How to make my boyfriend happy?

[JuneLady]

I often feel like he is just better at relationships than me. He gives meaningful gifts, is very affectionate, compliments me sincerely, and overall makes me very happy (including in bed). How can I return the favor? I've tried some sexual favors, all of my compliments come out sloppy and insincere, and it seems like every attempt to make him happy just sort of glances off. Any and all ideas?

[caring__1]

Don't rely on sex, as many guys on this site keep saying. Though sex may attract him, it's the inner qualities that keep him coming back.

Be observant of him in all settings. Learn what he's drawn to and appreciates. Incorporate those things into special moments you share with him. Find out how things impact him, as that will give you a deeper understanding of him than just learning what he does or likes. Find out what he appreciates about a relationship and what makes them meaningful to him. Find out if what he does for you he does because he thinks you'd like it or are they things he also enjoys.

No one has the power to make anyone feel anything, but you can set the stage for him to allow himself to feel things and enjoy those feelings. Learn all you can, experiment and be playful. The effort is more important than the results.

[caring__1]

When he shrugs off your compliments, it could be that he is uncomfortable with attention drawn to him and prefers giving to receiving. Chances are he likes your compliments; he may just be self-conscious. Ask him how he feels when you give him compliments. Guys are more likely to appreciate compliments for what they do than for how they look.

[Anonymous]

Behave like a woman and let him treat you like one. Let him be a man, and treat him like one. If you think that is sexist, then I can't help you.

Understand his sexual desires and fulfill them. Help him understand yours and help him fulfill them.

Accept that he loves you as you are and give yourself to him fully.

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks for MHO.

[JuneLady]

You deserved it. That was the most introspective piece of truth I've heard on here. Do you want to be friends?

[hellionthesagereborn]

Tell him that. Seriously, tell him everything you just said and ask him the question. I can pretty much guarentee he will be happy to hear it. The fact that you appreciate him will mean a LOT to him, the fact that you WANT to make him happy and are trying to do so, will also make him very happy (as they say its the effort that counts and the fact that your putting in that effort means a lot (its more effort then some women put forth)).

As for what else you can do, be affectionate back, be their for him, etc. As I have tried to explain it to others, why do you love pets? Because they show you love, they show that they are just genuinely happy to see you, happy to be with you. They don't give you anything yet them being genuinely happy to see you is so full filling that the fact that they are not really giving you anything else of value doesn't matter. So don't underestimate the power of being genuinly happy to see some one, it does endear you to them.

In addition, if your going the sexual route, initiating sex is definitley good, having fun with it etc. all are going to make him happy.

You can try cooking for him or doing something like that (I personally find that I and other guys tend to respond to acts of kindness better then just being bought things (though that is good too). That is being nurturing in that you cook something for him without asking (he comes home from work and you have a nice dinner ready for him, that will usually blow him away because it shows you care enough that your thinking of him and want to take care of him as much as he wants to take care of you. Things like that.).

[NathanDavis]

Do you know for a fact that he's unhappy? or you just feel like you have to be the way he is in return?

[JuneLady]

He seems pretty content, but I want to make him feel as good as he makes me feel

[NathanDavis]

It might be the case that making you very happy is what makes him happy, so you should appreciate that and enjoy it, don't let it bother you,

Also, many men do not really need much to be really happy, so maybe just ask him, if there is something he would like that you have not done or have, and then see if you're willing to do or try that.

Just do not say that you ask because you want to do it without knowing first, just ask as curiosity, and then see if you're willing to make it happen

[TheorionMage]

A WISE man does NOT leave what he knows he WILL NOT find elsewhere ~

CLEARLY, he APPRECIATES your companionship.

KEEP UP your good work! It encourages HIM to do likewise.

I 'lucked into' my present life mate, after informing her first ex-husband
that if he EVER were SO STUPID as to divorce her,
she would NOT 'bounce' TWICE!

3 years later, "from MY lips to God's ears!"
We've been inseparable for 34 years, and married for 7, since~ <3

[TOTEMPLASTER]

Sure, arrange a threesome with your most attractive girlfriend.

[JuneLady]

I'll think about it. I'm somewhat hesitant, but for more complicated reasons than you think. Can you DM?

[TOTEMPLASTER]

Yes. How is that accomplished?

[JuneLady]

I just sent you a message

[SaraL569]

The best thing is to ask him. Does he think your compliments are insincere? Sometimes were harder on ourselves than we need to be

[JuneLady]

A fair point. He just sort of shrugs them off

[SaraL569]

You could start with acts of service
Look up the different love languages and see what you think he is?

[JuneLady]

Never heard of them until now. I'm going to look into it

[SaraL569]

Good luck

[Luckycharms12]

He is clearly happy plus you are good looking girl. Just keep doing what your doing sexy outfit or lingerie wouldn't hurt

[JuneLady]

I hope I can figure something better out, but thanks for the encouragement

[Luckycharms12]

Guess are pretty simple really full belly and empty sack we are happy lol

[JuneLady]

Is that really true? He keeps saying "I'm a simple guy with simple needs." Isn't there something extra I could do? Or is contentment the highest it goes?

