Why doesn't my boyfriend go out of his way for me?

[charminbear]

I love doing things to make my boyfriend happy. I cook, I clean, I randomly buy him things that I think he'd like, I got him an iPod touch for his birthday and I bring him food from my house or buy him food. I am far from being a gold digger but its always nice to have someone that you love, go out of his way to do nice things for you. My boyfriend never does anything cute for me unless I ask or give him obvious hints. Even then, he usually doesn't pick up on the hints or he calls me a gold digger for wanting starbursts from a gas station that's in walking distance and literally takes 1 second to drive. He doesn't like to take me out for lunch or dinner because he is "broke" and would rather eat at home but when I'm not with him he'll order food for himself and eat it before I come over. On the rare occasion that he does take me out to dinner, he always prides himself in his "good deed" and holds its over my head. for example: If I say something bitchy to him or anything that upsets him in general he'll say "I just bought you a nice dinner and this is how you treat me?". Usually, We split the tab or I pay. I don't think he has EVER randomly done something nice or sweet or bought me something cute just because he wanted to see me smile. Even thought he claims he is broke, he sells weed and makes a good profit. He always has enough money to buy more. I know he wants to be with me but why doesn't he pamper me or show me he loves me? He knows I feel this way but doesn't seem to take a hint. It would be nice to have a guys input on why he acts like this.

[Simple-Simonette]

Because he's an asshole. He gets the hints, he just knows that you'll stay with him despite the fact that he treats you like sh*t.

Instead of complaining about what he doesn't do for you, why don't you just break up with him and wait for a guy that will treat you the way you want to be treated? Being alone has got to be better than questioning your worth with this loser.

Good luck.

[CMJ0349]

Better said than done.

[CMJ0349]

Easier said than done. * :P

[petru]

First of all, you need to look up the definition of the word: :"literally" in a dictionary. Other than that, I think it's either that he is an immature selfish boy (not man, but boy) or he is not into you as much as you are into him. Did he call you a gold digger for wanting a Starburst from a gas station nearby? I don't think he knows what a gold digger is. Starburst...pffffffftttt!

[Littletad]

Having a boyfriend who sells weed isn't exactly a great trait to start off. You should know better than that. I'm not saying it's wrong, but it's rarely anything positive. He seems selfish, arrogant, and lacks the willingness to be a caring boyfriend. You cannot expect a guy to change his behavior, you either put up with what you have, or you learn to take control and move on.