How to stop feeling unlovable after a breakup?

[Mel2021]

After being dumped by my ex due to become stressed and suffering from reactive depression during the pandemic I feel no one will ever love me. How can I stop feeling this way?

[Rohaan2020]

U having this feeling bcs maybe in your mind u blame urself for your breakup previously... u have to stop thinking that way and let go off the last relationship... u have to love urself first to want others to love you...

[DaveToo]

If he left it's on him, not you. You invested part of your life in this guy. Don't feel unloved, be angry for him wasting your time and love.

[Mel2021]

Thank you, I sometimes feel I maybe wasn’t the perfect partner though with how my stress made me feel

[DaveToo]

We have all had to deal with stress. Some is more severe for some of us than others. There is no such thing as the perfect partner!! What you have to do is just realize there will be differences. If you can agree to disagree, when those times come up, you'll survive. If not then it's not meant to be. Move on.

[DaveToo]

Thanks for the MHO!

[Bklynbadboy12]

First off you have to move on posting question after question about it isn't helping you get out and about do you have any friends or family get back into doing things you like to do live a little and who know you may even start dating again

[Mel2021]

Thanks, that makes me feel a whole lot better about myself.

[Bklynbadboy12]

I'm glad I can help

[Anonymous]

notice that that is completely ridiculous when there are sooooo many guys in the world... your chances are higher than you think of being happy again.

[Gosceewual]

i wanna know too... how to stop feeling ugly after being romantacally rejected by every girl?

maybe jus accept that i am ugly?

[HHHHIHHHHHIHHHH]

I would propose to hit the gym or if not during these times to at least work on improvement of your body (some excercises at home maybe) if you feel you can be more attractive. Being fit is often a big bonus to attractiveness even if a person is not conventionally beautiful face or body wise.

[Gosceewual]

@HHHHIHHHHHIHHHH i dont think its my appearence to be honest because i think i look aight (not being cocky) im quite muscular in between a stick and a bodybuilder
i jus seem to get friendzoned a lot by every girl. maybe its the way i act or maybe i put myself in the friendzone... so i must jus have an ugly personality... but not an ugly appearence, jus unnatractive as a person overall... and i dont wanna get a dating couch or learn how to talk to girls... cos that is jus being fake... when i act more like a friend than a lover thats jus who i am, i dont wanna be a flirty dating expert, the real me is a guy who wants to be more like a friend but also be more than her friend at the same time... but no girls want that... so the reality is i jus an unntravtive personality and i just can't change that :(

[Gosceewual]

thats jus who i am :(

[Gosceewual]

anyway i dont think if i did get an dating expert and learned proffesional techniques... if i had to do all that jus to get a girl to like me.. i dont think she really liked me in the first place... if a girl likes me she should like me for the non flirty friendly kinda guy i am... she should be attracted to me jus like that without seeking profesional courses... so no girl actually want the reall me

[HHHHIHHHHHIHHHH]

I am not sure if dating techniques work but I also would feel cheated if somebody liked me for my fake me.
I don't know if they rejected you in real life or on the dating app (if dating app, I would not take any rejection there as a real rejection of you).
If you are a nice guy and have this bonus of looking nice I am sure there is already somebody who is interested in the real you.

[Anonymous]

Sorry to be straightforward but meeting with a professional seems a way to go

[Opinion Owner]

I mean, primarily to treat the depression which as you say was a big issue, and in the second place to build your self esteem.

[Mel2021]

Reactive depression means that it can be caused by external factors or things outside of your control such as the pandemic, but once those are no longer an issue it will subside

[Opinion Owner]

oh, ok

[deeks1121]

Get over them by getting under someone new. I honestly live by this motto

[In_Trance]

bang another guy