Guys, do you get slightly annoyed/put off if your girlfriend eats very little just to be "on diet"?

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There are guys who gets slightly annoyed by the constant "I wanna eat less to stay slim" mentality within their girlfriends. Some of my guy friends said that they feel a bit "unhappy" because they can't quite share what they enjoy (which is eating) with their girlfriends, and some mentioned that they get slightly "annoyed" because they can't cook their favorite dishes to their girlfriends as the girls either find those food oily/higher in calories, or only eats vegetables (N.B: most of my guy friends are good in cooking meat stuff.)

Not saying that it's a rational thing to do, and by no means do I conclude that all guys are like that, I just wanna know do you guys feel that way or something similar? Care to share your thoughts?

Darkfairie17 · Accepted Answer

I know guys do :P My boyfriend hates that, when a girl doesn't eat or only takes two bites in the name of 'dieting'. It annoys me too when friends I know will only have a small snack for most of the day or not eat at all and instead drink diet pop like it's something better for you then a healthy meal. I hate it because it makes me feel like a pig when I eat a normal meal like a person should. I shouldn't feel guilty about eating a normal portion, but I do because of all this 'dieting' going on.

My ex boyfriend used to be the opposite, he would have preferred that I not eat at all because I 'look as if I could go without a few meals'. I also hate that mentality because I do eat healthy (I eat lots of fruits and veggies and don't eat junk food, and I don't drink pop). I do exercise but because of a thyroid issue I have to suffer being fat no matter what I do. It's not fair to be judged like that because it's not something I can help, and I do actively take care of myself, it's just not visible to people who don't know me.

Not all guys are like that I agree. I know guys who could care less. But I wish girls would just be happy with themselves and not worry so much. It's okay to eat a normal portion, just exercise regularly and make healthy choices most often.

Freetobe007 · Accepted Answer

Yes. It's annoying.

First of all, eating less is not going to make you thin. It's just going to make you unhealthy. Next, it's annoying to deal with any female who is consumed with insecurity and clearly focuses a good portion of her energy on feeding her insecurity. Guys don't want to have to deal with trying to make you feel better. To be honest, I'm a happy girl who just loves to have a good time and maintain a positive energy and girls who do things like this annoy me. If I was around you, I'd be so tempted to tell you "OMG Just shut up and eat!" They often become energy vampires for no necessary reason. I feel like they tend to be over dramatic and it's annoying to deal with and be around. Like if you go to a party or you're at the beach and everyone wants to have fun, you're gonna get on their nerves if you're not eating much and creating all of this negative, dramatic energy for no serious reason.

It's annoying. It looks like your fishing for attention and compliments. Guys don't like dealing with unnecessary drama

ZenQueen · Accepted Answer

This can be really hard, especially if your boyfriend likes to cook for you. I am active and rarley skip meals, but my boyfriend was from the south and liked cook with put cheese and butter on everything. On top of that he had fast metabolosm and would want to eat all the time. You just have to pick and choose your battles, eat enough to make him happy, but don't go overboard and blow your diet. Men and women have different bodies, guys have to understand that.

Belgie · Accepted Answer

Yeah, this annoys me.

I'll try to tell you why. It's not irrational.

1) It makes no difference. Weight loss actually requires more than just starving yourself at the occasional meal.

2) It definitely doesn't count when she picks food off of my plate.

3) I don't want to hear how f***ing hungry she is, when there's perfectly good food available.

4) I've gone on record on this site on more than one occasion, that curves are sexy, and I like a girl who knows how to enjoy the finer things in life. That doesn't mean being fat or unhealthy. But it certainly means I don't want a picky salad eater. There's nothing wrong with salad, so long as you add the tasty stuff - toasted Goats cheese, for example.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

This depends. I would get pissed off if I took a girl out for a nice dinner (which I pay the "penis tax"...ie...pay the entire billl) and she took a few bites out of an expensive dish. But eating in general, I don't care.

Also I get real annoyed by big girls who eat healthy in front of everybody because they are insecure. Those heavy girls are not fooling anybody (they are stuffing their faces when nobody is looking). I wouldn't be dating those girls anyway, but just saying.

However if a girl is trying to eat lean and stay in shape...FINE BY ME. I eat weird myself, I rarely eat full meals. I just snack on protein all day. So maybe I'm not the best guy to answer this.

iwish46 · Answer

Yes. I also get annoyed when girls (or guys) count their calories all of the time. Just eat healthy and be active and you will be fine. Are you hungry or have you not ate anything in a  while? Eat. Are you full or have you just ate? Don't eat. Also, since calories were brought up, I feel that I should mention that it annoys me when girls (or guys) main goal in exercising is to burn calories. I think exercise it to try to improve your overall heatlh and fitness level. Nothing gets me more ticked than seeing someone on a stationary bike, going 3mph, watching TV and calling that a workout. There. My rant is complete.

BillyTheMountain · Answer

If you don't want your girlfriend to gain weight, then she has to control her calorie intake, just like you ought to. Otherwise you're both going to gain a couple pounds or more per year until all of the sudden you find yourself 50 pounds overweight. (Happens to most people... Look around...)

She can't eat any where near as much as you eat because she weighs less. Check out www.Livestrong.com to see what her and your calorie intake should be for your weight.

To the extent that you are very active with exercise or sports, you can eat even more.

