How can I help him? While also keeping myself happy?

[thatgirlrinrin]

I'm just looking for more opinions on the situation.

Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost a year now we live kinda far from each other so I can't just go see him whenever but he's amazing and it's really the best relationship I've ever had because I know he loves me for me not my body I've never had that before and I've still been getting use to it honestly and I love him so much but he's depressed when he feels at his worse he talks to me less I've noticed he says is because he doesn't wanna put down he wants me to be happy and not depressed bc he's depressed. And then he'll apologize for not talking to me but it's like why are you apologizing for being depressed and I don't know what to do cuz I don't want to force him to talk about something he probably doesn't want to talk about but also I just want to make sure he's okay I don't want to lose him. I've asked him about getting help before he said he didn't need it and I can't force him to so. I don't even know how I can help him or if I can help him when he won't talk about it. He texted me about 2 hours ago he's been drinking he was drunk. He just worries me because I'd rather know what he's feeling and the distance is leaving me stuck between I know he's going through something, needs space I'll wait for him and what about my feelings I really miss him right now I've been crying I can't sleep I just don't know what to do.

[Staximus]

He needs to talk to a therapist. All you can do is give him support and encourage him to get some help with his problems. If he's had a terrible life then that's going to take a while to work on. If he hasn't had a terrible life, he needs to pull his head out of his ass. Sometimes you have to just let stupid people be stupid.

[Twalli]

Tell him that you love him and that talking about what is upsetting can be helpful. He can confide anything he wants in you, knowing that he's confiding in one who loves him. I won't say it will be, because it isn't always, but he may feel less upset telling someone else.

[AI Opinion]

Hey lovely! 🎉 You’re in a tricky spot, but you’re sailing through this with loads of grace. Keeping yourself happy while supporting him long-distance is a champ move! Your communication is your superpower here. Let him know you’re there without pressing too hard. Balance it out by investing in yourself, too—hit the gym, Netflix & chill, or take up a hobby. It’s okay to care for him while being a bit selfish with your happiness, too! Your love story deserves a happy chapter for you both! 💖✨

[Anonymous]

Why do u love him? Why he loves u

[Anonymous]

The key is in good communication.