2) Did you have feelings for the new guy?
3) Did the new guy know you were in a relationship?
4) Did you ever do it again?
5) Did you ever tell your boyfriend?
Lmao pretty much all woman who say they haven't are liars or just incredibly young. I can seriously name maybe BIG maybe 5 girls max who range from decent in looks to really pretty who have never cheated. Prolly less than that. I can name mass guys, you woman are spoiled rotten from the get go (On average their are some exceptions) and that's proven to develop narcissism and all kinda other self-centered shit. Guys grow up not being called prince's being spoiled we play with like action figures that actually have morales behind them other than image. Where as girls are literally brainwashed from a young age by playing with barbie dolls and shit like that. Just making them completley obsess over their image in an unpractical unhealthy way. So many woman these days literally can't accomplish anything without their looks. Foreal, you all have beauty pagents where 3 year olds dress up like sluts and wear mass make-up and shit and these insane woman think thats cute haha.
Lets not forget all this online dating going on right now either! Any half decent woman can get on tinder and hand pick just about any dude and hook up at a drop of the hat. Dudes have to go threw soooo much more effort because how narcacistic spoiled and picky these woman become from all these things. They dont appriciate a good mans effort anymore. Its also why these girls think their shit doesn't stink when they really aren't hott stuff like they think so they only try to mess with these super good looking or rich guys who end up being complete fuck boys and seriously see them as a peice of meat and end up cheating on them and treating them like shit. Usually when a girls crying about some shit like that that is why. Sorry but its true on average men cheat WAY less you just hear about it more because girls these days look for men for materialistic things and popularity and end up with the bad ones.
Relationships in this generation have gone to shit. If i ever wanted to talk to my parents for advice they would have no idea how to relate. Because shit wasent half as rachet as it is now. Thats also why the good dudes like me experience this type of shit and just give up on woman and just hook up whenever is clever because you cannot trust these woman AT ALL these days.
To the females who claim men cheat just as much as women if not more, you're so full of sh*t its coming out your ears. Women can get laid whenever they want, and are better at lying to boot. Women will cheat and everyone will blame the boyfriend/husband for it. If HE cheats, its also his fault. To the guys: dont believe what these women tell you. Dont believe any online surveys, or what some chick tells you in person. If a woman thinks/knows she can get away with it, she WILL cheat. Simply for the sake of experiencing new c*ck, getting off, or some other reason she will rationalize into it being YOUR fault. She'll go to the club, suck some guy off in the VIP, kiss some other dude at the bar, then leave with another guy and f*ck him, then tell the boyfriend/husband she slept at her girlfriends house. And if dude has two brain cells to rub together he'll find out, and when he confronts her guess what... its HIS fault. The female response query to the above question validates it.
This doesn't really answer any of OP's questions.
Do you believe every single woman cheats?
::maskedsanity:: given the opportunity, and if they truly believe they wouldn't be found out... yes
@MaskedSanity I agree 100% with him almost every grown decent looking woman from our generation of young adults has cheated. I have a decent amount of friends guys and girls from all classes of wealth and im telling you straight up, I can name maybe 5 girls max who are half decent looking (not even being picky) who haven't cheated in their lives. I can name so many guys i know for a fact who haven't cheated.
@MaskedSanity And i dont blame him at all if he sworn off dating ill date but best believe ill never have genuine real feelings for a girl again and take it too the next lvl. You gotta protect your heart and this day and age thats the only way you can as a male. I will prolly never get married because most these woman just marry someone use them for their money and cheat. Id rather keep my money and just do what i want and not get cheated on left and right. Kids the same way it would be cool to have a kid but bringing a kid into this world as fucked up as it is and where its going and trying to raise it with one these women, im goood. Id end up a single father because soon as i caught her up in some shit itd be over.
