My boyfriend is mad at me for nude modelling, help?

[SoulGirl]

I've been modelling for a long time, and used to be signed. I still shoot every now and then, and my boyfriend of 8 months knows I model. He recently got mad at me for a set that got published of me doing implied nudes. I agreed that some of the photos are a little revealing for my liking with my nipples showing, but my boyfriend is REALLY mad at me for it and won't talk to me. I'm worried he's going to leave me because of it. I don't shoot full nudes, but I can understand that he's my boyfriend and people see my body. I love modelling, and I want to make my boyfriend happy too. I don't know what to do or tell him and I'm crying. This is our first argument we've ever had and I don't know how to handle it. What should I do :(

[natured]

There is a big difference between posing with clothes on and posing without clothes on, I can understand him quiet well to be honest, imagine him posting nude you would feel weird about it too that a lot of people get to see his "shlong" ...
You should talk to him, and you should decide if you want to continue shooting pictures NUDE or not, I would only model for CLOTHES generally, and reject the NUDE contracts...
I mean, do as you wish, you can decide to follow your career, but i'm sure MANY MANY boyfriends would hate it..
If I would model nude I'm sure that my boyfriend of 3 years would be furious about it, even if we trust each other 100% and we have an amazing relationship, he would still be very bothered...

I hope you find the right solution for both of you, but talk to him, make sure he will be either OKAY with it or if he is not going to be okay with it don't shoot nude pictures, if NOT then i'm sure sooner or later you guys will break up and you can continue to pursue your modeling career... but without him 0,-
Wish you the best luck

[mooky06]

You have the choice to do nudes or not. You can ask for a quick run down with the photographer. If you're not interested or comfortable doing any of those shoots you can decline it.

Don't you get to look at your own photos when they're still in draft mode? You need to sign them off before they are even allowed to be published!

Tell your boyfriend that you can see why he is mad at you. That the way he feels is rational. Apologise and make sure it doesn't happen again. Even promise him that if you need too

[depeche2015]

he has a right to be mad about this. being nude is a big thing especially if you have a boyfriend. he's jealous yeah but it is disrespectful. I'd do modeling still just see if you can do modeling without having to show parts of your body

[bhatiaji]

I guess it is ok for your boyfriend to behave like this given the position he is in. A couple of things -
You can try iron this out with him with discussion/persuasion/intellect.
Tell him that you always used to model even before he got into your life and now it is only not fair on his part to stop you from doing what you are passionate about. Tell him that you there is nothing wrong with human nudity as an art (though this is something people get only with age/maturity)
If he doesn't understand, decide what you are more passionate about - modelling or a possessive boyfriend.
My two cents? Do not choose anyone/anything over your passion. It is passion that drives us, love feels good only if we are passionate about the things we are doing in our lives. You are pretty young, you'll definitely find someone better, someone more considerate and understanding.
Never settle for less than what you deserve.

[JustaDudeTryinToHelp]

Well soulgirl, that's one tough situation. If you where a model before you two met, than he should have expected this. If it's just your nipples I can understand why he would be upset, but I think he took it a bit to far. I don't really have any advice about the argument its self, but you said you've dating for 8 months? He's probably hurt you didn't mention or ask about nude modeling before doing it. If you haven't already I'd address the fact that you didn't ask before and say in the future, he wil, get a little more of a say in the matter.

[dannymexico90]

Yea this ones not going to work. You either leave him or you stop modeling. I would pick the shoots honestly. There are plenty of men who would give 2 shits about that. There aren't a lot of women who can get paid to do that. Always choose the job over the relationship

[guy532]

I think this calls for a compromise. Maybe don't do nude modeling in the future just for him. If you tell him that I'm sure you two will move passed it just fine.

[Zer0Ghost]

This doesn't seem like the sort of thing that can be comprised, you mighy have to pick. Personally I would not want to be with someone that insecure or possessive, but I'm me, you are you

[UnknownBartley]

I think it makes sense he is like that but also shoukd take notice that's what you like to do... at the end of the day he is with you and gets your body to himself wheres anyone else just see images of you

[WalterRadio]

If he is that insecure, then dump him now. You will sooner or later, so don't waste your time with him anymore.

[Avneo]

I think you don't want a " man ", you want a guy like dog who shakes his tale for you.
Brutal truth. Grow up be a real girl, no real guy would like it. Hope you understood what I mean.

[Anonymous]

Just talk to him. If he means that much just stop doing the implied nudes, I mean there is other types of modelling if you love it

[Anonymous]

I think he mad and jealous. Time for kiss and make up. Make up sex that is lol.

[ExAdultActor]

I've done straight up porn and I'm a photographer. Dump him, if he's insecure and unwilling to compromise about this it will happen again. you did it before you even met.

[Guevara00239]

say this was ur last time doing nude modelling and u won't do it again for him.

[sadgirl2002]

Stop nude modelling or get a new boyfriend

[abundantlyrich]

Did you have to do nudes?

[Anonymous]

Can't you do modelling without the nude part? wtf

[guy532]

agreed

[JennieF]

Tell him you'll do some just for him.

[Anonymous]

hey, he chose you...

[Opinion Owner]

it'd be like saying "i hate you because you're breathing"

i can't control that you do that, yet, i still chose you