What does it mean if a guy says: you don't know me so you don't know what I've got to offer?

[Anonymous]

what does it mean if a guy says: you don't know me so you don't know what I've got to offer?

[graffiti_guy]

He wants you to give him a chance but he thinks you want something casual.another thing could be you told him he's not your type but yrt you don't know him that would make sense if he told you you don't know what he has to offer

[TylerMMA]

It sounds to me like he likes you and could have potentially been upset with you when he said it.

[Asker]

but he said he only wants to be casual and I said seems we don't have anything to offer one another

[TylerMMA]

A lot of people play the casual card because they are afraid of getting hurt or hurting you. That doesn't mean that he doesn't actually want a real relationship though.

[Asker]

but he has repeatedly said he doesn't have time to sustain a relationship because he works a lot? I don't want to be too nice and give him the benefit of the doubt..im the one who will get hurt then and he'll just turn around and say he told me from the start he only wanted to be casual..

[TylerMMA]

It's quite possible that he thinks his job will ruin the relationship and feels that keeping it casual is safer. In the end I think it comes down to him not quite trusting that you'll stick with him. I'd advise pretending he never even said that and just spend some time getting to know if he really does have anything to offer.

[Asker]

i don't thinkso...i think he means it when he says he wants to be casual and I think when he says he I don't know what he's got to offer he's referring to sex.. I don't think I'm about to feel sorry for him and on the way get hurt by him

[TylerMMA]

And you may be right. I was speaking for myself in that situation. I would tell a girl I want to keep things casual because with future deployments and military life in general... most girls can't handle it. I'd rather go slow and casual until I know she can.

[Asker]

well he said it was because of work. But I never said I expected him to see me all the time or often, I like my space too

[Anonymous]

he thinks you are misjudging him and putting him lower down than he feels he deserves to be regarded as. maybe he thinks you aren't trusting him enough or believing in him as being a good person.

[mormollio]

Sounds like you said something that upset him or came across as judging him.