Have you ever cheated on a partner?

Question

Most people have firm beliefs about how often people cheat and which sex cheats more often but I think those opinions are usually based solely on their personal experiences. So let's do a poll on this subject.

I will define cheating as engaging in any behavior which is reasonably calculated to lead to the advancement of a romantic or sexual interest. Holding hands with or kissing someone else is cheating. Meeting them for a romantic dinner is cheating. If it is something that you must hide from your partner and it involves dating/courtship behaviors, it is cheating.

Cheating involves violating a promise or a clearly understood expectation of your partner. If you are married, separate and file for divorce, and then get involved with someone else, that is NOT cheating. If you know that your boyfriend/girlfriend expects that you are going to be monogamous and you are flirting with and kissing the new receptionist at work, then that is cheating.

So. . . have you ever - even just once in your life - been unfaithful to or cheated on a partner?

ragequeen · Accepted Answer

I treat my partner the way I expect to be treated. If I don't cheat, I expect them to be faithful to me too. If they cheat on me, I would like to think that what they are really saying is "its okay if my partner did this too" but it's never like that. Cheating partners often would get pissed if their partners cheated on them. It's double standards. I HATE that. People who cheat are selfish, insecure and unstable people and there is NEVER a valid reason to cheat on someone. I also dislike that a majority of cheating partners never get caught. If you're truly unhappy in a relationship or hate the person you're with, why sink to their level? If you find yourself to be easy to tempt why be committed to someone? Nobody is forcing you to stick around. I know sometimes it's easier said than done, but hurting someone's feelings is never okay. It's better to break up while your partner seems like the bad guy, than to cheat and to be caught and the whole world looks down on you. Long story short, I have not cheated and I refuse to.

Ozanne · Accepted Answer

I am very happy to have gone my whole life as a faithful partner to all guys I've dated, including the ones who didn't deserve it.

I've always known right from wrong, but when I was a young girl I experienced how hurtful cheating was at home when my dad did it to my mom. Being the daughter, and not one who was actively in the relationship as a partner, made me see how awful it was to make me never want to be that person to anyone. I lived with the hurt watching my mom suffer with so much sadness. I also was amazed by her strength when she took him back and I saw the change in my dad that has been for the better since then.

Apple1996 · Answer

No but I have had multiple friends with benefits at the same time and that did feel a little like cheating since some of them wanted to be with me so badly and theyd get hurt when they see me being lovey with someone else.

sejla · Answer

No it would eat my soul. Either leave if I'm unhappy with my current partner if I had one or be honest with my partner if I felt I was wavering or just put a lid on it

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

Obviously I'm in the 30 and older 🤣 I've never cheated on a partner and never will

matt_gymrat · Answer

First chick I attempted to date. She was a 18 and I surmised that she had a body count of over 32 .

Not only was I just a squeeze I was one of several. Along with her excuse for breaking up was nothing she couldn't give me one. Other than the stupid attempt of trying to make me understand that. she's and I quote. "young and she needs to get sexual activity out of her system and party and have fun and live her life as an independent woman" Living in her mother's basement and her father's very apparent discontent and disgust on the fact that his daughter is burning fucking whore and he's sick of her bringing new guys over.

(((( he liked me funny enough which was I think another catalyst. And there was also very apparent signs that he diddled her when she was younger cuz she wasn't fucked in the head enough as it was. Probably would cause it sadly enough. ))))

And her mallet smacked face of a little 15yo sister tried to make it seem it was okay for her to fool around with other guys while seeing me. Sorry you Brainless little shit "niet" as they say in Russia. Anyway New year's Eve night (2019) she went and got drunk with friends and likely got fucked. She was apathetic I couldn't come when before she did. she kept her camera black and the lights off. Said she really wasn't in the mood, and really drunk. We lasted a week after that.

I still got the last laugh cuz even after multiple attempts of me trying to get my soldier to stand to attention. (I was suffering from testicular pain at the time and also being stoned out of my gourd didn't help) looking at her traps and trapezius far larger than mine with no ass.🤦🏼‍♂️🤦🏼‍♂️🤦🏼‍♂️ Yes men do stupid things for any skin is infallible.

Our last attempt of coitus led to me being in a massive pain and slight delirium. Me still not knowing whether I said to myself or out loud. "What am I doing here" to this day.🤣

As it stands she still has a really "really sick back man" I can only hope to get one just as defined & large as hers one day. She still posts photos of the ass that she doesn't have. I laugh because I'm still continuing on my journey of being in the gym for the past 2 years. I still have some Pudge but I have an opportunity for employment soon so it won't be long until it's all gone. (I'll be able to eat more) Then I will make her ball with my rippling abs and throw my head back because she's still fat with an even a bigger count now than what she was before. [COUGH 82 ) COUGH)

come hell or high water there shall NEVER ever ever be a time where I do not express my opinion about how a woman should act, be or what her body count should NOT be. I'm one of the poor mother fuckers who are will never ever take it the lying down again. This world has forged me and I will not let another single man go through what I went through.

