How do you present yourself as a new person around people or do you just have to get new people?

[Anonymous]

I’ve had to push close people away. During then I did some healing ❤️‍🩹 and soul searching and found out they were unconsciously keeping me as a smaller person, needing them for any and every thing. I felt so pathetic around all of them and for the others, I feel I’ve grown beyond them and they too dragged me down.
Now they’re comfortably at a distance I am content with where im not feeling small and dragged down. But I am still doing lots of inner soul work to manage and understand my triggers so I can move forward and make a new chance in life.
However, I’m unable to find others doing this too, which is unfortunate because it’s a very freeing feeling and I’m no longer suffocated by people I should genuinely feel good around and I be curious to find others.

I think I need new people instead, if the people I pushed away have reached their full potential which overall drag me down.

[ohsheeT]

Well you know that old saying you are who you hang with so you pick people to play with that has a lifestyle the attitude and everything that you might want

But that doesn't mean that it's always going to work

What you have to remember is that drama judgment ignorance with people.
They will all hold you back

Take even some more time be by yourself and think don't have the TV on don't have the radio on just let the air and think things will come to you

Also remember when you were born you were given a gift that gift is choice we all get to choose who we want to be in life by the things that we say and do

we say and do not other people

Look everyday in life we grow I don't care who you are we don't stay the same we're growing each and every day when we learn something new when we do something great good when we do something bad we beat ourselves up

But what I feel is you need to find yourself you need to believe in yourself and have that confidence remember there's nobody figure better than you at all nobody we are all equal no matter what I don't care if you have somebody has more money somebody smarter somebody's whatever we are all equal so don't allow your brain to say anything different

And even though the people that you're hanging with if they treat you small you have to understand you're not small who gives a f*** you are you and you have to put that in your mind and keep it there you have strength and wisdom that other people don't have that doesn't mean that you're better than or worse than them you have to have the confidence to understand who you are on the inside

This is a part of destiny right here
Become one with yourself one with others and one with this universe

That means love yourself be the best you can possibly be with no negative thoughts whatsoever negative thoughts or drama drama hold you back and you waste all that time thinking about it or dealing with it when you could be going forward
No matter what each and every day you need to be the best version of yourself that you can possibly be positive

become one with others. That means love others help them if they need help teach them if they need to be taught guide them if they need to find a way that's the way the world's supposed to be we're supposed to be here for each other because we are all a part of each other

And become one with the universe the universe is God everything on this planet is Cherry you're sitting in the car that you drive the shoes you walk in it doesn't matter it's the fabric of the universe it is all meant to be one we are all meant to be one. That is our goal in life to get to that other side but we have to be the best we possibly can be and we can't be that person if we are listening to negativity in our head our heart our friends you have to say sorry I can't hang out with you no more if that's who you're going to be cuz I'm not going that direction I'm going this direction

You got to look at things like this
No matter what you're doing each and every day
There are two sides to it
Good bad. Right wrong yes no hello goodbye positive negative love hate beautiful ugly everything there's two sides to everything which side do you want to live on the god devil side there's two sides right there everything we do there's two sides to it all the negative stuff is going to hold you down make you feel little

Now here's the thing about that though when it happens there's a message there for you to learn something it's nothing bad about how people treat you or anything like that it's how you perceive it

When we fall down it's not about us falling down it's about how we get back up and continue going forward that's what it's all about that's what that lessons all about

Failure success you cannot have success without failure failure is success

So when people are talking to you and you're listening to them and you're believing what they're saying that right there that's either yes no hello goodbye father's name that's your choice to pick which one you want to perceive because you are the only person in your body you're the only person in your mind that can make you feel happy or sad good or bad right or wrong yes or no see what I mean.

Don't get caught up in yourself just because somebody says something to you let it go that's whatever anytime anybody says something to you that's on them because they said it it's not on you it has nothing to do with you only if you start to believe in what they said then it does if you let it go and say I don't believe that this is what I believe I love myself I'm happy and I'm going forward I want to meet new people I want this I want that and remember this too we are our thoughts that's why I say you have to stay positive because we are our thoughts if you think negative all the time that's what's going to happen our thoughts happen to us each and every day so only think positive things if somebody tries to put something negative in your head it's your choice if you're going to accept it or not just let it go be happy know who you are be kind have a beautiful heart know where you're going understand where you've been because that will get you to where you're going faster and don't let anybody in this world I don't care who it is tell you something that's going to make you feel down or little or whatever because once they say that to you it's only your choice if you believe it or not who cares what they think it's your thoughts to count don't let negative people in your life stay away from them and be happy

If you feel yourself getting in your head get out of it tell yourself no way I'm not going there today I don't have time for this go look at yourself in the mirror and say you are beautiful you are kind you are smart you're happy and smile that's you that's what it's all about



You got to stay in that frame of mind you can't go they said I'm little they said this they said that and then it just starts tweaking on your brain and that's what you start believing because you're in that moment for too long don't even go to that moment just as somebody says something like that go yep got you okay bye I got to go you don't need to listen to it you don't need to think about it stay in the positive world love yourself you can have it do anything you want to our thoughts we are our thoughts every single one of them will happen I guarantee it whatever you think will happen we are magical people we are energy and if you understand energy you will just start understanding everything you all come to you but it will only come to you if you're in a positive mood not a negative so stay that way no matter what stay in that realm in that that light stay away from negative crap that hold you back it's dark you can't see in the dark forget that

[molonski2]

Association is everything , and negatives will only bring you down , I think you are doing the right thing.

[DrPepper12]

YES!!! Good luck on this worthwhile journey!!