At the moment I feel morally ill, what do you do in this kind of situation to help you get back on track?

[Julie4]

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My poor English didn't allow me to be clear. I'm not depressed, but I wanted to say that I'm morally tired, and I wanted to know how, at times like these, you manage to regain your energy and moral strength.

[nightdrot]

First, I am relieved to hear that you are at least not depressed. Please take care of yourself. It is a funny thing, we only know each other through this site, but I think very well of you and insofar as it is possible in such a format, I consider you a friend and I and my family wish nothing but the best for you.

As far as what you are asking, however, I remain unclear. "Morally ill?" I am not sure what that means. In an emotional/psychological context it would suggest depression. Yet you have already said that is not the case.

In a philosophical/moral context, it implies - or seems to - that you have grown tired of being moral. Since I rather doubt that is what you meant, I am left to guess.

To that end, I am guessing that you mean that you grow weary of thinking about problems and ideas. To be sure, that can happen. Life can be a serious business and it can be exhausting wrestling with the questions that you face both personally and on a larger scale.

To the personal level, as someone once said, "The unexamined life is not worth living." What makes us distinct from all other life on this planet - and the material universe so far as we are aware - is that we are self-aware. That can be exhausting, but it is also an incredible gift. It makes your life matter because what you do and don't do matters. It impacts not just yourself, but also makes you a model for others.

Let me just add on a personal note, you have had that impact on me. I admired your love of country and culture and yet you balance that with an understanding of others and a curiosity about the world around you. You are intelligent, have definite views, and yet express them courteously and, as appropriate, with a spirit of inquiry and every now and then a touch of wit.

That makes you not just thoughtful, but a person to be admired.

Yet that is you being you. Best to recall you need not live life so seriously. As the old song goes, "life's simple pleasures are the best" and there is nothing wrong with simply going about life just being you. Recognizing that being you implies that you want others to treat you fairly and this obliges you to do the same.

Yet that is not a burden, that is simply the balance of life. It is how we conduct ourselves because we want others to conduct themselves that way. To borrow a line from the Bible - "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you."

So, the object of the game for you is to recognize that you are - as all around you are - an imperfect person. So it goes, but life is not so serious that you must be burdened by that fact. Rather, understand that you share the world with other imperfect beings. That day to day you will have your ups and your downs but that, on the whole, the game is to strive for excellence.

For my part, I strive for excellence but keeping an intense interest in politics, philosophy and history. By having interesting discussions with others - which is what brought me to this site, interestingly, and the chance to "meet," in an electronic sort of way, people like you. By cherishing what I have been given. Also, and this will not be popular always in this day and age, by keeping my religious faith in my life. Not in a preachy sort of way, but in understanding what my faith teaches and how that mixes in with history, philosophy and daily life.

Put it all together, balance intense interest with a recognition that life is not so serious that we must always face it with gritted teeth and throw in a sense of humor - and I am Soooooooo funny - and you will find that life is good. That does not mean you will not grow weary from time to time, but on the whole you will find that in the ebb and flow of life, you will just get back on the horse. Especially, stay interested in the things that interest you and every now and then just kick back and relax.

Strike that balance, and you will be fine. Here is wishing you well and if it helps, know that you have some American friends over here who think of you, admire you and wish you nothing but the best.

Hope that helps.

[Julie4]

Oh you're so nice to me you and your family, you're going to make me cry 🥺

Thank you so much for this long text , I have to say that it is in relation to my friend who has cancer, is that I feel helpless, I can do nothing and I have to accept the idea that soon he will be dead. As was the case for my grandmother two years ago. plus other things.

so I admit that sometimes I feel morally tired, I just need a boost of energy. I'm more of a happy person, so this downturn doesn't usually last long. But it's true that this event makes me a little more exhausted.

But to be honest, I'm a bit ashamed to have asked that question. Modesty should have prevented me from talking about it. Because in reality, everyone faces their own difficulties.

I'm not complaining, I know that with renewed energy I'll be fine. I already feel a bit better than yesterday...

Anyway I thank you and your family for your kindness and it's an honor for me to be able to talk with someone like you.

[nightdrot]

First, there is nothing wrong with expressing your feelings and you have no need to apologize. Typically what you are discussing is not the kind of thing I talk about publicly as I am a rather private person. However, sites like this one can also be a format for venting and getting advice and as long as you are comfortable doing it - and as long as you are not violating the privacy of others - there is nothing to apologize for.

Water seeks its' own level and you do what you are comfortable with. Subject, of course, to good manners and the appropriateness of the context.

As far as things getting you down. Believe me, I get it. A former colleague of mine just lost his wife to cancer. My oldest godson's parents are both - his dad was a college roommate - experiencing serious health issues. (His mom, breast cancer. His dad, potential cancer.) My sister-in-law just got a pacemaker and my mother is experiencing the impacts of old age.

It never rains but it pours, as the old saw has it. My suggestion is just to roll with the punches. If you have a religious faith - I am a practicing Catholic - you can seek consolation there - and also in the company of family and friends.

Also know that all this too shall pass. The road goes up and down and will go up again. So be patient, hang in there and know that you have people that care for you, wish you well and hope - as perhaps it already has - the tide will urn.

Again, know that we on this side of the Pond are thinking of you - and yes, even praying for you.

[Julie4]

Yes, you're absolutely right. I am truly sorry for everything that is happening to your loved ones. As for breast cancer, my niece had it when she was young, and they managed to cure it.

Maybe if your goddaughter's mother's cancer was caught early enough, there's great hope of a cure, and even though I'm not a religious person, I'm going to say a prayer for all your loved ones.

I sincerely hope that things can improve for them.

Oh yes, this site allows you to take your mind off things.

I hope you and your family are well, take care 😊❤️

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

Each day is a chance to be reborn. You can divorce your past self from your present self. Learn from the past self but you don't have to look at it like your present self must repeat the misdeeds and vices of your past self. This doesn't have to be who you are, just who you were.

[LaurenM1997]

What I do is meditate and I also go for walks and also talk to people about what’s bothering me

[IslaTheWitch]

hard to say because it depends on the reason you feel this way...

[NamerOfStars]

Clear your head with some unambiguously good action; do a shift or two volunteering somewhere. Then pause and reflect on what you've done, and why, and whether it was bad, and what you could do better.

[Joshydavid25]

Get away from the act that's making you feel that way.. Bow to never look back on it, and continue to try to do better in the future.. Forgive yourself.. This is a bit vague..

[OtterMan68]

If you're Catholic: confession.

If you're not, but a spiritual person, consult a priest/pastor/rabbi/iman...

If you're not a spiritual person, then search your feelings to see why you're morally ill, and what made you feel that way

[RavVid]

If I have done what I consider to be wrong I contemplate why I did it.

[RavVid]

Understand better now. For myself, occasionally I will lose interest in topics I am normally highly interested in and it is a dreary period. Is it more morale-wise than moral-wise for you?

To a fair degree, I just have to go through not interested periods. Typically I might desultory browse Youtube and something does catch my interest, then I am off and away again.

[laly520]

take break n focus on urself

u will find the way back

[Staximus]

Figure out what is making you feel that way and make changes. Be good to people who treat you well and be good to yourself

[KostasKouvalis]

You'll have to elaborate. Why do you feel that way?

[Still-alive]

not sure what that means. like you're depressed?

[NathanDavis]

I take morality pills

[NathanDavis]

the opium of the people...

[RebelinSteel]

Why morally ill?

[jahaims]

What do you mean by morally ill

[msc545]

What caused you to feel morally ill?