Why Is My Cheating Ex boyfriend calling me?

[Anonymous]

It's been six months since the breakup and three months since I spoke with my ex-bf. We spent three years together and the last six months of the relationship he cheated on me and then lied about it.. Of course in the end I found out the truth but it hurt me very badly and it's taken months to get over it. I've talked to him twice since the break up but I found that I did not want to be in the "friend zone" with him, so I stopped all communication. That was four months ago.

Now he's broken up with the woman he cheated on me with and he's calling and texting me. I'm not sure what he wants. I think he thinks we can just pick up where we left off or be friends. I don't know what his motives are. He has called many times and I haven't answered. I need help on how to respond to him. I still love him but don't trust him. The cheating broke my heart, so I've have angry feelings about that. Should I tell him how I feel, not answer or answer and act like everything is fine.

I really need advice. Thanks

[MrMixedUp]

He wants to rebound with you, because he broke up with the other girl. Don't just ignore him, it will encourage him. If you don't want to get back together, You should call him and tell him, "Please don't ever contact me. I don't want to be friends with you, and I don't want to date you."

If you're considering getting back together with him, wait a few months to see if he's really interested, or if he's just trying to mend a broken heart by hooking up with an ex. He cheated on you, for chrissake!

[Asker]

You're right. Why should I waste me time with a man that cheated on me? I have no desire to get back together with him, because I could never trust him again. He betrayed me in the cruelest way. Thanks for the advice. It made things clearer in my mind.

[Reeses-pieces777]

um I would just ignore him. he sounds like a pain.

trust is a major issue in relationships. if you dont' have trust, the relationship is questionable in itself.

i dont' know if you're the forgiving type, but I couldn't forgive a guy for doing that.

he sounds like he jsut wants someone to comfort him. if he loved you, why did he cheat on you?

[Shlei3]

I would not waste my time with him. It's insulting that he thinks it's ok to call you more and more now that he's broken up with his ex. I would tell him to leave you alone and work on moving on. It will never work out so long as you have regret, trust issues and anger towards him.

[Asker]

Yes I'm sstill angry about what he did. I can't believe he has the nerve to contact me after what he did. I really think he just needed an ego stroke to make sure I was still interested in him. I would never be able to trust him again or do I even want to try. Thanks again.