Have you ever cheated on your SO? How did you validate yourself? Did your SO ever find out and what was your excuse to them? Was it worth them finding out? How long did the affair go on? If you have cheated, would you ever forgive your partner if they cheated on you?
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Have you ever been cheated on? What was their excuse and how did you find out? Did you break up or give it another chance?
My wife and I have had ongoing problems in our marriage for years without any compromise. I reconnected with a friend from work. Ended up cheating emotionally. As such, I didn't think it was cheating. My wife knew her too and we all figured, it's good, "we're just friends". But we would buy each other things, sometimes expensive stuff; I'd plan and make little surprises for my "friend".
My friend and I both had extreme difficulty balancing feelings for each other- first major red flag. I was her go-to person for everything- treated me like her partner yet would push me away at the same time. I began prioritizing my friend's every need, waking at 2am to answer calls or help her with whatever. After two years, I had keys to my friend's house and we were hanging out alone together. There wasn't any kissing; but lots of holding and touching. It was very intimate and I began having very strong feelings for my "friend". I frequently fantasized about sleeping with her. My friend even made quaint references to what married life would be like together. Major red flags.
Even so, I always maintained open comms with my wife, who validated my friend wasn't just a "friend". My wife and I talked and took actions on how to improve our marriage shortcomings. I accepted I was having an affair. I told my friend the honest truth- that I fell in love with her... and I want her to be happy which meant I needed to do the right thing and leave her life so she wouldn't be anchored to a man she cannot have.
It was the most painful breakup I ever experienced. Friend was crushed. She did not take it well and moved out of state. Wife is happy though. Ultimately my keeping open communication with my wife won in the end.
I was in a long distance relationship for 3 years. I was a friend;'s graduation party and I met a girl there and we hung out for a long time just talking and when the party started to end she invited me back to her dorm room. I thought we were just going to talk and she suddenly asks me if I wanted to have sex with her. I never had sex with anyone before and I figured it might be years before I had the chance again so I did it. I regretted it. My girlfriend never found out. I broke up with her a few months later anyway.
I have never cheated in any of my relationships. However, I have been cheated on, which ended our marriage because the trust was broken. Once that happens and you know the person you're with has the capacity to cheat and trust is gone FULL STOP! Then there is the emotional cheater that constantly hurts me with doing that. People here on GaG think there is nothing wrong with watching porn. What happens if a guy is addicted to it and can't stop? Lot's of relationships end because watching porn everyday is emotional cheating, and the cheater believes it won't harm their relationship. They are so wrong! 💔
I have never cheated ever. I never will. I have way too much to lose. My soul mate for a start. My work partner, too. We work on the same research project.
There are no excuses for cheating. It is never an accident or a mistake. It is always a deliberate act of betrayal. No person, girl or guy should be forgiven or forgive.
I've never cheated but I have been cheated on years ago. She blamed me for it and said it was because I wasn't an attentive partner. She should've talked to me if she felt that way. She was just looking for any way to justify her actions. I didn't have the self esteem in my early 20s that I do now. I should've left her immediately but I took her back. It was a terrible decision, of course, but I ended up leaving her down the line.
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Yeah. With our roomate. They had gone out that night clubbing and came home, i was workingin the morning. My ex had passed out on the couch, our room crept into our bedroom while I was sleeping thinking it was her room and I was her boyfriend. I awoke to my dick being sucked and she hopped on my dick, was only when she started moaning that I realised it wasn't my girlfriend but I was already cumming.
Sort of. We had made clear that we were not exclusive (friends with benefits) but somehow she got it in her head that we didn't really mean that and got upset when she later asked me if I was sleeping with other girls and I answered honestly.
Yeah The Bitch Broke one of my Video games So I Took another girl to my house while my girlfriend was there and Fucked the other girl Right in front of her.
I have. Mostly unknowingly. Pretty much lot of things are cheating to other person. Sometimes it takes a while to digest a fact how this could be cheating but very many time it is.
