My ex boyfriend has been calling me lately, what should I do?

[Anonymous]

Me and my ex broke up a long time ago(3 years specific) we remained as casual friends,while in our relationship we didn't had sex, first time we had sex out of our relationship was a year ago he already had a baby with someone else. He has a girlfriend but lately he has been calling me every night and telling me that we should hang out go see a movie or go to the beach I don't know what to do or what to tell him, I appreciate him very much but I am afraid to love him again or getting intimate with him while we are together alone.

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Thanks 4 the Advice guys btw I missed a tiny tiny detail...I don't know If it contributes to my question...before being my boyfriend he was my best friend since Middle School now we are both in college...

[Anonymous]

I'm going through the exact same thing right now. It's either two things, he genuinley misses your company and wants to see you or he is bored with his current girlfriend, so its easier to go to girls from his past to get some sort of ego boost/entertainment out of it. Either way how I see it, he is NOT feeling the girl all that much if he has to come talk to you and ask you to hang out. My ex has tried to make plans with me and stuff but you know what, I'm keeping my guard up because I don't know his true intentions. If there are still feelings btw you guys it will be very hard for you to keep those feelings away when you see each other. The last thing you want to do is fall for your ex again while he is in a relationship. In my case, my ex has been going out with her for 2 years, so though he makes it out not to be serious, 2 years is pretty long in my books.I think you should base your decision on how YOU feel, and what you know about their realtionship. My gut tells me for you to wait till he breaks up with his girlfriend THEN see him. If you stick around he will end up having the both of both worlds, you AND her.

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[Delicious]

He has a girlfriend? That kinda tells you what kind of guy he is. He wants the both of you , you have to let him know its not going to go down like that. Unless you do want to be friends with benefits, and I doubt you do especially if you don't want to get hurt again. I know you hear this alot, "you can do so much better"..even if you feel you can't you can.

Lets take tiny kitty steps... lets find you somebody that doesn't have a baby ? sound good trust me that'll just lead you to a world of hurt if you are not emotionaly ready for that kind of baggage, and baby mama drama. NO NO nobody wants that right?

xo

-Melody

[authentic]

He WAS your best friend but you splitted up for a reason(s). This doesn't make that much a difference regarding the situation you're in; a triangular relationship is a triangular relationship. Don't count on his leaving his present girlfriend either, why would he throw away his present pair of shoes when he can have two at the same time? If you refrain from contacting him, I can bet he will find another girl in no time to get what he is missing from his present relationship. He needs to face what he is running away from facing in his present relationship, and not cop out and drag a third party in, to hell (for the third party). Run.

[Asker]

Wow..harsh but true...

[authentic]

You must protect your happiness here. Bear in mind, your happiness is YOUR responsibility. Pls. look after yourself well. Trust you gut feelings (the "I just know it" type); they are not your day to day emotions which can easily be influenced/manipulated.

[authentic]

Whatever he is not getting from his gf, he plans to get from you. Whatever he is not getting from you, he gets it from his gf. He is selfishly using both of you to satisfy his wants. Hope this discussion on triangular relationships helps you. >>> link