If you could press a button, how should the opposite gender act, behave, and treat the other gender? If you could across the board, have control over the opposite gender, what would your vision be for them? This can be adding things you like or removing things you think are flaws as well.
What is your "perfect" vision of the opposite gender?
In a perfect world men and women find it easier to communicate with each other. My perfect vision for the community is that the female cycle of hormons and periods are not seen anymore as weakness or something weird. While at the same guys are focused on building something for the community and keep each other in balance and focused on the common good. My theory is that guys react aggressively towards their spouse is in parts because they don´t have a place to live out their negative emotions. I would encourage guys to have more good friends in the good and the bad times. I would like to live in a world where men and women live life as team sport and not as one vs one combat. Meaning I´d like to live where women no longer feel the need to prove to guys that they can do the same as guy but rather use their ability for the common good.
I´d like to take tension out of dating because there is kind of a ditch between guys and women and to make it more fun for both. There´s something that stands between men and women and make dates feel more like job interviews. I´m not sure yet what that is.
The main thing I'd change is to put more of a focus on long term relationships and family. It doesn't have to be marriage a lot of guys don't want to get married anymore either And I don't want anybody to have kids who isn't sure that they want them but those that do should work towards it more. And at least putting priority of finding a long term partner should be a common thing. I think nature intended women to be more reasonable, careful, sincere and looking to the future when it comes to sex and relationships and a lot of that has been lost now with bith control and dating apps etc.
Aside from getting rid of blatant gender discrimination and r*pe, I don’t think I’d change anything else. I think our differences are what make us unique and there’s beauty in it. Some women like being treated a certain kind of way by their man, which others might find to be repulsive.
I only need and want genuine, and truly... first to themselves and then to me, that's better than "perfect" to me, because that is real
I would never ever want to be in control or dictate about how someone else should be themselves... I prefer GREATNESS, a great woman, and then, what I do like about them is... the funny, interesting and smart ones
and for these traits (interesting, funny and smart) there's a few different ways to be that too, they're not all the same nor are these things the same way, and I love that fact too
now, flaws... things I like or dislike, I don't see them as "gender" issues... there's people's issues and that's it
I don't really need to waste time idealizing and envisioning "perfection" when I've known and can see greatness in many ways and in few people out there...
Well to be fair this can apply to both genders but i keep running into chicks who are bad at communicating whats wrong. Or just simply stating what they like or don't like or what is making them uncomfortable and any given time. I want a woman who is always open and honest with me about all that. sometimes i do things completely unaware that it might cause the other person discomfort so thats when she should speak up and tell me. So communication is a must now for me.
Another thing (which again can be applied to both genders) is please take accountability when you mess up. i don't believe in the whole 'the woman is always right' mantra. you girls are human beings like the rest of us so yeah you are gonna mess up sometimes. just own up to it, apologize sincerely and do better. My ex was just terrible with this smh.
Everyone should be virtuous. If women are virtuous then they're going to be more feminine, and the virtue is going to have a distinctly feminine flavor. The same is true for men and the masculine. If people did that, virtually everything else would be solved
If you are talking about the action, I think it is very good and deeply tied to virtue. There is nothing shameful or gross about it. Like anything else, virtue still applies to it so you can use it well or poorly. But it is still inherently very good
I want the opposite gender to understand that both genders have strengths and weaknesses. They would acknowledge that we are different in ways and the same in others. I’d also hope to them to know that just because men do it, it doesn’t mean they should want to do it too. For example, having a high amount of sexual partners. It’s directly proportional to the risk of depression in women, and has no effect on men. With that said, I think the world would be a better place if both sexes had self control, restraint, and respect.
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A woman who respects and appreciates men, and behaves accordingly. More traditionally minded, values family and wants to be a mother more than anything. Values and embraces femininity. Kind, unselfish and nurturing. Affectionate and loving. Has a good sense of humor and doesn't get easily offended. Classy and modest but sexually hungry and open minded. Fit and active and loves the outdoors.
That would be my dream vision of a mate, and I wish all women were that way. I'm not holding my breath, but I can still dream.
Traditionally minded, open minded, modest but very sexual. A trad wife isn't open minded lol. It's a very narrow view actually. Conservative view is the opposite of being open to many things. Conservative is reserved.
If she's modest and not open minded then she's not gonna be a pornstar in bed. How do you think people get better at sex? It's be having more of it. It's by experience. The Virgin can't be the pornstar. That's not how it works.
