What are the countries where there are helpful people?

[BornToDiee]

Almost everyone in my country is a helper. But I don't want to leave this country for a long time, the way the country is governed. Even the people who voted for Erdogan here are helping. We are a really strange country. People here can be both very ignorant and helpful. But I cannot accept the help of anyone who voted for Erdogan. Even if I am going to die, the people who voted for Erdogan should not help me. 😪 I want to live in a country where there are both cultured and helpful people. I want to live in a country where there are not so many ignorant people. But as far as I know, the most helpful country is already the country where I live. But I have to leave this country too. But no matter where the country I'm going, I want to live in a country where there are warm-blooded people. Helpfullness like are things that happen in our culture. It can be difficult for me to get used to countries where there is no helpfullness. Also I'm a helpful person too. Maybe because we were too well-intentioned, the wrong people ruled us for years. I don't know.

Turkey has lost its chance to become a very beautiful country. It's very sad. It is a great pity for the kind-hearted people in this country. The only thing that makes Turkey Turkey is the kind-hearted people in Turkey. But Turkey is about to become the homeland of immigrants now.😞

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Almost everyone in my country is a helpful people. *

[lightbulb27]

I think a lot of countries have immigrant challenges, the world is being torn apart again.

It is kinda ironic you are talking about helpful people but it's not ok to help immigrants, or too much.

I understand though... too many will change culture and thus ruin a good thing.

I think this has all happened before in history...

I know nothing of Erdogan nor do I know where people are being trained to be helpful. Some people are, in their nature and training, and others are not. Cultures that are secure, will be helpful.

NYC is helpful, but it's also not in a lot of ways. I think what's happened is we've replaced human compassion, even religious conviction, with social and government obligation. It's not the same.

[msc545]

In the US where I live, people tend to be kind and helpful if they like you initially, which is usually a roll of the dice. I've made friends with a lot of strangers traveling on the west coast of the US, and also traveling internationally, which is a whole other consideration. In general:

1. Drive courteously and yield the right-of-way.
2. Wait your turn
3. Speak softly without too much eye contact; less is more.
4. Respect personal space.
5. Offer food always, and never refuse offers of food or drink.
6. Never raise your voice or call people names or threaten them.
7. help people when asked or they clearly need it.
8. Kindness is mandatory at all times.

etc.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Why would lack of eye contact be considered kind?

[Agape93]

Eye contact can be considered a challenge or a threat. The latter is how I take it if you aren't a loved one of mine.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

@Agape93 I know that, but if someone looks at my eyes, without smiling I make sure they are the first ones to look down. That’s even a fun thing for me because I have very intense eyes and I am yet to meet anyone who’ll be able to look at my eyes without looking down first. If not challenged, my eyes are very warm, kind and nice.

But I have a weird side. I had a game in childhood , ever since I was 11-12, when I was on subway - alone going to my dancing classes, if someone looked at me too intensely, I would switch my eyes into a more dominant look and make sure they turned their down first.

Then I started doing it for fun - I would pick the most dominant person and make him look down. That was fun. I don’t do that anymore, because I never feel challenged and I learned some other ways to feel dominant without being aggressive , but if someone challenges me I am not looking down first.

There’s one more thing I never do, I always walk straight, I never give a road to other people, unless a child or an elderly, because I feel like if I walk on it, that’s my road.

I probably sound very aggressive and weird right now but everyone who knows me thinks I am very kind. However, if I feel challenged I make sure they know they challenged the wrong person.

[Agape93]

Good girl. Prey looks away, a predator does not. The first to flinch is the one who looses.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

@Agape93 I’ve never lost… Though I was chased by a creep about a month ago, I told him nicely to go and that I wasn’t interested, I was walking by the lake and it was a late night. He was chasing me obviously, I turned around many times and he always came the same way very closely.

I stopped and just told him to leave. He didn’t, started even coming closer. I stopped and we looked at each other for a very long time and it was surprising that he didn’t look away, he was the first one who looked at me so long, but I can do that for ages, it was obvious for me that he was dangerous though, cause a normal person wouldn’t look at my eyes that long without blinking and then he was even smiling and sending me airy kisses. He looked insane.

I started walking towards him slowly while looking at his eyes and telling him to go, at some point he started backing away slowly too, but I am pretty certain he was not normal. I’ve learned when you are in a situation when you are threatened, instead of getting scared, you should make them realize you are the scarier one.

I learned it when my dad was teaching me how to fight, he was a very tough guy in his youth and something he told me is that he always fought against much bigger guys and always won, not because he was the strongest - but because he acted as if he was fearless. Everybody’s scared - but to win, you’ve got to make the rival think you are the scarier one.

[Agape93]

Good. Personally I'd have shot him if he started chasing me.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

@Agape93 I wouldn’t like to have a gun, I’d not like to hurt anyone. Even him… I felt pity for him actually.

When threatened my first impulse is to attack. So I don’t think I should ever carry a gun. I have a very strong control over myself but still, I don’t support guns either.

It’s much better I win over psychologically.

He left in the end, that’s all that matters. And both of us, are unharmed and alive.

[msc545]

@LaFemmeFatale_1 In some cultures, eye contact is considered challenging and hostile.

[menina]

I'm sorry but I don't think that you're ready to live in a different country. You seem to love Turkey, which is great because it's your country. But at the same time, you're against immigrants. Do you think you will be ok with someone telling you to go back to your country? Someone telling/showing you that you're not welcomed? Someone making offensive remarks about Turkish people? I'm pretty sure you wouldn't.

So, if you don't like immigrants then you should stay in your homeland. Because if you go live somewhere else, some people will treat you the way you treat immigrants in Turkey.

[Babygirl_S]

A country that hates immigrants is NOT full of helpful people.

[merveto]

Helping works both ways. If someone disrespects and insults you after you help them, wouldn't you hate or dislike them?

[molonski2]

Turkey certainly has had its share of problems , also some stunning women , so long as they keep their weight down , and limit the carbs , but I think Turkey will always have political issues afoot , seems to be the common denominator
Generally people here in Thailand are extremely helpful too , not saying they are not in Australia , but they are just too busy and stressed , Western life is full of stress.

[RealMarek]

“I want to live in a country where there are both cultured and helpful people. I want to live in a country where there are not so many ignorant people.” Well, if you’re looking for cultured people who are not ignorant, you’ll want to avoid the US. And don’t let the West fool you, our elites are some of the most corrupt in the world. They just make their corruption legal and plunder the wealth of the general population through inflation, economic repression, and outsourcing their jobs.

[exitseven]

I have been to Canada a few times and always found the people to be helpful. Even the mounties were good.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Yeah, most people in the USA are helpful, you just have to choose the good from the bad.

[Anonymous]

Australia or New Zealand.

[Pete671]

All countries, just depends how you behave,,,