1. Yes...
2. I didn't at the start...
3. Yes
4. No
5. Yes
My boyfriend was a total jerk with me...I loved him deeply, I tried for a year to make him understand that he was hurting me deeply, he rarely showed that he truly cared about me... he always acted selfish.. treated me badly emotionally, accused me of cheating on him with my friend when it wasn't true... so much jealousy and emotional problems he had due to past relationships-or so he said..- and much more.. it was a long distance relationship. My friend treated me way better, he always showed with actions that he cared about me and never got in between... he always talked to my boyfriend to tell him to stop hurting me.. but my boyfriend never listened. Eventually.. I started growing feelings for my friend, and I felt so confused. I couldn't believe my friend treated me way way better than my own bf.. I didn't know what to do. Eventually my friend had fallen for me because I helped him get out of a hole by being a friend who always listened to him... I tried breaking up with my boyfriend many times but he'd threaten that he'd kill himself, that he couldn't leave without me, that he was sorry, that he was going to improve. But the improvement was minimal. I still felt my friend was showing me true love.. and not what my boyfriend showed me. He took me for granted. I was scared to let go of my boyfriend, so much time, so much attachment... I was also scared to hurt him and that he'd hurt himself.. but I was also scared to let a good guy go.. so without noticing I had already cheated. My boyfriend found out and he told my friend to back off but he said that he wasn't because he wasn't gonna let my boyfriend treat me like sh*t anymore. I took the decision to be with my friend who truly loves me... but I can't forget about my boyfriend, even knowing that he just made me miserable and having experienced what true love is from my friend... I want to forget about my ex boyfriend so I can let my love for my friend grow... I want to love him and only him, I don't wanna keep loving my ex, it's so damn hard. In the end the cheating ended up happening because of his own actions.. ironic, sadly...
@OatsnWhey Did u read what she wrote? He didn't treat her right, someone else did. I don't condone what she did but if you can't do the most basic thing a boyfriend should do (treat her right) then u are not innocent. Sometimes people don't know why they got cheated on or what the problem was but this guy knew he fucked up. Watch out for that guy who always try to fix ur relationship cos they are always the potential next boyfriend. There is no excuse for cheating tho
@BlackMaleYou Dude we can all say our partners didn’t treat us right. That doesn’t justify cheating.
@OatsnWhey Agreed but I find it hard to sympathize with the partner.
I was in my first serious relationship with a guy three years older than me when I first went away to college. I was all the way in the Arizona and he was in Connecticut. The long distance relationship was hard. It made me paranoid and jealous because he has cheated on me before I left for school so I thought why would I even trust him. I didn't know what I wanted but I was starting to become attracted to one of my neighbors in my apartment building. I loved my boyfriend at the time but I knew I wasn't going to marry him. I kept our relationship going. But I was seeing my neighbor at parties and he was always coming over to hang out. I really liked the way he treated me. My own boyfriend didn't treat me so nicely and offered to do nice things for me. My neighbor knew I had a boyfriend so he never acted on his feelings. I was the first. I told him I really liked him and wanted to see how things went. We hooked up off and on and it turned out to be awkward. So we just ended up staying friends. I wouldn't ever cheat again because I didn't like the way I felt afterward. And it's something I don't want done to me. I never told my boyfriend but a couple years after we broke up we ran into each other and I told him to just make him angry. But he was doing it to me all long too. It was the only time and haven't since. Haven't even considered cheating on my fiance now.
Hey does your fiance knows about your cheating record? I hope you didn't keep that from him!
I see you've thought it through a lot. You say it became awkward with the guy. Can you explain?
Have I ever cheated? (I define cheating as intercourse or oral sex; as such, hugging and kissing or copping a feel are not cheating.) And the answer is yes. Once. Spring break, freshman year of college; boyfriend didn't go with us, and well, I met a hot guy and we ended up in my motel room together.
1) Were you in love with you boyfriend? Not 'true love" but I did like him a lot. 2) Did you have feelings for the new guy? Nope. Just the mental rush of doing something that was forbidden. 3) Did the new guy know you were in a relationship? Nope, it wasn't a topic of discussion. 4) Did you ever do it again? Nope, we both got what we wanted, never even made an effort of get his contact info. 5) Did you ever tell your boyfriend? Nope, didn't see how it would be much benefit in telling him about a one-time thing.
For those who define "cheating" more broadly, I have "cheated" a couple more times; things like truth or dare games (had to kiss a boy), or being somewhat intoxicated at a party and making out with some hot guy. But all that sort of behavior ended by the time I got out of college.