So back off! ;-)

Take whatever she doesn't eat home and have it for lunch the next day...

raptor · Answer

What I prefer is a girl who is healthy. I do prefer specific body types over others, but I think we can all agree that there comes a point when a person's physical size and/ or shape is undeniably unhealthy, at least from a medical standpoint.

This might seem odd to some people, but I would be more worried than annoyed if I was with a girl who frequently ate very little to stave off weight gain/ be thin. In order to actually stay healthy a person needs to eat a good amount of food (of course not in excessive amounts, and physical exercise needs to be included). I think a previous answerer used the term "skinny fat", the colloquial term of people who fit this description.

Sirhc001 · Answer

YES! It aggravates me to death. I cannot stand when girls refuse to eat. First off, if you wanna stay slim, it's called being active. It's 100 times healthier than just not eating. I dedicate 30 minutes a day to working out and I have an athletic shape. 30 minutes a day is all it takes and you can eat just about anything you want

Quadrophonic84 · Answer

I only get annoyed when a girl bitches about wanting to go out to a restaurant and then takes two bites and leaves the rest on her plate. Thanks for throwing my money away just to test "if I care."

WeaponZero · Answer

As someone who is working out and trying to lose weight I can understand where you're coming from.  But I also recognize there are times when you just say "screw it."  For example, if you're going out someplace nice you should indulge.  THAT would annoy me if she ordered a little side salad and that's it when we went out to a nice restaurant.

Anonymous · Answer

If a girl is already skinny then yes it's annoying. I don't have a girlfriend but I do have a few girl friends and I usually tease them if they don't eat and comment that they aren't fat. They must not care what I think lol.

It would be annoying to date a girl that doesn't eat certain things but I could look past it if she is a great person and let me eat whatever I wanted.

Buckminsterfuller · Answer

i just think of it this way...who would I rather go to dinner with..one of my (girl) friends who is always on a diet and making me feel guilty for enjoying my food? or one of my friends who has a healthy appetite and won't judge me for ordering dessert?

question_girl223 · Answer

yeah..i used to be really skinny in my college years. my boyfriend used to always coax me to eat. in fact he was so obsessed with my weight that he used to keep deadlines .." by June end you have to gain 3 kg weight"... and thanks to him now I have gained almost 10 kgs (I am 53 kg now). he is all happy

peace-love-couture · Answer

No, guys do not care so long as: -You do not waste their money by ordering a big meal, then only taking a few bites out of it -Force your beliefs or opinions on them, but who likes that either way?

Anonymous · Answer

they need to mind their business. they don't want a girl that's fat or chubby, but they want a girl who eats big portions and greasy food. they can't have it both ways. 9 times out of 10 the skinny women they want to date are going to eat small portions and stay away from oily fried foods and not eat much meat. either get over it or start dating big girls

Anonymous · Answer

This is funny you bring this up. My boyfriend was just complaining about me counting all my food and measuring it all out and things like that. He misses the days when I could just pig out. Thing is, I'm fat like literally obese and I need to lose weight so he's just going to have to get used to it. He's this tall guy and kind of skinny or slim. He eats like an animal and doesn't gain weight. I don't have that luxury. :/

Anonymous · Answer

you kind of just described me. I hate being that girl, but ever since I started caring its like I can't go back to normal. its ridiculous how much more attention I get when I do watch what I eat. its like I'm  encouraged to stay slim, but at the same time guys want to see me eat a lot too. I struggle to find that balance. I want that mindset I had when I was younger and didn't care, its so much easier when you don't think about it!

Anonymous · Answer

Guys hate watching girls go through the process of becoming attractive, as a general rule. They'll complain about shopping, salons, dieting, working out, make up, etc., and say that it makes a girl high maintenance and annoying, but at the end of the day they still enjoy the product. They just like the illusion that it happens magically.

TigerRoseBear · Answer

I'd prefer if she didn't "diet" as in eat less, but "dieting" as in eating certain foods is totally okay and is actually better than dieting at all (as long as the certain foods are actually filling and not just say cheese and salad haha).

1stblackx · Answer

lol, so she is trying to look better? I'm going to get hated on for this but lol, NO IT DOESN'T ANNOY ME. but then again, the caliber of girls I get is better than the average dude on here.

jedisatan · Answer

There's nothing that irks me more than when someone thinks they're fat when they CLEARLY are not. So yes, it would cause be to bash my head against the wall

Anonymous · Answer

I would not likely. And also, just eating little to stay thin is not healthy. Those girls more likely are not healthy, they are just skinny fat.

My ex girlfriend was just like that. yes, she was skinny, and no, she was not fit.

tmlsmurfs · Answer

To answer your update question: Me I don't care what type of food she eats as long as she eats it all. She can get a big or small plate as long as she eats it all.  this is my opinion

nermalinda · Answer

I like a guy who can cook, so he better like a girl who can eat ;D

themastaplan · Answer

just be comfortable with who you are, if your boyfriend gets mad over something so small like a diet then he's a tool

Coopherst91 · Answer

Yes its irritating because we like you the way you are and when you get all picky about the food is bothersome especially if we aren't on the diet

Anonymous · Answer

I eat anything and everything I want, so I hope guys like girls who like to eat. :/

kermitthehog · Answer

I like a girl who eats a lot but I don't really think about it too much. She can do whatever she wants as long as she doesn't puke it out, you know.

drew9589 · Answer

Not really I find it important that a girl cares about the way she looks. I think its cute.

MyNameIsJonas · Answer

Yes. It bothers me.

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