Boyfriend Pressuring me to send nudes what do I do?

[Anonymous]

Ok so my boyfriends a really sweet guy and all. He wouldn't do anything to hurt me. we have been together for five months. And im in 8th grade. A long time ago when we first started dating he would ask me to send nudes and I liked him so much id do anything for him. So I gave him some nudes. Then I was on omegle and stuff because my friend told me about it and at the time I was so insecure a guy was jacking off and begged me to take off my shirt. So I did. Then I felt terrible about it like I had cheated or something so I told my boyfriend. He got really really mad at me then got over it. I had also told him I didn't want to send him any more nudes because I wasn't comfterable with my body. He said I didn't have to do anything I didn't want to do. Then 3 months later he asked me for a nude. I said no. (I'm much smarter now and I know it can end up anywhere) Then he brought up what happened 3 months ago. and he said "So you would rather show your body to a random guy rather than your boyfriend?" Which is not true. Because I dont want to show my body to anyone right now Im still quite young. How do I get him to stop asking? I told him im not comfterable with nudes and he told me he promises they won't go anywhere but I don't know. He still hasn't deleted the ones from the months ago. And he'll also ask why im not comfterable since he's my boyfriend and he'll keep bringing up the omegle thing.

[WhiteSteve]

Quick story: a guy who worked for me has a son your age. He was being bullied at school and on the Internet, and the school got involved and ended up looking at his phone for incriminating texts from his classmates. They found pics of him and a girl he likes, they were texting each other shots of them in their underwear. Well, at your age, even if you take the pic yourself and willingly so, it counts as child pornography. And guess who almost ended up in a world of trouble? His FATHER, the guy who worked for me, because he pays for the phone and technically he's on the hook for a child pornography charge. It's not fair, but that's the law. Fortunately he was able to explain it away but he had to be questioned by the police and they could have charged him if they wanted to. It's serious business. So if you have a parent footing the bill for your phone, think about that. And beyond that, honestly, I hear more horror stories about people having nude pics made public after a breakup. It's just not a good game to play, and at least wait til you're 18. I was 14 once too, I get it, I was up to all kinds of stuff I'd tell you not to do now, haha, but this one can have some serious consequences to it, so I'd strongly advise against it.

[croxy]

Only in the US haha

[masturbieren]

If you are only in the 8th grade you are under the age of 18 and you are a minor. If you send a nude picture to your boyfriend and he jacks off to it, (which he most likely wants to do), he is jacking off to child pornography and its a criminal offense to even have child porn in your possession or on your computer. If your boyfriend is under the age of 18 ~ I don't know what the law is about two minors having child porn but I still don't think it would be considered legal. The guy who jacked off to you on Omegle was also jacking off to child porn and he could have been arrested and charged with a felony. At your age I think you should stay away from taking or sending any nude pictures to anyone, they might just end up all over the internet.

[Anonymous]

okay, you don't have to do ANYTHING you are not comfortable with. not for a second!! if he won't listen to you then you to set him straight up tell him "listen, I'm not sending you nudes. it makes me uncomfortable & your my boyfriend you should respect that." he needs to respect your wishes. because without respect, you have nothing. & you made a mistake. so what? don't let him keep bringing that up. he said he forgave you, so that should be the end of it. if he keeps talking about it & bringing it up, maybe you should like sit down & talk with him. let him know it won't happen again & he has nothing to worry about because it was a mistake, you're older now & understand now, & if he truly forgives you then he'll stop bringing it up. but he will stop asking if you tell him directly that it's not going to happen, so he needs to get over it. & if he doesn't quit asking he may not be the right guy, ya know? he might be in it for the wrong reasons & that's not okay. he needs to understand that you aren't comfortable with that & if he can't understand it, it might be time to leave him because you should not EVER have to put up with that.

[abundantlyrich]

That just point to the fact, your boyfriend is going to get you and your parents in legal trouble if they found nudes on your phone.

It should always be an astounding no. It will come back to haunt you for years and you'll always beat up yourself for being stupid.

Have you read some of the stories that the guys circulated those pictures around before the whole school knew about it.

You need to develop a backbone here or learn it in the most terrible way.

[MadameJulietta]

Hell no, tell your boyfriend one more time that you’re not going to send him naked pictures, now or ever. But this time, try telling him more sternly. Say it’s never going to happen, and you’re sick and tired of him asking.

You don’t need to explain why you don’t want to, but if you feel like that might help, just let him know the reason. Don’t let him try to talk you into doing it. Be firm and don’t let him guilt-trip you.

Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Mr Manipulation is at play. Don't give in to this because even though you say he wouldn't do anything to hurt you, he actually already is - he's hurting your heart and your head with all this pressure. If he keeps bringing stuff up, tell him that once and for all you're sorry and that's it. If he brings it up again, just totally ignore it. He's hurt so he's reacting this way.

[Aizou]

Don't do anything you don't want to
and don't let people's words sway your feelings.

"IF" you decide to anyway, don't include your face
or anything else, that could reveal your identity.

[jacquesvol]

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[simplegal123]

Don't do it... tell him straight and blunt 'No'... if he understands well and good... else break up... he doesn't deserve you honey...

[Anonymous]

This can get him sent to jail for child pornagraphy. Don't do it. For both of your safety

[psychomonkey]

If he's asking for nudes send a picture of a monkey.

[Anonymous]

Don't do it, he needs to lay off with the pressuring

[itamar2404]

If u want send... if not dont send... its ur body girl...

[Iron_Man]

Dont ever send anyone nudes no matter what

[atomique]

I second this

[Iron_Man]

Thanks