How do you tell someone an embarrassing secret?

[Anonymous]

I really want to tell my friends and family, but I'm afraid what they will think. How do you tell someone an embarrassing secret?

[Daph81]

Why do youwant to tell them?

From my experience, friends do keep secrets from each other, be wise in choosing what you want to share with them, because depending on the person, if you one day have a falling out with your current friends, they might use that embarrassing secret against you. So be really wise about that.

And family? Families are often very judgmental. I always say this: Every family has their own ugly sides. So families are just a bunch of people who are tied by blood, they have a connection not because they want to, but because they're connected by blood. So they're also not the best people to tell your embarrassing secrets too. Of course, there are families who live in such harmony, but it's quite rare.

Look, if you're even here asking this question because you said you're "afraid of what they will think", then you already know they might very well be judgmental about it. So it's probably best if you just don't tell them at all.

[m-ana]

why tell them if it's a secret? especially if it's embarrassing. even if you really want to tell them... why? ...would it make things better for you? ...just asking.

[Asker]

I feel like I need to tell them to let the relationship grow. Friends don't keep secrets from each other, do they?

[m-ana]

Depends on what kind of secret it is that the friend would keep. Like let's say your friend was gay. Maybe that's something they didn't want to share because in all honesty, why share something that is supposed to be their secret. or maybe their cheating on their girl/boyfriend...so no, not all friends share everything.

If you feel in your heart of hearts it will help your relationship grow with whomever you tell your secret to, then do so! Don't hold back. But be prepared for their reaction. They may not see it as a way like you did/do. Don't have over expeditions about it. Try to keep your expeditions to a minimal. Everyone is different. :)

[PakiGurl]

You can't trust people man. Just write it down and then rip the paper into shreds.

[Indigo_Moon]

Just say it. It probably is not as embarrassing as you think.

[cupcake14]

Message me :) might help if you think its helpful