Thanks for the follow up. I appreciate your thoughtful response. I’ll preface my comments by saying that by “traditionally minded” I’m referring to a woman’s attitudes and views on family, marriage and sex, among other things, but I urge you to set aside your biases about what that means. Please delete those stereotypes from your mind for a minute or two. I’ll bust one of them now…not all conservative people are religious, so delete that one as well. Let’s break this down.
Traditionally minded, open minded, modest but very sexual. A trad wife isn't open minded lol. – Open minded here refers to attitudes about sexuality within the bounds of marriage. There is no contradiction in what I wrote if you understand what I was referring to. Conservative wives can be sexual animals.
It's a very narrow view actually. – There is nothing narrow minded about taking care of family and raising confident, well-adjusted children with better morals than the vast majority of daycare-raise children today. Our society needs that “narrow minded” view today more than ever.
Conservative view is the opposite of being open to many things. Conservative is reserved. – I’m not sure you understand what conservative means. “Conservative” is only “reserved” in relation to liberal ideologies. I challenge you to try to prove me wrong here.
If she's modest and not open minded then she's not gonna be a pornstar in bed. – You could not be more wrong. Modest here refers to how a woman behaves, presents herself and dresses in public and social interactions, which has absolutely nothing to do with how she relates romantically and sexually with her husband, what she does in bed with him, and how she behaves in their bedroom. It is you who has the narrow-minded view here.
How do you think people get better at sex? It's by having more of it. It's by experience. The Virgin can't be the pornstar. That's not how it works. - I wasn’t referring to how a woman behaves before marriage. It’s her personality, values, character, and attitudes toward men, relationships and sex that matter, not what she has done in bed before. Very different things. Being a good lover does NOT require years of “practice”; it just means being open minded, willing and sexually hungry.
Your question was about what men and women view as the "perfect" vision of the opposite gender. I gave you mine, and I can tell you such women exist because I know some, and I know men who are married to them. Any “contradictions” you read into what I wrote were due to your own biases and misconceptions.
Every conservative person I know is very religious. Every conservative person I know is definitely not open minded at all. Most conservative people I know are actually pretty puritanical when it comes to sex. Traditional means the old ways of doing something, the opposite of anything new. This includes sex. That's not very open minded if you aren't open to new things or ideas. That's what traditional means.
Most traditional, conservative people I know are very vanilla overall really. Not just from a sexual point of view.
This is only my personal experience in life though. Maybe you run with a different conservative traditional crowd that isn't traditional at all really. 🤷♀️
I'm glad you recognize your (mis) perceptions are based solely on your own personal experience. A lot of conservatives are religious, but I know a lot or conservative people who are atheist or agnostic, myself and my family (and many friends) included. It's convenient for liberals to paint the picture that all conservatives are religious because it supports their rhetoric and their agenda. But it's a false narrative. Conservative versus liberal is about philosophies that have nothing to do with religion (even though religious people like to take credit for them).
It sounds like you've lived in a bit of a bubble and fed your mind only with liberal text books. Your definition of "conservative" is a very naive and simple minded view of a lot of very complex subjects. Conservatives are not against change; they are against negative change. They are against things like destroying the nuclear family, which is objectively a bad idea for western society. It doesn't take a religious person to see that. It doesn't take a religious person to recognize that letting children decide they want to be the opposite sex from what they were born when they are 12 years old. The same is true for many of the ideological issues that divide liberally minded people from conservative minded people.
And your statement about conservative people being very vanilla, sexually or otherwise, is absurd. No offense, but that was really ignorant.
So conservatives aren't vanilla? So you yourself would have no issues with something like a threesome? That wouldn't bother you at all? If your wife told you out of the blue that before she met you she'd been with women and also had threesomes with other guys. What would be your view on that? Because being open minded and all. Most conservatives absolutely would vilify that behavior when it comes to sex.
I have no problem with people having threesomes if that interests them. Seems like a pretty desperate (and immature) attempt on your part prove me wrong though.
Looks wise. Probably simple down to earth. Naturally beautiful without the need for too much make up, natural tits. But personality wise.. chill, down to earth, like the girl next door, but a slut just to me behind closed doors. And refuses to wear thongs because it isn’t comfy.
In the ideal world for me I would want all them to be 'One of the boys' this can maybe be seen from negative light perhaps from a woman's view to another girl, but there is a reason why us guys like them and I ain't gonna lie saying I don't like that.
Except maybe make them equally horny as men... That will either result in instant world peace or instant collapse of the world! But we will have a blast at the start!
I don’t have a perfect vision, but for me the most important trait to be there in a woman is caring because she is the mother, the sister, the wife, the girlfriend who can bear with us as men
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