My (now ex) boyfriend and I were fighting and I told him he's the worst sex I've ever had, he then broke up with me, is that a normal guy reaction?

[Anonymous]

Me and my boyfriend were arguing over the fact that he thought I was sleeping with someone else.

I kept saying "I'm not sleeping with anyone but you" and he said "yes you are, you are! I know you are, is sex with me not good enough for you?" And I said "you are literally the worst sex I've ever had and yet I'd still never cheat on you!"

Then he said 'fuck you, it's over, don't try to contact me again', then he walked out on me.

I've tried messaging and calling to apologize but he says he will never forgive me.

Why is he going so overboard?

I didn't mean what I said, I just said it cause I was so angry that he was accusing me of cheating on him. I really want him back, what can I do? How can I get him to forgive me?

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1 y

He accused me of cheating over the most ridiculous thing!

I've taken on more night shifts lately, I'm wanting more money to do some thing great for new years but he accused me of taking on night shifts to hook up with a guy that he 'knows has the hots for me' and works night shifts.

He saw that me and him became friends on FB recently and because I've been so tired from overworking I haven't been able to spend much time with him and he says it's cause I'm with that work mate!

[Finchie40]

By you saying he is the worst you ever had is basically implying to him that you did cheat on him , or you will eventually cheat on him , when a guy really likes a girl he wants her all to himself , most men are territorial of a girl he adores and loves , He doesn’t want to picture another guy having sex with her. A guy wants to please his girl , he gets turned on knowing she is getting off on him. It strikes his ego and makes him feel that she values him and loves him and doesn’t want anyone else to have her. So even though your words were out of anger it was the worst thing to say considering he was asking if you cheated on him? What is his reason for asking you that question? The thing is everyone has insecurities whether they so they do or not especially in committed relationships , We tend to think our partner will Get bored of us or be attracted to someone else , and think they would betray us , So something had to occurred for him to feel that way? Why it’s important to wear your partners shoes instead of just getting angry and defensive when they ask you if you cheated on them , Girls have a tendency to get very defensive and angry when her man accuses her of cheating , Instead of getting defensive ask yourself How would you want your boyfriend to respond if you accused him of cheating? Relationships have to go both ways , why it’s important to always wear your partners shoes before making decisions or saying something out of line , just because we don’t agree with something are partner says or does it’s always best to wear there shoes and remove selfishness for each other , Most people Don’t know what that means and
Then they wonder why they end up songle agaon

[Finchie40]

Ok put yourself in his shoes , How would you feel if he was working nights with a girl that was friendly with him and he added her on FB? Your suspicions would totally go up like his did , So the thing is you are going to really have to prove to your boyfriend that you don’t wNf anyone else but him if you truly love him , Delete that guy off of Facebook and distant yourself from that con worker as much as possible

[QuadDamage]

Jealousy, low confidence, greed, anger, irrationality. We all say and do stupid shit.

Guys can be very sensitive about their member if he somehow thought you meant that 🤔

I remember my first time with a girl like 400 years ago. I was really insecure about my soldier, I assumed she would think it was tiny since it is only average. I was porn damaged aswell and just 20 years old 😂

When I realised I was the one who thought it was tiny I never had any issues again. Practice makes perfect and there's always a way to make your partner feel satisfided if you turn each other on.

Man I gotta stop flying off the radar, just tell him it's a misunderstanding. You got pissed because he thought you're cheating. And he got sad and butthurt when you got angry and said that 👍

[Anonymous]

Guys are really sensitive about that sort of thing…. they’re worried about their size, their stamina, and their performance, etc.

[Anonymous]

They always say you were the worst sex they ever had after having sex with you 500 times. They're trying to hurt you.

[YourFavoriteFriend]

I mean, you didn't cheat on him so that's a good think. Now about the comment, I would break up as well. Of course, he's annoying af but in any case, saying to someone that he was the worse you had in bed while in a fight ("anger speaks the truth" they say), would be something I wouldn't even want to try to get over it.

The real question is why you want so much someone that's bad in bed and that is so jealous...

[Asker]

Because he's a kind soul and when he's not being insecure and jealous he is a beautiful person 😥

[1stupidrobot]

You imasculated and humiliated him. You may think you're benevolent and loyal for sticking with a guy who is bad in bed, but it's actually really duplicitous to think that and never try in any way to gently address the problem or educate him. I think you dropped the ball and should let him go. He has every reason to feel betrayed and mortified. You did him no favors by keeping that secret. Out of curiosity, why were you with him?

