How accessible are you to people? Do you just allow people freely into your life or do you have your walls up?

[Pinay_ako]

[WillL89]

I use to have walls because of my anxiety, but I have learn to deal with it and I have become more accessible.

[SunnyRS]

I don't think I am that accessible now, though I was earlier

[Pinay_ako]

What changed you?

[SunnyRS]

Many things, like loss of loved ones, heart breaks, experience that all led to a fear of getting attached to someone creating invisible walls.

[SunnyRS]

Thanks for the MHO

[Pinay_ako]

You’re welcome

[Lynx122]

I let everyone in at the start but my gut and my brain are always alert and observing people. People are the most dangerous thing we have to deal with in our lives so I'm definitely careful. But I think I'm very good at finding good people and avoiding bad people. I'm extra sensitive to it or something I don't know. And I'm also not afraid to cut people out of my life if they're bad for me. That's also important. If you can't follow through, then your instincts aren't that helpful.

But I'm still getting better at socialising every day. I have a basic system that served me well but I'm making it a bit more complex and fine tuning it. The better my social skills get the more I can handle different people and different situations that I couldn't before. So there's less reasons to break off contact with someone but we always have to stay alert anyway :).

[Pinay_ako]

Same. Once I feel the energy isn’t right. I just cut people out of my life. No second chances

[DishLady]

It depends. If I get the wrong vibe from someone I shut things down quickly, but that’s not a regular occurrence. I also don’t remain “open” to those who have shown that they can’t be trusted. Outside of that… I’m pretty social and chat with almost everyone because I find almosg everyone I meet to be really complex and interesting.

[andreasderjuengere]

''Love thy neighbour''

However: I have some trap doors around me - just in case that someone has silly ideas.

[Pinay_ako]

Smart

[beebella]

It's hard for me to want to get close to most people. I think because I've never had a lifelong friendship and even my own family relationships are not really solid. I just don't know how to maintain my relationships with people, tbh.

[Juxtapose]

You contact them at least once a week and try to keep things interesting.

[Juxtapose]

It depends on how you treat me. The moment I sense some fucked up shit? The walls are going up.

[Pinay_ako]

Same..

[Juxtapose]

Wise choice. People who are chill remain chill pretty easily.

[Pinay_ako]

Yea. I don’t chase or force people to stay in my life. If you want to go, gtfo now. Show me I’m nothing, I’ll treat you like I never met you.

[genericname85]

i mean if you're an asshole i won't let you into my life xD

[Pinay_ako]

Lol yup. No assholes allowed

[BadApple69]

I am an open book and anyone is welcome to sit next to me and we can have story time. All are welcome 😊

[NathanDavis]

they're not walls... they're gates, and they're very nice and welcoming too (=

[mandyfire98]

On a surface level I'm very friendly and welcoming. On a deeper level I definitely have a wall up.

[DJB72]

I'm fairly open. I don't go out of my way to hide, but I can talk a lot without saying much in depth.

[skidawgkc22]

I try to be accessible, but it seems like something about me repels most people.

[Agape93]

My walls don't come down, I just lower ropes for some to climb over.

[dragoblack]

I'm like a strudy glass wall. People can see surface level, we can interact, but I'm able to walk away if need be.

[Darkest-Knight]

I have walls up. Very thick walls. In fact a wrecking ball probably couldn't knock them down. LOL!!

[Bman07]

Walls up tbh. Its hard for me to trust anyone anymore these days

[AviatorTom]

I'm very accesible

[DarkLegacy]

Im fairly accessible yes. But im careful

[Rangers]

Neither, nobody tries to get in, and that's fine

[Kelly6]

@Pinay_ako i allow freely

[Lottydotty]

I try to keep as many walls down as I can.

[RedInnocent69]

Very. To a fault, probably.

[OfDeath]

Walls

[nawtee_me]

What walls?

[eagle1951]

yeah i'm open