Why the best friend of my ex still follows me and still sees my social media stories?

[Anonymous]

When my ex and I started dating, his best friend and I follow each other, but it's been 2 months since my ex and I broke up and his best friend still follows me/friends with me in social media and still watches all of my IG stories. While my ex unfollow me and unfriended me for a month now. So why is that?

[Anonymous]

Tbh, at least from my experience, guys don’t really put much thought behind things like that on social media, while we tend to question/over-analyze so many things. If you had no issue with the best friend, then he probably saw no immediate reason to delete you on social media, or didn’t even consider doing that. It’s unlikely that your ex asked him to unfollow anyway if you guys ended on a regular note.

[Asker]

Yeah, I still love him and he loved me when the breakup happen. But yeah I'm overthinking about it, I just thought it was weird, personally I unfollow my friend's ex as loyalty for my friend. Not that I have something wrong with his best friend following me still (is a he) I'm just overthinking about it lol

[RemoErdosain]

They're two separate people, so the fact that your ex unfriended you doesn't mean he has to do it also.

[Asker]

I just thought it was weird, personally I unfollow my friend's ex as loyalty for my friend.

[RemoErdosain]

It's probably the most polite thing to do, yes. I've never been in the situation of being following my friend's ex to begin with. I remember my brother's sister-in-law didn't unfriend him after he broke up with his ex, although he eventually unfriended her himself

[Asker]

Yeah I mean I have no problem with it. My ex and I ended things "good". We still loved each other but he didn't agree with it while I felt I needed time to take care of my wellbeing

[RemoErdosain]

Do you mean that you wanted a break? Or you just wanted to see each other less often, or something like that?

[Asker]

Long story short. I was dealing with monster in laws and it was making my depressed on how much disrespect I was dealing after I found how badly his dad wanted me out of the picture. And how much his dad manipulated and controlled our relationship. My ex noticed but I could tell he was in between from not wanting to believe his dad is this toxic person not just a "hard to deal person" and standing up for me. In the end it made me depressed and I don't know how else to stand up for myself. Since I saw he couldn't yet. I did told him I wanted him just not his dad. But we left things as that he never responded back after I expressed how much his parents were bringing me down but that I still love and care for him and wish we could have another try once we both strong to deal with his dad and able to stand up for each other

[RemoErdosain]

So you wanted to break things off until he wanted to defend you from his family?

[Asker]

Or when I felt strong enough to deal with it. I just didn't felt supported all the way. He agree he didn't like his dad doing or acting badly behind my back, or be passive aggressive, with my parents too and then him plotting to have my ex talk to another instead of me. He didn't agree with it all either. But whenever I express I don't want to be near his dad, he said yes I understand. And at the end of the day he will still take me to his house

[RemoErdosain]

The situation sounds very complex. I wouldn't want to be in either position in that situation: I think your ex had it tough too, with his father not approving of you and even going as far as to try to get him to choose someone else over you

[Asker]

Yes, I never told him to choose. Just to stand up for me whenever I wanted to set boundaries. I just wanted space away from his dad or for him to at least support me for wanting to talk to him about his disrespect towards me. In the end, I just woke up feeling empty every day for staying quiet and letting his dad disrepected me happen or letting it sly. My ex... I just wanted him to have my back. He would tell me (I don't know if it's justification to make me feel "better" or not) that no one in his family likes him since all he talks about its himself/money/materialistic things. I mean I could talk for hours of how his dad is toxic, not only to me, but to his family too

[RemoErdosain]

Yeah, it's a tough situation. At least you don't have to deal with all that drama now

[Asker]

Yes thank you. Still hurts to not deal with the drama of his parents/dad but that I lost him. I hope its all for the best too. Anyways - I still don't know why his friend would still follow me when my ex already did - to help himself move on.

[RemoErdosain]

Yeah, I have no idea why he'd do that. Only reason I can think of is that it didn't cross his mind that he maybe should do that as a friend

[Asker]

Maybe. It does make me overthink when I see him see all of my IG stories, like today he was the first one to see it after one min after I posted something. I don't know it does make me overthink something it's going on

[RemoErdosain]

Do you think he's into you?

[Asker]

No of course not. Last thing I heard about him is that he got a girlfriend, at least that was what I heard when I was still with my ex. But I don't think so, actually he was my ex wing man when my ex was trying to get me

[Iron_Man]

I don’t know it’s weird why don’t you ask him or her