How do I help him?

[Anonymous]

I just really need advice sorry it's long!
Okay so for context me and my boyfriend have been together for almost a year now we live kinda far from each other so I can't just go see him whenever but he's amazing and it's really the best relationship I've ever had because I know he loves me for me not my body I've never had that before and I love him so much but my boyfriend is depressed which I knew already so that's nothing new but when he's feeling at his worse he talks to me less I've noticed he says is because he doesn't wanna put down he wants me to be happy and not depressed bc he's depressed but that only worries me bc because I know that he's suicidal there was 3 separate occasions where he told me he was possibly going to kill himself but I don't know if he's actually attempted to or not and yesterday he literally said he said he feels like he's losing himself again and he told me to have a good rest of my day and I was asking him if he was okay he looked at it last night but he didn't reply and I haven't talked them today yet I really miss him right now I just worry about him. And then he'll apologize for not talking to me but it's like why are you apologizing for being depressed and I don't know what to do cuz I don't want to force him to talk about something he probably doesn't want to talk about but also I just want to make sure he's okay I don't want to lose him. I've asked him about getting help before he said he didn't need it and I can't force him to so. I don't even know how I can help him or if I can help him when he won't talk about it and I've been crying I just don't know what to do.

[AI Opinion]

Navigating a relationship with someone you deeply care about while they're struggling with depression can be tough, but your love has the potential to be a great support! The main thing is to let him know you're there for him and that he isn't alone. Share your concerns lovingly and encourage professional help, as it could make a big difference. Your presence and understanding can mean the world to him, but remember to also take care of yourself. Mental health professionals are equipped to provide guidance and support, so don't hesitate to reach out to them, too! 💙 Stay strong and keep the love flowing!

[aaron13547]

I don't know if you can help him. It sounds to me like he wants your attention. Depression is a cry for attention if he really is a good guy and not just making excuses to not have to talk to you. You know the saying you can take a horse to water but you can't make them drink. You could surprise him with all the happiness in the world sugar and spice and everything nice but for a person to get out of a depressive funk they have to want more... you can show him how great and how much happier life can be with you. You can even show him when bad things happen you will still be there and all will be OK because its easier not alone. But he has to want to be happy or your energy will seemingly disappear. The only way to help him is to show him how much better life can be when he helps himself... good luck i wish you both the best don't give up but at the same time don't waste energy trying to change someone that doesn't want to change that will only hurt you both more in the long run.

[Staximus]

He needs to talk to a psychologist, psychiatrist, therapist, etc. When is the last time you saw him in person?