How much dark humor is too much?

[Apulu_backagain]

Usually I like dark humor and humor is the way I cope with depressive thoughts. For reference my first instinct was to smile when I learnt about the death of this really nice neighbour uncle but I was genuinely broken inside.

It was easy for me to make humorous comments on Diddy. The one that made me famous in high school was 'Diddy the diddler is gonna diddle you with his dil-". That is how I coped up with his case.

But I just can't cope up with Epstein case, literal children and babies were involved and though minors were involved in Diddy's case too, this case has me terrified for some reason. It could be me being hypocrite or too much WOKE.

What do you think?

[RandomGirl42]

I totally do this as well. I have to use humor to deal with everything 'cuz the alternative is then I'd just go around crying about everything and wouldn't that just make me fun at parties.

[Apulu_backagain]

I know right, sometimes I have to force myself to laugh at few things too so I don't look like a karen.

Like laughing at a islamophobic joke as someone who comes from muslim family. I appreciate religious jokes but not when I say no and they still continue. But then when I call them out I am suddenly too sensitive and defensive and they call me 'terrorist' with no taste of humor in their words.

And that whole situation is itself so absurd and funny because I personally am atheist.

people are tiring.

[RandomGirl42]

Yes. 😊

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

"We can laugh about anything, but not with everyone"

I believe in that limit, yet I believe that this limit is unsustainable since the 90s, since the Internet, since all of us have been brought together on gigantic platforms where we don't even see or know who the audience is.

[Apulu_backagain]

Well that makes it more scary now. In my country, a really great comedian known for his dark humor was arrested along with guests on his show because of questionable things one of the guests said.

The guest said, "Would you rather see your parents having sex everyday forever or do it with them once and not have to see them do it forever"

Personally I don't find it funny and internet found it controversial and it reached people who were clearly not okay with it and the comedian's show closed, there was raid in everyone's home and few were arrested and few ruined their career. I agree was statement was icky as hell but I don't believe it required so much drama following it up considering that there are rapists and murderers walking around us.

Internet has a bad side of overhyping unnecessary things and if you accidentally reach in wrong people's feed, you are doomed.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Oh I know what you mean about dark humor and its insane consequences:
In 2015, in my country, there was a shooting with several journalists murdered, they were working for a satirical newspaper that presented caricatures of Muhammad.
In 2020, a teacher has been beheaded after he showed these caricatures to his students.

[madhatters4]

depends entirely upon the audience. humor is funny so long as the audience is receiving it as humor. once it isn't receiving it as humor it's "too much".

so it really depends

[Apulu_backagain]

Agreed

[Agape93]

Depends on the person. Personally I love dark humor.

[Apulu_backagain]

I do too, I wish I were more tolerant but I am sensitive when it comes to humor few situations. Where do you draw the line?

[Agape93]

I don't make rape jokes or find them funny. That's it.

[Apulu_backagain]

That makes sense because even murder could be self defense or maybe justified in rare cases but sexual assault has no justification in any case and thus the jokes which comes from it sound quite insensitive.

[MrChinaski]

Everything is good if the laugh is good. It's how we process or, perhaps avoid processing, trauma.

This is too much dark humour. The failing: The laugh isn't good. Jeselnik was cancelled... for crimes against comedy.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/mIKxbHt0KG4

[Apulu_backagain]

I mean this video didn't make me laugh out while holding my belly in pain or something, it was simple, gave me a nice chuckle and was true as hell, love those lines. Especially the second bit. That guy has a nice comic sense. I don't know why people cancelled him, he was basically spitting facts. It was offensive, yes, but I think it is way too much to cancel comedians for catering to humor which doesn't suits yours.

As someone said in the comment, 'Only thing that was crime was his dance'.

[RavVid]

We kinda like our Great Whites.

They patrol Australia's Northern borders and keep us safe from illegal immigrants and protect our sea cucumbers (a Chinese delicacy) from illegal fishermen snorkeling for them.

They are our front line welcomers for illegals.

Saltwater crocodiles form the middle line of welcomers as they are best in shallow water and land close to shore. They are tough enough to take on Great Whites by the way. See video.

Coastal Taipan snakes are the reserve line of welcomers. They shouldn't be riled up as they have the third most lethal venom in the world... if you do annoy them you might get an hour to live if you are lucky.

So we are blessed with natural, layered, welcoming to country for illegals.

Check out the awesome Croc vs Great White fight.
https://www.youtube.com/shorts/Fb1-vBEVWTY

[Zack-Bann]

Dark humor is like black coffee


The first time it’s bitter and barely enjoyed


Eventually you get so used to it you never even consider sugar

[Apulu_backagain]

Yeah, because you get so used to how absurd the whole world is and might as well laugh at it.

[Zack-Bann]

Yes that’s pretty much it

[RavVid]

My first refuge is irony and I try to put multiple layers in so there is something for everybody to be offended by.

Never explain your humor though because then it isn't.

[Apulu_backagain]

Now that is another kind of humor I appreciate, kind of like 'You can not be racist if you just hate everyone'.

[RavVid]

That's the way! I have a very non-Anglo surname, so I think that entitles me to make those sort of jokes.

[Apulu_backagain]

You are literally named so you can make those jokes lol

[RavVid]

Entirely. I'm a swifty - not the pop tart - Jonathan Swift rather. Do you like JS?

[Apulu_backagain]

I have been wanting to read his works and his book Gulliver's travel is in our school library but someone always borrows it before me, guess I will just buy one after my high school finals are done.

