My boyfriend’s best friend (who is also my best friend’ boyfriend) has made it clear that he doesn’t like me. My friend started dating her boyfriend a couple years ago and from the beginning, he made it a point that he’s not interested in hanging with most of her friends, but will go out of his way to ignore me if ever I’m around. I try not to take it personal because I understand firsthand how difficult it can be to connect with others when you’re an introvert.
About six months ago, my friend connected me with her boyfriend‘s friend, and he and I immediately hit it off and have been together since. My friends boyfriend was very mad that she connected us because he didn’t want us to get together. Since then, he has accepted it but an common issue that keeps coming up is, while he and I still have never really talked before, I keep hearing the things he says about me from my best friend - I know this in itself is an issue because it’s only stirring the pot and making matters worse.
From what I have gathered, he thinks I am dumb, does not like being around me, and has made gross, sexual comments about my body in the past; I feel like I have been reduced to these few characteristics. I have tried to reflect on our limited interactions and I have made it a point to be cordial and nice even though I am typically shy.
I have tried not to bring it to my boyfriends attention to respect their friendship and to avoid causing any problems between everyone involved. Despite my opinions on him, my boyfriend loves his friend and I do not want to come in between that. However, my boyfriend has started to pick up on the fact that his friend and I are not exactly the best of friends. I am not sure how to go about addressing this issue, if at all. All I know is I am sick of being so disliked by a person who has not even tried to get to know me.
Why doesn’t my boyfriends best friend/best friends boyfriend like me?
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Yeah, that sucks but all you can do is be friendly and say hello, however, do not flirt. Not even a hint of it. Be very sweet and cordial like you have no problem with him.
I went through that at one point with my best friends now ex boyfriend and it’s no fun at all. I’d say to keep your distance and only be cordial. Explain to your boyfriend and best friend that if he’s going to be disrespectful and mean for no reason then you’re not socializing with him. They should both understand and leave it at that.
Just be polite. You’re not going to get on with everyone. No one does.