[Asker]

He isn't good in bed and sometimes even his kisses are slobbery🥴 But when he's not being insecure and jealous, when he's not yelling at me or getting angry about something stupid, when we're not in bed, when it's just us two watching a movie or cooking dinner together, he is the sweetest guy in the world, I am really attracted to his gentle nature and his kind soul, but, he rarely shows that side of him anyway, but I know it's there and I want to get him back, so badly😥

[JPresidente]

That kind of insult strikes at the heart of every man's ego because we pride ourselves on being able to please our women. The equivalent would be him calling you fat and ugly. You're gonna have to give him time for the hurt to heal then do something that changes his mind about your insult such as a nude pic with how you want him to ravage his body or just show up at his place in a trench coat with lingerie on underneath.

[Asker]

Would the trenchcoat trick work? Coz I am desperate to get him back😥

[JPresidente]

There’s a good chance, yes, because men are always up for sex, even when we angry. If it does, you have to name your first born child after me.

Just kidding. 😂. It should work though. He will get a 🍆 when he sees you.

[slatyb]

It sounds to me like you deserve each other.

More seriously, his accusing you of cheating should be a deal-breaker for you. Who worries about their partner cheating? Cheaters.

"I really want him back..." Why? Is he the last man on your planet? He sounds like a mess.

[Gent207-2]

Girl, you don't need that in your life let him go! Look life is short and you shouldn't waste a second more of it on insecure people like him.

P. S Mentioning sex out of anger is hitting below the belt and unless you never want him back - should be avoided at all costs. Plus if he comes back he will NEVER forgive you for this ever.

[crossdressingrihno]

Yeah sounds reasonable to me.


“Hey I know your cheating on because I’m not good at sex”
“You are the worst at sex”


Reaffirming his suspicions and insulting him at the same time.

[Asker]

Omg. I'm such an idiot 😔 I haven't been getting much sleep lately cause of working so much hours, the words just came out of my mouth in anger. I want him back😥

[Frank1010]

Why did he think you were cheating on him?

is your boyfriend on the smaller side?

if you said that to me while I thought you were cheating on me, I would basically take that as confirmation you were cheating on me. That’s a hard thing for a guy to hear, especially if he cares about you.

i asked about size bc I accused my ex of cheating to, which she denied, but that was bc I was self conscious of my size.

she was cheating on me even tho she told me she wasn’t and at one point towards the end, she told me she misses big dicks

[Asker]

He's on the small side. Sometimes I wouldn't know if he was inside yet, cause I couldn't feel anything 🙃

[spartan55]

Yeah, you fucked up good. You will never get him back.

[Asker]

Thanks for being honest 😔

[Anonymous]

"I didn't mean it" means nothing. You did mean it, you're just trying to reel it back in.

Imagine him telling you you're the worst lover he's ever had, but he still wouldn't cheat on you. How would you react? Would saying he didn't mean it make it go away?

For the gender that claims to be more emotionally intelligent, you ladies can be completely emotionally idiotic sometimes.

[boggboss]

I would say its a pretty normal reaction if he had any level of respect for himself

[JesseP1nk]

If he thinks you are cheating and you tell him he is bad at sex - its not gonna help your case.🤦‍♂️ He has more reasons to believe you are cheating since your sexual relationship sucks 🤦‍♂️

[Sevenpointfive]

maybe he doesn't understand what you meant when you said," you are literally the worst sex i've ever had"

i know the quote goes on but that's what he heard

[Andres77]

Sounds like you both need to grow up before you try another relationship

[Anonymous]

Yep, by saying that you just confirmed that you already cheated on him, or were going to.

[Wise4myage]

Well yeah, because you hurt his feelings.

[Snedger____]

You disrespected him and spoke in a very rude way.

[Alex8736]

ignore his messages for a week

[In_Trance]

smh... block him and move on

[Jamie05rhs]

WERE you cheating on him?

[Asker]

Absolutely not! Other wise I wouldn't even put this up.

[Jamie05rhs]

Okay. That's good.

[Jamie05rhs]

Well, you did let that guy friend you on Facebook.
Have you been talking to him at work as well?

[Asker]

Only about work matters and that's all. I've even shown my (now ex) boyfriend that even the Facebook messages are strictly about work and swapping and switching shifts around, I've become friends on FB with all my work Mates. But, if it's a huge deal maybe I should just unfriend him.

[Jamie05rhs]

It all depends whether the messages were strictly about shifts or about work in general. If you're in a relationship, you shouldn't be chatting with any dude from work outside of work. Even if it's about work. Those conversations can happen AT work.

[Jamie05rhs]

And technically being Facebook friends with new dudes that you didn't know before you met your boyfriend is kind of a no-no as well. Even if they're coworkers.