Ex girlfriend has new boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

My ex has got new boyfriend this week a part of me is happy cause but other part hurts not sure why. I think its cause about 1 week ago she said ' that one night she had a cry because she missed me' and stupidly said it back.

So she said had a cry about me and missed while she was dating a guy is this normal for girls? or is she just a bit crazy lol

We were in a 3 year relationship and has often told me she miss me and still wonders what a future would be like with us.

[chelseababe]

Actually, men take a lot longer than women to move on from a relationship. The reason for this is because men are socially trained to be "tough" and not show emotion. Therefore, they don't talk about their feelings, but rather try to bottle them up and/or medicate them. Women on the other hand, discuss how they're feeling and process a break up in a healthier way. In my personal opinion, I also think that men tend to love women more than women love men. A guy may not know how to express it, but he usually loves his girlfriend much more than she loves him. Even if a break up happened months ago, if he loved you, he probably still does.

Just because he "seems" like a player doesn't mean that he's over you. I talked about how guys sometimes "medicate" when it comes to break ups. The number one way that guys do this is to try and date lots of other women. They do this to distract themselves from their feelings and numb the pain. But trust me - late at night, when they're alone they think of the girl they truly love - the one who broke their heart.

[Old_School55]

so true! I am impressed that you can say something like that that takes a guy's side. I hated the fact that I wasn't over my ex for such a long time while she had already fallen head over heels for

her next boyfriend. But on the flip side, do girls really get over the guy that breaks their heart? How?!

[steve1234]

got that in one!

[Xia90]

disagree I can get by fast.

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

sad but true. It also happens to be because men are, tbh, far more invested in relationships than women.

[gummybear888]

i think she sounds like she isn't over you or she's playing mind games. that's messed. she needs to figure out her feelings. I have at times thought about one particular ex boyfriend and wanted him back but the reasons were nt enough. the fact is she's got a new man so just relax and focus on you. she can't say 'i miss you' and have another guy there dating, because maybe she's referring to 'i miss the conversations we had or the way you did certain things for her' but if she really missed 'you' , she wouldn't be dating someone else. I believe this is what she means. I've never said 'i miss you' to an ex boyfriend yet, possibly because of my personality being black or white, yes or not, nothing in between. I hope my answer helps.

[Coleen]

Huh? I am so surprised that you bought into the advice from that guy. It is normal to love someone and then for what ever reason it doesn't work, you try to move on, but still have feelings for someone else. that isn't manipulation. It is normal. Why did you break up? If you broke up with her, well (duh), she wants to be with you. If she broke up with you, I cannot sit here and try to think of why she might do that, go out with someone else and tell you she misses you. Maybe she loves you, but there is something in your life or hers life that makes the relationship too hard (or just not likely for the future), no matter what her feelings are. In the end, she was just being honest with you.

[DonMichelle]

My advice is far more accurate than your own. 'This guy' knows what he's on about

[Coleen]

I disagree.

[DonMichelle]

Unfortunately man it looks like she's a con artist and by you being open you've 'exposed' yourself, she knows how you truly feel. Is your ex high maintainance, needs a lot to please her, feeds off attention? I assume you've had 'breaks' in your 3 year relationship and then decided to work things out? It isn't normal for girls no, it's just these particular type of girls who need men to feel wanted, almost the female equivilant of a player but a lot more cunning, decieving, manipulative. I'm guessing she also thinks quite highly of herself?

[Asker]

yeah dude your spot on! Yes she was high maintainance, we did have one break during the 3 years at the start and she does think highly of herself. That's scary buddy. One more question will I stop getting the mixed signals now she has someone?

[DonMichelle]

Experiance tells me that if you do get any signals they'll be all of 1 kind, the signals that she wants you back... purely to manipulate your feelings and make you feel 4 her again. These girls don't mind if they have you, but they must have your attention, it's thier food, it proves to themselves that they are 'top notch' and DESERVE the best treatment. Does she have family, friends that think she's fantastic and the sun shines from her arse? A naive father perhaps who tells her she's an angel?

[Asker]

Jesus buddy! Yes to both your questions. I'm guessing you have dated a girl like this? I've been played big time, haven't I?

[DonMichelle]

I wouldn't say played completely without knoing more about your relationship, 3 years is a long time! And yes, I read these girls and destroy them lol. I've made 1 ill, depressed through special techniques lol

[Asker]

I feel like I should something to her but know that would feed her ego and can't see anything good coming out of it. Just going ignore any texts or calls that come my way. You have help a a lot dude. thanks

[DonMichelle]

Add me man, I'll teach you all you want to know about these rodents :)

Message me, we'll talk further 'away from the public eye' and yes... I'll respect your privacy. I know how you must feel man, I've not helped as much as I can yet ;)

[jcmrq]

Geez, dude, you totally described my last ex-girlfriend... scaring.

[jcmrq]

Would you care to teach me some of those special techniques you mention. See, right now I'm in the exact same spot as the question asker... This kind of ex-girlfriend, she got a new boyfriend, and now she comes back looking for attention, etc

[birrju]

forget her

becoz she will never be faithful to you. don't see her tear becoz tear come many times by any means but there is no mean that we trust on them

one who can cheat once ,can cheat many more times as well

so my friend forget about her and try you searh another true love that is rare or you can say almost impossible...

[typewords]

omg I feel that exact same way .. I'm that girl I feel... Like... she does love you and I don't she she hasn't let you go.. right now she just needs someone to filll in heart ach and hold her while she finally realizes that she wants you and you want her! THats what I think I'm in the exact position! but I been 2 years relationship :"(

[okeybabe18]

for some girls,dating somone else is a way of getting over your previous boyfriend, some people wont, and will just sit and hope it works out others will get someone else so they can move on from you, its not a bad things its just simply simply a way of moving on, it may not be a serious relationshio and it may even bring it back to her, as she may find its you she needs and she doesn't want anyone else.

[cutybrittany]

i agree with coleen because she must still have unresolved feelings. I am dating guys but I miss my ex too. I am trying to figure out how to move on but the thing is I want my ex back. What is wrong that your ex is doing is she shouldn't already have a boyfriend she is leading a guy on...

[Beka31]

Of course it's normal for girls! It happens with me :(

Girls feel lonely when they broke-up (even if they where not really in love with their ex).. They miss to be loved, to listen to that magic word "I Love You"..

[dave216]

I see why you posted this anonymously. You are acting so feminine about it. Guys don't behave like this. If she is the ex, forget her and move on to a new one. Half the worlds population is female, you can certainly find a replacement for her.

[Dominika]

even if you guys are over, girls often keep missing you and thinking of you. if the relationship was big, you'll always be important for her

[Anonymous]

she is proabaly with the guy to see how you will react, altho if your not giving her the feeling liking your missing her too, she is guna move on to get over the heart ache

[--phil--]

just let her go bro please man if you need help message me