So he wove a subtle web, in a little corner sly,
And set his table ready, to dine upon the Fly.
Then he came out to his door again, and merrily did sing,
"Come hither, hither, pretty Fly, with the pearl and silver wing;
Your robes are green and purple–there's a crest upon your head;
Your eyes are like the diamond bright, but mine are dull as lead!"

Alas, alas! how very soon this silly little Fly,

[disgustingweebtrash]

Because women are children even when they reach 18 apparently, if a man was to be deceived by an older woman it's on him but women are never accountable for making poor decisions.

[EricSummer]

The difference is between looking and staring on the one hand but touching and fucking on the other hand.

These are very different activities and I can understand that some people could hold different views on the one compared to the other when performed by an old guy with a young woman.

In addition, one is commercial and the other is not, but this does not make a significant difference for those people.

[Dkc123]

If they both are above 18 then fu*k the people fu*k the world.

[BarryLiverstone]

It’s about safety.

[Chthou95]

Safety should apply for the older man too.

[BarryLiverstone]

It does. Older men can pay OF girls and feel safe

[Chthou95]

Every relationship should be about safety if we're going down this route. You take the chance though

[BarryLiverstone]

But so many relationships are not focused on safety. There is a usually an uneven power dynamic with a 20 year age gap in a relationship and the fact the older man can have power over her suggests insecurity. This is one reason this type of relationship is shamed by some.

[Chthou95]

Why do we assume he's the one in power? Young women could chasing after older men. She could get power over him getting what she wants. But its never the woman who's old enough to make choices for herself. Its always the man

[BarryLiverstone]

As I said generally speaking the older person has a fully developed brain, he’s got more resources, a more stable career. Those are reasons he can have power over an 18 year old child who is still growing and finding a place in the world. She is more vulnerable

[Chthou95]

Then women are 20 should not be allowed to do other things. 20 year old woman should not be able to join the military, should not be able to move out of their parents house, should not be able to buy a firearm (some states 18), should not be on Onlyfans and should not be outside after 12am curfew. This has to apply for other things and not just dating since they're not old enough to make decisions on their own

[Chthou95]

Who*

[BarryLiverstone]

The law says at 18 people are adults and can serve in the military.

[Chthou95]

They shouldn't though. Their brains are not mentally developed yet. They also should move out of their parent's house

[BarryLiverstone]

True according to science the brain isn’t fully developed until around 25

[Chthou95]

That's why. 18 year olds shouldn't join the military nor move out yet. They're not fully developed until 25

[BarryLiverstone]

The military doesn’t need fully developed adults at the bottom levels, they have higher ups to instruct and direct privates. Much like many business organic suits have management to lead workers. Much like parents lead their kids.

You don’t have to be fully developed at 18 to carry a weapon and take orders

[Chthou95]

And that 18 year that joins the military can get ptsd and other mental health problems but they're grown adults and know what they'll be getting themselves into. They're old enough to do a lot of things except date and have sex with who they want

[BarryLiverstone]

Certainly an 18 year old is legally allowed to date any adult. But would you want your 18 year old dating someone 20 years older? Not me

[Chthou95]

I wouldn't care. She's 18 and as long the man isn't a criminal or a serial killer, she could date him.

[BarryLiverstone]

You wouldn’t know if he’s a killer , wouldn’t know if he’s been to jail.

[Chthou95]

That would be the same if she was dating a 20 year old man. Its not that hard to figure out what kind of man shed be dating

[BarryLiverstone]

You got my answer. It’s safety and the people who say that are fearful the young girl will be taken advantage of. Peace bro

[Chthou95]

Lol we're gonna have to agree to disagree here man. Later

[BarryLiverstone]

Yep, thanks for the discussion. Hope I helped to answer your inquiry.