[RavVid]

Gulliver is not childhood entertainment it is sometimes portrayed to be. There was a great line in it that "they were not civilized, as they knew nothing about gunpowder".

His darkest work was probably "A Modest Proposal" in which he suggests the Irish famine could be alleviated by parents selling off their children as food for the elite. There was an echo of this in Monty Python's "The Meaning Of Life" where the Father tells the kiddies he will have to sell them for scientific experiments.

Another hero is Daniel Defoe. He is mostly known for the novel Robinson Crusoe which was actually a ripped off biography of a marooned seafarer whose shipmates had had a gut full of him and dumped him. You can actually visit the island they dumped him on. Google.

Dan's real claim to fame was that he was a pamphleteer. This was before newspapers, so back then you wrote something scurrilous, printed it up and sold copies in the streets of London.

He was so good at this he spent most of his adult life in hiding from the consequences. Especially from Good Queen Anne around 1700.

:)

[Chazmatazz269]

I haven’t heard about young children and babies in the Epstein case. Epstein’s style was more hebephilia than pedophilia.

[Apulu_backagain]

Look into the pacifier message of Epstein with a UCL professor and that file which mentions people eating off intestines of babies. It is extremely gory. And few missing kids who were last seen with people who trafficked for Epstein were toddlers, I don't precisely remember the details right at the moment but if you want I can provide you with the names too.

[Tamera952]

I agree. I don’t think this is a thing associated with Epstein, whatsoever. Not once have I heard anything about toddlers being trafficked. That on its face sounds wonky.

[loveslongnails]

If you're going to use the term "woke", kindly look up what it REALLY means. Please.
As for too much dark humor, so long as it doesn't hurt anyone else and you can read your audience, I don't see a problem with it.

[Apulu_backagain]

I know what woke is, people have told me I am way too woke for not being able to laugh at certain jokes (which by the way they were speaking with their truest intention and said it was joke only after I bothered to call them out). So I just say that 'maybe I am being too woke' when making statements like this to avoid those kind of comments all together.

And by the way I agree with your statement. As long as you are not trying to hurt anyone purposefully it is fine.

[loveslongnails]

Good, but I'm not convinced you OR the people calling you "too woke" know what it means either.

[Apulu_backagain]

I am so sorry, can you educate me on that then? I thought being woke was about believing in equal rights for all no matter the race, gender, sexuality, religion, caste, etc and to be really vocal and call out injustice and unfairness around you.

I am not trying to be sarcastic, i genuinely want to know so I don't repeat the mistake further and make a fool out of myself.

[loveslongnails]

Sort of correct. Specifically, term "woke" is derived from African-American English and has been used since the 1930s. It originally referred to awareness of racial prejudice and discrimination.
Nowadays it has been bastardized by right-wing folks to mean "anything that the left wing says is unfair and whining about". So if a liberal is pointing out ANY social injustice, even if it doesn't involve racial discrimination, it gets called "woke" no matter WHAT it is.

That's not necessarily a bad thing, but right-wingers call ANYTHING they don't LIKE to hear "woke", even though it is blatantly unjust. If you point it out and seek to change it, you're woke, the thing is woke.

[Apulu_backagain]

Always the right wing folks, thanks for clarifying with no judgement!

[loveslongnails]

I'm just reporting the news. I don't make up the content.

[Dargil]

I defend myself against depressive thoughts through sarcasm and ridicule. That's why I call my ex-wife Beelzebub. Of course it doesn't hurt that she really is the devil incarnate.

[Apulu_backagain]

Funny, I call my ex best friend diablo as well.

[NathanDavis]

I do like dark humor...

but I do keep 90% of it to myself... lol

the 10% is "funny enough" for me, and just that

[Apulu_backagain]

Yeah, it is best to keep most to yourself and deliver dark humor in perfect time with the right people.

[DryGermanGuy]

I like it, but I also understand that there are both absolute limits and personal limits.

[Apulu_backagain]

What do you think the absolute limits are?

[DryGermanGuy]

Children, sexual violence, severe illnesses...

[MrChinaski]

Not absolute limits in my book. Have you seen Ricky Gervais? Jim Jefferies? Jimmy Carr? Freaking hilarious.

[Pohjolan]

Dark humour has to be funny.

Like when a politicians son is jailed in other countries for rape, people now note that their stock market isn't doing as well as Dow.

[Apulu_backagain]

Oh yeah, dark humor without humor is basically being a jerk who says they are joking when called out on their problematic statement

[Anonymous]

I think that you are too invested in these cases. That said the Epstein case is miles worse than Diddy. We have a real problem if lots of people don't go to jail for really long times/or before being put in front of a firing squad the Epstein case.

[Apulu_backagain]

As someone who is into criminal documentaries and anything related to law and order in world, I am too involved in these cases. And you are absolutely right.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

If it kills me from laughing too much I guess.

https://youtu. be/jzK4cIcNI_w? si=3W1DCtV8-DXpBEL6

[Aiko_E_Lara]

https://youtu.be/jzK4cIcNI_w?si=3W1DCtV8-DXpBEL6

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Of course if it's directly targeting a sensitive topic like religion and something personal can go too far or something that demonstrates cruelty that actually harms someone in real life.

[Apulu_backagain]

Okay that video made me laugh too, it was so unexpected lol.

[Still-alive]

We all cope in different ways is my motto

[Still-alive]

I mean when you think about it most of our beloved and funniest comedians who ever lived were all coping with some type of depression or trauma or something. Look at Robin Williams rip.

[Apulu_backagain]

Lowkey all good stand up comedians have that hundred yard stare lol.