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I like I’m sure most of you see gimmicks constantly about how to get a partner keep a partner make a partner happy make sure they don’t stop loving you, blah, blah, blah blah blah blah blah. I think it’s all really overcomplicated.

in my opinion, If you’re good to yourself and good to your partner (something you can’t exactly prepare for or no until you get to know that person, specifically) and things still don’t work out it’s just not right.

A Partner like a friendship, fits into your life and when it doesn’t work despite your best intentions, it’s not the right fit. It’s strange to me to make sure they can make something work with the person they’ve never met. Because you can’t really know how to work things out with someone that doesn’t exist in your life yet.

I don’t think there’s a magic recipe. I don’t think there are truisms that span over billions of people exactly the same way. not beyond kindness…

And I’ve seen tons of relationships, where people went to all kinds of links to maintain a good relationship, and they followed all these rules and at the end of the day some worked some didn’t.

Trying to make something or lose yourself and that can cause the relationship to break apart if you came together because of who you are and who the other person is, and then one of you gets lost, that’s problematic.

Anyhow, I think the way that each person needs to be treated is Definitely context in case & person dependent. There’s no magic bullet. Except Kindness. But that’s true for any relation, not just partners.

I especially dislike people acting fake trying to impress the person And then you end up with someone that you’re not expecting at all. A disillusionment That is totally unnecessary and avoidable.

I think everyone is a little bit "broken" in some way or another, and definitely some more than others.
I think in my own experience I've not only seemed to attract broken men into my life, but it almost seems like I sought them out, on an unconscious level.. Like I want to try and "fix" them, or like I can help them, whilst they supposedly help me?

But this isn't always the case, this can be a recipe for disaster.. 💯
You can help one another along, thinking because you're both hurting or that you're in similar, yet different predicaments that you're able to sympathise and hold each other close.. but if you're not healing yourself, or have gotten enough support for your own issues first.. Then how are you meant to support someone else to the best of your ability? 🤔

Like wise, when it comes to healthy relationships, does this mean that you are able to rely on this person when something DOES eventually go wrong, not knowing what to expect because you were in a good head space to begin with? 🤔