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Of course, nobody can tell what he is exactly feeling but I just want opinion from other people specifically guys.

This guy (24) (we will call him John) and me (25) have been online friends since 2019 when covid striked. He's been in relationships, some shorter ones (like 1yr max) and I've been in a longer ones since then. However we would always be in contact and especially when both single. We talk via calls for hours sometimes, however not often, once in a while as he lives in USA and I live in Europe. we also text but not everyday. We know each other well. I realized i have major crush on him, like im always drown to him no matter what. We can stop talking for some time and i dont think about him but as soon as we chat again my crush is back. For 7 (SEVEN) years... he flirts with me unexpextedly, asks me sometimes all of a sudden like whats my romantic status, he listens to me well, asks for my opinions and advices. But when we flirt he is either keeping it going or sometimes just changes energy all of a sudden and stops doing so. He mostly initiates this and i just follow along. Maybe only couple of times i initiated him. He mentions wanting to meet up and how nice it would be but we never actually talk seriously about it. Pls someone tell me what do you think? Is he also into me but avoids it due to distance or he just sees me as a friend? Someone helpppp

Of course, nobody can tell what he is exactly feeling but I just want opinion from other people specifically guys.

This guy (24) (we will call him John) and me (25) have been online friends since 2019 when covid striked. He's been in relationships, some shorter ones (like 1yr max) and I've been in a longer ones since then. However we would always be in contact and especially when both single. We talk via calls for hours sometimes, however not often, once in a while as he lives in USA and I live in Europe. we also text but not everyday. We know each other well. I realized i have major crush on him, like im always drown to him no matter what. We can stop talking for some time and i dont think about him but as soon as we chat again my crush is back. For 7 (SEVEN) years... he flirts with me unexpextedly, asks me sometimes all of a sudden like whats my romantic status, he listens to me well, asks for my opinions and advices. But when we flirt he is either keeping it going or sometimes just changes energy all of a sudden and stops doing so. He mostly initiates this and i just follow along. Maybe only couple of times i initiated him. He mentions wanting to meet up and how nice it would be but we never actually talk seriously about it. Pls someone tell me what do you think? Is he also into me but avoids it due to distance or he just sees me as a friend?

I'm preaching to the choir when I say that life is difficult. We think that what other people have is better than what we have. This sort of thinking messes with our lives.

My next point is I'm in college. The ring before spring culture is insane. I see couples everywhere and yet I realize that I may not see as many couples as I think I see. What I mean by that is there are factors I don't see (where they are in the relationship). It seems better to be in a relationship because of the perceived validation, touch, and company. It takes a lot of adaptation to stay a couple.

Couples need to think about the future. There is the money aspect of buying a house and having kids. Other aspects are the partner's habits to maneuver, feelings to be honest about. If one is not honest about them (bottling them thus keeping them a secret) they won't get along very well. That is the price of creating a harmonious lifestyle. Habits and feelings are not bad they are a part of you; they will be a part of the kids as well.

I would say dating and marriage is an extension of school. While this will be an unpopular opinion, I will explain my reasoning. Anytime, I explain my reasoning I'd rather exercise my thinking than convince you. Dating and Marriage is not fully like school; it doesn't have math, literature and science in that order. School is heavy on the subjects, light on the fun. Dating and marriage is lighter on the subjects. The subjects are needed to keep the boat. Analogy: fun things keep the boat floating. Each semester I'm in college took adaptability to succeed in my courses. Every course is different, so is each person.

Decision-making for dating and marriage has to be unified. I am not saying that couples need to order the same thing at restaurants. I'm saying scheduling vacation times, which school the kid is going to, who's the nanny. Cemented stuff like that.