Have you ever cheated on your girlfriend/boyfriend, wife/husband?

[ShadezMcgee]

Just curious to see.

1.) What led to it?

2.) Did you regret it?

3.) Did you cheat again with the same person or someone else?

[DizzyDesii]

Not physically. I admit i emotionally cheated whenever I felt trapped and they wouldn't let me go despite trying to break things off. I found comfort in the words of another (not arms of another), which may be just as bad. I dont regret it. But i also can't keep stuff like that to myself. I’d tell the guys and although they’d be hurt, they forgave me... probably because they knew i wanted to leave anyways. Im not the type to say sorry because Im not sorry. I’m just the type to come clean. Apart of me wants to say they shouldve been a better boyfriend but another part reminds myself that i couldve been the bigger person and just broke up anyways. But nah in the end i always chose the person i initially started with. Sucks because thats never where my heart lied in the end

[ShadezMcgee]

Better boyfriend in what way? Do you view all the relationship failures as their fault?

[DizzyDesii]

Did you not see where in that same sentence i took accountability? And better boyfriend as in if he did what he was supposed to, i wouldn't have to seek comfort in the words of another. I then said that i couldve been a better person in general and just broke up rather than tried to stick around hoping things got better and when they didn't, go seeking comfort elsewhere

[ShadezMcgee]

Hey, hey, no need for that. I saw it. I was asking for clarification for that reason. You said being a better boyfriend if he did what he (they) were supposed to do. What did they fail to do that made you seek out emotional connection?

Your accountability was phrased in a way that said it was relative strictly to the breaking up before the emotional cheating. Which is what prompted me to follow up with what I said. I personally believe both couples are responsible for the way a relationship goes.

[DizzyDesii]

Its too many to go on about but to sum it up, they sucked at communication and timing. I really try to give my all in a relationship and I try to be understanding and work with people. I used to give chance after chance. But now im no nonsense. I lay on the table what I’m about. But i keep getting people who feel the need to pretend they are about the same. As the months go by, their true colors and differences appear. I call it out and they admit they said what they had to say to “get me”. But being honest NOW is not going to “keep me”. So i’ll state that we should end but they’d claim they can change. I dont understand why anyone would want to change for a person. I dont change. Im very set in my ways. And they never actually change. It more cover ups and they never know i have connects who share everything I need to know. I could basically blackmail these dudes but I dont. I just let them continue to creep and “hide” as I start talking to my backup. Then when the guy actually does seem like he genuinely wants to change, I feel bad, drop the backup, and admit that I was ready to leave him for someone else. Then he truly does change, we’re all happy go lucky for some more months. And then i just lose interest. I just get a sensation that its not genuine and that they just say whatever again to keep me. Since they won't let me breakup, I self sabatoge until they let me go. So its like its their fault but its my fault too. I dont mind being the bad guy as long as i can be free from a bad relationship

[On_cloud_wine]

Why do you have your exact location in your profile?

[On_cloud_wine]

I’ve never cheated but those close to me who have cheated because they took a “break” and it was her boyfriend’s best friend.. he never found out until years later. Another cheated because she thought he was cheating on her by just rumors

[On_cloud_wine]

The second one has been cheated on and cheated herself with numerous partners.

[On_cloud_wine]

Haven’t talked to her I. A decade sInce I discovered this. I suppose she thought it wouldn’t bother me so she was honest with me, but one of her ex’s was my friend.

[ShadezMcgee]

That is for sharing. To follow up with your initial response, that isn't my address. It is a reference to a TV show.

[RangerBlue22]

I cheated only once in my life. It was on my first girlfriend when I was 16 back in HS. I confessed it without her asking me. She not surprisingly dumped me a week later.

After that I made a vow to never do that again. It’s been over 20 years now and I can proudly say I never cheated on any of my gfs during that time.

[NathanDavis]

nope, and not even close... never put myself in such positions either, nor entertained attempts from other people for anything like it

[JustinTheGreat]

I cheated on someone in high school

1. We were long distance and I couldn’t handle it

2. Yes.

3. It only happened once

[TrillXHippy]

I’m not gonna cheat on someone that I never thought I would ever be with

[worldscolide]

I have never and would never cheat.

[Wise4myage]

I’ve never cheated.

[FckY0u998]

no but she has

[Lliam]

Nope.

[Slim57]

No I haven't and never plan to