CubsterShura · Answer

Never cheated. I didn't even dance with a guy at social events where everyone was grabbing a date and my friends were trying to join me up with some guy. I once had someone trying to pull me up from the chair to dance and I literally yelled and begged her to stop. This was my situation even after my boyfriend said it's fine as long as my dance partner doesn't touch me inappropriately but I still didn't do it just because it felt so wrong in my own head!

I did platonically shake hands and give brief hugs though, that wasn't a big deal to me.

Yads_Is_Back · Answer

I’ve never cheated. When I’m really into a guy I don’t really care to notice others, if that makes any sense. They just don’t catch my attention like they once did. I realize that for some people it’s not that easy so I try not to criticize them for having that desire, but if you’re unhappy with your partner then you should talk to them instead of being devious behind their back.

DeeToPlay · Answer

I have unfortunately been unfaithful to my partner in my past. I'm without any argument guilty of going to the fullest in my endeavors. I had multiple extramarital incidents. I eventually admitted to my transgressions to my then wife only because she was convinced that it was true but was confronting numerous women who were not among the those that had been with me. I refused to name names because it would serve no purpose. I don't recommend this direction of behavior as we as I don't recommend getting married at the tender age of 21.

Lliam · Answer

When I was in relationships in my teens and early 20s, I had girls hit on me. A couple even kissed me in an effort to take it to the next level. I didn't take them in my arms or kiss them back hard. I had a chivalrous streak and didn't believe in cheating.
I don't consider some girl kissing me to be cheating. My opinion of cheating is narrower than yours.

cjgsu · Answer

Nooo.  Never.  I been cheated on by my first boyfriend back in hs, and the pain I felt from it made me realize I would never want 2 cause someone else that kind of pain.

SjE78 · Answer

i'm 42, soon to be 43 and in all my years i have NEVER cheated, never saw the point in it nor wished to inflict that torment on any of the women i shared my life with... but i have been cheated on and thrown to the side after being used, and yet despite that... i refuse to do to any woman what was done to me... as such i pride myself because of it.

spartan55 · Answer

Never have, ever. I would say being faithful is one of my strongest held morals.
I was cheated on once that I know of by a girlfriend when I was 19-20, but it wasn't traumatizing by any means.
I've always said if that is what I want to do (by with multiple women at once) I'll just be single.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes I have cheated on my serious girlfriend on a couple of occassions in a span of 2 - 3 years. I was distracted I guess.

I ate 3 pussies. Licked 2 assholes. Got my dick sucked. Fucked all 3 of them. Once I was in the act and my girlfriend called. I handled it well.

Did I feel guilty? Yes I felt so much guilty but I never told her about it. Else she'd have left me.

Nonetheless, we broke up after 4 years. I got to know she was trying to get back with her ex.

Lol karma!

Anonymous · Answer

Yes I have and you can call me a sociopath or whatever but I feel no regret. I'd been tired of the relationship for about a year by that point do I didn't care. I didn't end things with her because I didn't want to called the Bad Guy among friends. I was secretly glad when she broke up with me over some vague shit that I don't even understand. Anyway we weren't having much sex by the time things ended so I don't regret that either.

Browneye57 · Answer

Yes, absolutely. Cheated on my ex 'till I found one more worthy. Then married that one.
My first wife thought cooking cleaning and fucking were three cities in China. That divorce cost me right about a half-mil.
People ask why divorce is so expensive - BECAUSE IT'S WORTH IT!!!

Anonymous · Answer

I’ve never been unfaithful to anyone. I’ve also never stayed with someone if fallen out of love with, although I have tried to make it work before I left. I just don’t want to perpetuate the crap that already exists in the world tbh. If I can leave anything behind I’d rather it be inspiring and encouraging positivity than anything else. And that’s not me thinking I’m perfect because I’m definitely not. But I don’t aim to do anything carelessly.

19magic · Answer

What about if you knowingly and unknowingly had a ons with someone married and a fiancé, it was a really dark time in my life

douride2 · Answer

I never have & never will cheat. I know how much it hurts to be cheated on & I would never put anyone through that.

prince350 · Answer

It depends how you set the bar - while technically in a relationship, but in a period of her thinking if she wants it or not, I have had sex with another woman.
Never 'cheated'on anyone, though - always thought it brings far too much bad luck (and postnatal depression)

DepressionXglitter · Answer

When I was experimenting, I was dating a guy. I hung out with my friend (a girl) and ended up kissing. Let me just say, that's the moment I realised I was a lesbian.

Liam_Hayden · Answer

I have never cheated on a lady, but I have dated multiple at the same time when not in a relationship.

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