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I have to say, the number of confessions here is quite saddening.
I've never cheated or been cheated on. If my boyfriend ever did, I'd be absolutely gutted. I can't imagine how one can rationalise infidelity and genuinely able to live with themselves after what they've done.
Cheating is despicable and hiding it is even worse.
To all my fellow women: No, it was not a "mistake". Cheating is DELIBERATE. You don't just trip and fall on a dick. Accept the fact that you acted on your selfish urges and work on becoming a less shitty person instead of making up excuses for your whoring behaviour.
A bad boyfriend does not justify your actions. If he was so terrible, why didn't you leave him, then?
Because you wanted to have your cake and eat it too.
@MaskedSanity Thank God a woman that thinks like u exists lol
I cheated on my boyfriend of 8 years. the thing that makes it complicated is that he is doing 10-25 years in prison. he been in there for the past 5. i cheated on him the 4th year into his term. i messed around with a guy i met at work twice. but he has a nephew that is friends with my son. so he still comes around. i haven't did anything with him but he believes we are together. I told thus guy we are not. I tried to tell my boyfriend i cheated but i couldnt do it because i know it would hurt him. dont get me wrong. im not perfect. i love my boyfriend with everything and what i did was wrong. but 1 day my son told his dad that mommy has a boyfriend. i didn't have a boyfriend but to my son it looked like i did. so thats when i told him yes, i slept with him twice. but its was more like once cuz the second time we started but i told him to stop and get off me. i couldnt do. but now that my boyfriend knows about thus it hurt him. he is upset becuse i didint tell him and i lied. i honestly dont know why i did what i did. now im sitting here fighting for my family and a bond that i broke. it wasn't worth it at all. i regret it so much.
Yes I cheat on my husband all the time Because I haven't had sex with my husband in over two years and Yes I love him been married almost 6 years. Have I had feeling for the other no I never have and Yes the other guys knew I was married it was always. Fwb relationships would I do it again Yes I got plans tomorrow to hook you and yes my husband knows about every time it was his idea because he can't get it up I'm 24 my husband is 54 and my husband knows I'm not going to be happy with not getting sex
oh if he knows then to me that is not cheating!
i see what you mean but in the very definition of the word "cheating" there's the implied notion of breaking some set of rules.. but the rules have been clearly laid out between you two and you have every right to go and fulfill your needs... so go on and get it on girl! ;)
I kissed another guy while I was with my last boyfriend once. Me and my ex were constantly arguing and I never felt appreciated. This other guy was a friend of mine for a long time who had been trying to get with me for years. I didn't have any feelings for him, but I wanted to feel wanted and I also felt like I should throw the guy a bone after all those years. The kiss was disgusting and it didn't mean anything to me. But it was still a bad decision and I don't see myself ever doing it again.
1. Yes
2. No
3. Yes
4. Nope
5. No
1) No
2) kind of, I had a lot more history with the "new" guy...it was kind of returning to an old fling.
3) I think he knew, idk.
4) No, I broke off the relationship as soon as it happened.
5) No
I only did once, but the relationship was pretty much over by the time I cheated anyway-- we had gone out for only a couple weeks before I left for college, and the long distance was not working.
I'm in another long-distance relationship now where I am tempted to cheat on my boyfriend, but I don't think I could ever go through with it (see my most recent question for a better explanation of that haha).
same
I cheated on my second boyfriend and no I was not in love with my boyfriend. The second one was suppose to be just a casual fling, it started right after me and my first boyfriend of five years broke up, and he knew this. I flat out told him I was cheating on him and that is when the second one wanted to break up, yes I had genuine feelings for the guy I was cheating with and I told him about my boyfriend. So when me and my boyfriend split up me and the guy I cheated with stopped sleeping together, remained friends for over a year, and in that year I did not date. My feelings for him never left, I just wanted to be absolutely sure we could get through the baggage together. We are still together, and I have not cheated again.
1. um... maybe?
