Yes when I was younger but I ended the relationship the second I did , pretty much my answer that I wasn’t happy in my relationship at that time , so I ended it the second I did. Cheating is only bad if you still try to stay with your partner after having sex with someone else , I never understood how a cheater could try or would want to try To go back to their partner like nothing happened , The cheater basically answered their own question that they do not love their partner if you can cheat on them , so why waste time pretending that you still love them? Cheating is one of the most horrible things to do to someone period, My ex wife cheated on me and tried getting me back , No way in hell would I ever Take a cheater back , After my divorce I dated again and slept with girls that I found out were married after the fact , which I ended the second I found out , they went back to their husbands like nothing happened , which just shocked the shit out of me , the one husband found out and showed up on my doorstep and I told him the truth that I didn’t know she was married and told him I wouldn’t see her anymore , He ended up taking her back which blew me away , We live in a fucked up world , To find someone faithful these days is a very slim chance. People today are very selfish and only really care about themselves. I feel social media played a big part on how people treat each other today , Selfishness is the biggest relationship killer and people aren’t as content anymore , constantly thinking grass is greener on the other side , I still try to date but most girls I date treat me like a convenience, so those types I just distance myself from them and just live my life , I am not into games and chasing , I can only give what I want to receive so until I meet one that treats me the same way I treat her my ass is staying single , Love can’t be forced it can only be guided The way I treat them
In any case, I have. I was dating a Vietnamese woman I met on Craigslist and we were intimate. She then told me that she is still married. It was an arranged marriage by their parents and she assured me she will divorce him. They have been married for just under 10-years.
I was pissed. Dating and having sex with married women isn't my thing. I then had sex with another woman. Afterwards, I felt so guilty. I broke it off with the Vietnamese woman because I thought she deserved better. Just because she is cheating doesn't mean I should.
To me, what makes it cheating is dishonesty or betrayal. If you tell your partner you're interested in someone then you're not being dishonest. If they say they're okay with it, but then change their mind, you did not cheat you just know not to do it again because now the boundary is clear.
I agree that when monogamy is agreed upon, you should not sleep with someone else. Because if you actually go through with it then you have crossed the boundary and you just shouldn't be in that relationship anymore because you clearly and actively chose to disrespect your partner.
I have a cuckquean kink, so most of my partners aren't so much "cheating" as they are helping me explore a kink. And typically I have open relationships anyway.
Long story short, cheating is bad but open communication is good.
I don't really know where the term came from or why it's spelled weird haha. But if you're the woman cheating on your man, he's a cuckold and you're the "hotwife."
I did that for ex one time. Actually no it was my idea and he dumped me right after and it was on my birthday... I didn’t even know it has a name then. How common is this? I thought I was a freak
Me and my husband married, I love him a lot, sex is amazing and all that. But he also is kinda verbally abusive at times and it made us divorce. During that periode I had small flings. But we broke up and made up a couple of times making it borderline cheating I guess, as he viewed it as we hadn’t been apart and he hadn’t done anything. Worrying he might leave again I sometimes had sex with someone else in the beginning of getting back together. Sometimes when we fought I had sex with someone else. I don’t anymore. In a way I have so much resentment towards my man and I know that’s why I cheated I felt so lonely and degraded. But that doesn’t make it right, there is no excuse. I hate myself for it, I really do. I am so fucked up and broken and disgusting.
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It is not so much about sex because sex with my man is the best, it is more about validation and i know how dumb it sounds. It is not right to cheat, don’t do it to your partner and don’t do it to yourself.
File for a divorce. That's not your husband and you don't have a marriage. Divorce and go do whatever you want to do. at least you've admitted to be broken and disgusting (your words). Then do the right thing and divorce. Stop trying to have your cake and eat it too. And then people wonder why marriage rates are an all-time low... smdh...
I have never cheated, I just think that if I am not interested in my boyfriend anymore I would talk to him to end our relatioship, I prefer to make my hypothetical boyfriend suffer because I left him instead of make him suffer because I cheated on him.
Absolutely not. Goes against the way I am raised and it goes against everything I stand for. Instead of cheating, I would just break up and find someone else. If I'm so unstatisfied within my relationship, I would just end and not have my cake and eat it too.
I've been cheated on in the past, so i know the cost of betrayal. I'd never hurt a guy like that.
Plus, I have a very strong conscience and profound empathy, so even if he would never find out I'd still never cheat, because I couldn't live with the guilt afterwards; guilt is too heavy of a burden to carry.
No, I have too much of a conscience and I 'm also not a selfish person in relationships. I definitely try to take care of my partners rather than hurt them.
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I would rather not be in a relationship than cheating, I don't understand the psychology of the ones who cheat on their partners... Like why would you do that? I'm in a long distance relationship now, I've not met him yet (we met online) and he's the only one in my mind and it's been so for the past one and a half years and it'll remain so. We had plans to meet in January 2020, but the covid 19 messed all our plans up.
No and never will. Idc what the situation is. I don't believe in doing it to get revenge either. It's stupid and doesn't benefit anyone. If your partner cheated first then do you really think they will care if you do it to them back? When they never cared about you to begin with. Just leave if they did you wrong and move on.
I have never cheated on anyone before, at least I don't think so, because if I were aware that I have I wouldn't be able to live with that kind of guilt.
It was 5 years ago. We met him at the university. we became lovers, it took 2 years. then I found out he cheated on me. I abandoned him. He asked me to make up over and over again. But I never forgive him. I blocked his social media and phone number. It's been 3 years since I broke up with him. He was a very liar, selfish and very bad person. I am happy to leave him.
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