Why doesn't my boyfriend do nice things for me?

[tallie]

I LOVE to do things to make my boyfriend happy.

I cook for him.

I clean up after him.

I buy him little things that I know he likes.

And the list goes on...

We get along great. We are best friends. We have the same silly sense of humour and we have a great sex life but there's something missing.

I have only been with him about 3 months. He says sweet things sometimes and tells me I'm beautiful but he never takes me out or does anything out of his way to make me feel special or loved in any way. When he does take me out, it's to benefit himself and has nothing to do with me.

I found myself crying in my office today because I long for a man to take me out and make me feel like the princess I am. To do something nice without me having to ask. Even when I do ask, he says we'll do something and NEVER follows through with it. I don't think I am as happy as I like to think I am.

I really, really like this man. I'm not sure how to approach him about it or if I should at all. Don't get me wrong, we have a BLAST together, but lately I feel like I deserve more from a lover.

Do I talk to him about it? And how? Or do I just move on before I'm in to deep?

[SkinnyG]

Guys usually start out in a relationship by doing nice things for their girlfriend and then it tapers off after you've been going out for a while. If he's starting out doing nothing nice, it probably won't get any better. So you probably need to decide whether you can live with that or not. When you talk to a guy about it, sometimes they will do nice things for a while - but it may leave you feeling like he's only doing it cause you asked him to. So you really can't win in this sitch if you truly need a guy to do nice things for you.

[Anonymous]

It is just not who he is. It doesn't mean anything. Don't worry about it. I think you need to get over it. Most guys are like this by the way and you won't find that in a guy anytime soon. My friend who is 37 took almost 20 years to figure this out and now she is regretful of the good guys she left because she wanted them to be like that but they just were not that way.

[whitewolf]

if you want to be treated like a princess ull need to move on, its obvious he won't treat you like that, or you can learn to accept it and stay with him because you have a blast with him that's also a choice, the question is how good do you think your chances are of finding a hopeless romantic in this day an age who will love you and you him? my opinion is just stop going out of your way to do so many nice things for him since it will only make you feel like you care more leaving you crying in your office

[kheserthorpe]

Get him to read five love languages, explain what works for you, and see.

Either he didn't -get- your needs because they are different from his, and kicks it up a notch, or he doesn't care.

[Anonymous]

you have never been, are not and will never be a "princess" its high time you drop that idea.