2. um, no
3. um, no
4. um, no
5. um, yes. It wasn't really cheating, I knew the 2nd guy liked me but I knew him from work for a long time and it seemed we were just going out to a dinner and movie as friends but I'm SURE he wanted more but it was awkward and I canceled the date early. We didn't do much besides eat and then returned the movie tickets because I told him I had too much to do at home. Also he never knew I was engaged, but he liked me for a long time and he was so nice when he asked me out to a movie and dinner that I couldn't say no. I told my fiance later and he said "do you want to hurt me or something?" and I was like" NOOOO" hahah But I've been married over a year now so it was a while ago
to me that's not cheeting! cheating to me either involves some feelings for someone else OR some physical touching of some kind but you didn't even kiss him! or did u?
nope, nothing physical.
umm, um, um, um, um, no... no hahahahhahaha
Yes, when we were "new" he was ambiguous on what to call our relationship, wouldn't commit or declare me as his steady girlfriend. I told him I was being asked out by other people. He told me (too late) that he didn't mind me going out with other guys as long as I didn't sleep with them. I was really young (18) and I wanted other experiences and to really know if he was "the one." Turns out he was, and I eventually married him.
1) I thought I was in love with him, but he didn't (wouldn't) say it to me
2) I had f**k feelings for the new guy; the thrill of a new conquest---goes away if no love is felt
3) Not at first
4) Yes
5)Takin' it to the grave...
1.) Yes, but I was questioning it, because I had been in the serious relationship for so long, and at the time it was long distance.
2.) Not really, they weren't even "my type." They just gave me the attention I missed, and I liked it.
3.) they knew.
4.) I had a rebellious period of like 2 weeks, and I had kissed two different guys. My excuse was I really was planning on breaking up with my boyfriend, I just wanted to do it in person. I regretted it so much, and would never do it again though.
5.) I told him the first chance I got, and he forgave me. I would never again cheat! horrible idea!
yes I cheated once just before I got married ..I was testing myself and my commitment to my other relationship as he was ten years older than me at time ...I felt guilty I told him he didn't believe me ..he just laughed in my face as he just thought I was making it up..so much for being honest ..I ended up marrying my guy and five years later we had two kids he left me for an affair so well ..I got my karma back
Sorry to hear about your husband's affair. Did you love the man you cheated with? Was he someone you might have had a serious relationship had you not gone out with your (future) husband? Would you consider going back with him now? (Assuming he was still interested)
Yes and no. By my definition of cheating I have, as I have had a few "relationships" online while in a relationship and since I would consider that cheating if someone were to do it to me I will say yes.
1.) I loved him but wasn't in love with him.
2.) Yes, but not serious ones.
3.) Yes.
4.) Yes.
5.) No, and I doubt I ever will.
Interesting. Are you still with your boyfriend now? And if not would you ever consider a relationship with one of the guys you "dated" back then?
Yes, we have been together 3 years.
No, I wasn't interested in relationships with them I just needed to fill the void of whatever needs I had that weren't being met at that time.
That sounds awful but my relationship with my current boyfriend is very complex and only being held together by our son who is less then a year old, we have chosen to ignore our problems and pretend we have a relationship in order for my son to have both parents in one home. Unhealthy? Yes Doomed to fail definitely.
Interesting. A child really changes the game doesn't it. If it's doomed to fail though isn't it better for your son to finish it now rather than later? Or are you planning on staying in this relationship until your son is an adult?
Temptress I'm the same, I have a small child so trying to stay with my boyfriend but can't help cheating with the lad I really want
Yes, it would be the better idea, but since my son is still nursing and has never been away from me, if we were to split they wouldn't get adequate, to any time together.
Right now my son is about to hit some major milestones (walking and talking) so I don't want either of us to have to miss those first steps or words, so for now we will suffer in silence and try to find a way to remain civil, end the relationship on a good note and focus on being parents.
Hmm a friend of mine actually has a baby and is in the same situation. I shouldn't say friend anymore she wanted to cheat on her boyfriend with me and she wove a web of lies about needing help but then admitted she just wanted to sleep with me. It's hard for me to understand why someone would stay in a relationship that is clearly not working out but then again I don't know anything about child rearing. My thought is this: isn't it better for the baby to lose a faceless male than later a daddy?
i "cheated" when we were long distance for a year and hadn't seen each other. he was seeing other people and so was i.. we were supposedly in an open relationship, but to me it felt like cheating.
absolutely. no one has ever felt right but him.
