So, I am cheating w/a guy who has a long term girlfriend. I know its wrong -- so please don't judge me. I am just curious what all of you think about HIM. Does he still love his girlfriend? What makes a guy cheat if he is in love? What if he cheats and he's not in love? Why would he do this? Is it always just "getting something on the side" or is there more to it? We have become very good friends & confide in each other. I know its more than physical because he told me that. I guess I want to know what he think about his girlfriend more than me. Any ideas?
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I have been in your shoes only we were both married. I believe that people involved in a serious relationship yet still cheat are missing something with the person they are with. I am starting to think it is not just physical but I think there is an emotional disconnect. Because if he was getting all the emotional connection and physical connection he needed with his girlfriend, you would not be in the picture. It sounds to me like it IS more than just a little "something on the side". Maybe you have become his best friend as well as his lover. I think there are a small amount of men out there just for the thrill of it, but I think more often than not there is something missing at home. I know for me, I was with a man who adored me and listened to me and paid a lot of attention to me. I did the same for him. I was happier than I had ever been, we laughed and had so much fun together. I truly believe if we both were 100% happy at home neither of us would have strayed.
To me it sounds like your guy enjoys your company and that you are both getting emotionally attached. PLEASE be careful with your heart! In my case it lasted over 2 years and we got caught, his wife knows, so we cannot talk or email AT ALL. It is a long painful process. We also shared intimate conversations and knew everything about each other and families. Those talks are what I miss the most:(
But to answer your question...NO, he does not truly love his girlfriend or he could never cheat on her. (I guess I also just answered that question for myself!) Good luck to you...have fun, but be careful!3
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