[Luckycharms12]

Ya it's true for most part. As long as sex is good and get on great main thing you sound like you are over thinking

[JuneLady]

That's fair. Maybe I can improve our sex life?

[Luckycharms12]

Try one of his fantasies

[JuneLady]

He "doesn't have any." I interpret that to mean he either doesn't know, or is afraid to tell me.
Are there any fantasies a nice guy would probably have?

[Luckycharms12]

Well most guys think of 3 way. But like anything start small cos play role play. dress up as harely Quinn that would blow him away

[JuneLady]

Thanks!

[Luckycharms12]

No problem any time

[Nivikis]

DIY something for him or bake his favorite sweets, maybe with some words decorated on top of it? "I love you" cupcakes? Or fill a jar with tiny notes that says 50 things that you love about him

[JuneLady]

These are... actually really good ideas. Thank you!
I'm a pretty terrible baker, but I might give it a try.

[Nivikis]

No worries! There are some essy recipes out there too ❤

[Cdnowl]

How can your compliments come out insincere? If you say them and mean it. Maybe you feel or think that’s what he thinks. How long have you been together.

[JuneLady]

Just over 3 years. I mean, I mean them, but they come out SOUNDING insincere

[harvest]

Sex. Trust me. If you make him happy in the bedroom, you will make him happy everywhere else ;)

[JuneLady]

How can I make him happy in the bedroom? I seem to enjoy sex more than he does

[harvest]

Then focus more on him. He's probably doing all the work and you both are focusing on making you happy. Dedicate entire evening just to him. Surprise him at his work with a quickie or a blowjob. There are many ways you can make a guy happy if you want to...

[JuneLady]

I've tried blowjobs, but he says he likes just sex better

[harvest]

1. It's not about blowjobs. It's about when and how you give them. If you're laying in bed and you just roll over saying "Hey, I'm gonna give you a blowjob now", I wouldn't be surprised if his dick wouldn't even get hard xd. But if you (for example) text him in the middle of the day saying that you are soooo hungry for his cock, then you will get his attention!
2. If he isn't that into blowjobs, then either he is just on of those guys who don't like them (it's possible) or you just suck at giving blowjobs... Pun intended.

[JuneLady]

I think that second one is more likely. I think I'll ask for tips later. Thanks!

[harvest]

Sure, pm me whenever you want. Good luck.

[yucel_eden]

Best thing is to take care of him.


Go hug him when he least expects it.


Show affection, wash him in the shower.


Cook he’s fav meal. Give him a massage.


Just some ideas

[chriscdi]

yea you sound like you are pretty terrible at this, just give him a meaningful gift, find something he really likes and gift him something in relation

[JuneLady]

When I ask him what he likes, he just shrugs and says he "enjoys my company," which I think is total bs

[chriscdi]

lmao, check his instagram through his phone, usually all the stuff people like, they have it on instagram, wither its an account they follow, what they post or just simply in their related, it can also be in their searched

[JuneLady]

He doesn't use social media

[chriscdi]

yep then you are fucked

[JuneLady]

darn

[chriscdi]

mybad that came out green, what i meant is that i got nothin

[JuneLady]

I get it. Thanks for helping though!

[chriscdi]

💯💯

[DJB72]

Be you. That's why he's going out with you in the first place.

[Angelo75]

Read some books about how to give him head. Usually men loves that.

[Still-alive]

Does he like video games? I’d always be happy with those

[JuneLady]

He plays one video game

[devil_8888]

By your context, I guess he’s very happy with you. You are doing good. Give him sexual surprises with sexy outfits.

[PeterCharie1991]

Ask him what he likes gift wise sexual wise and anything else

[DaMack999]

Stop worrying so much. Ask me how you can make him feel better sexually.

[Waldoe]

if you are just "Trying" you will fail, he is "sincere" try doing that...

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Just don't be an annoying mouth yapping woman. He should be happy with that.

[spartan55]

Is that too much to ask? 😂😂

[Anonymous]

I assume he had to make the first move and ask you out first

[JuneLady]

I would be offended, but you're not wrong. What does that have to do with anything?

[Opinion Owner]

I was being sarcastic and speaking of my lifelong hatred of how guys always have to make the first move or ask the girl out first

[JuneLady]

I see.
I personally think girls should be the ones, but we're too cowardly. I never would have asked him out, just cause I'm chicken. But yes, girls are much less likely to be rejected, and should thus be the ones to ask men out

[Opinion Owner]

That's a good valid point and plus a lot of people believe and I'm one of them that women should just do it as much as men do and that would mean there would be a lot less single lonely people in the world if both genders did it the most.