I thought I did until I had my boyfriend in my arms again.
ya
nope. and never will
oh yes. I am completely honest 100%
Under similar circumstances (long-distance, gave each other permission to date others), I lost my virginity. I told him. He was mad. I felt guilty, but I kept hooking up with the guy anyway. I ended up taking my long-distajce boyfriend's virginity over Thanksgiving break.
1: I was inlove with my boyfriend.
2: yes I did, only because we were such good friends and had a strong connection.
3:Yeah he sorta knew but he really could have cared less. But after me and the new guy got into a fight he brought it up .
4: no I never did it again because I loved my boyfriend. && I just didn't feel like it was right.
5: Yes I told him because I felt like he need to know. It was not like I had the intentions of being with this new guy but I had liked him for so long. My boyfriend was very understand and said that it would take a while for him to trust me again. But he said that he loved me for my brokenness and every flaw I had
Ur boyfriend is such a disgrace to manhood. That's not love
1) no. 2)no. 3) yes. 4) yes 5) no.
What made me do it… well, first off I owed my FWB, nd I wanted to show him what I had learned since the last time I saw him. 2nd, my boyfriend was begining to get lazy in bed. And 3rd, my boyfriend was starting to become a total ass.
Interestingly enough, I got "3 chances to cheat. The 3rd time, I'm gone for good" I was up to chance 2, but he never found out about tw other 4 :D
1. yes
2. not at all, didn't know him
3. yes
4. no
5. yes, he was upset, but the only reason it happened was because I was angry at him, and spiteful.
that was two years ago, and I totally regret it. we broke up 6 months later. I have a new boyfriend and I will never cheat on him or anyone else again. promise ! :)
Such a loss!!
No, I never have personally because I love my boyfriend with all my heart and soul and would never do anything to hurt him. If I ever did, I would be honest and fess up. If I did it once, I would never do it again because I would break up with the person I cheated on because they deserve better.
yeah I have . it was my boyfriend for like 2 years and out of no where I started tlk to some other guy . and outta no where her kissed me . and I pulled away but the second time I didn't . I told him and he told me he knew and he forgave me. but I wouldn't do it again. it felt really awful and guilty . and then I happened to me with another boyfriend and it hurt.
So what happened with the guy you kissed? Did you stop seeing him? Did it become awkwards? Did you become good friends?
Jesus is it that hard to keep your legs closed!? Or break up with the boyfriend which by the way we will find out. Girls like this are the reason there are so many serial killers. Better believe when I found out the other guy better move to china cause he's going to die other wise
1.No, but I did have serious feelings
2.Nope, no feelings.
3.Probally he knew, buy didn't care.
4.Yes I did.
5.No I didn't.
The reason I did cheat was because I didn't thunk it would last long anyway but now that I look back at what I did, it was bad. But I did learn my lesson and now I'm one faithful person. And I would hate if that happened to me.
You say you didn't have feelings for him, so does that mean it was purely physical?
Well I just kissed other dudes but it was only once. I did regret it afterward. But never the less cheating is wrong and if you truly care about someone you shouldn't cheat, period.
Yes I would, I would tell my boyfriend that I have cheated.
Yes I've cheated on my boyfriend but never had full sex with another lad since been with him (we were arguing a lot at the time)
1) Yes I'm in love with my bf
2) I've always had feelings for the other lad
3) Yes
4) I haven't recently
5) No I'd never tell my bf
Did you cheat because at the time you were in a fight with your boyfriend or something was going wrong? Or were you just fulfilling your desires with this other guy you have feelings for?
I try telling myself it was because we were fighting but if had tell truth it was because I wanted the other lad and I'd prob cheat with him again
That's really interesting so you like two guys at the same time? Do they bring you something different?
Slut? I've only ever had sex with 2 people EVER and I've had feelings for the other lad since I was 15
I'm nit a slag I never had sex with the other lad and I've knowing longer than my boyfriend not like he just a nobody
Knowing him longer doesn't give him extra privileges
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