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Well, I do want to eat somewhere, so if she wants to go somewhere else, I'm open to suggestion. But if she doesn't know where she wants to go and I know where I want to go, we can go to the place I want to go and I will get something to eat, while she takes the time to think about where she would like to go.
It's not annoying to me really, unless she is negatively impacting my ability to put delicious food in my mouth in a reasonable amount of time. I also am not going to play games where I list all the possible places to eat and she says no over and over. She can play that game with Yelp and scroll down all the options and mutter "nope. nope. nope..." to herself while I place my order and eat.
I totally don't mind choosing the restaurant every time, in fact that's how I roll when I'm alone, so it's nbd. I also think it's fine to order food separately as restaurants are often close to each other and we can go eat in a park, at the beach, or take it back home, poolside or whatever really.
If you don't know what you want to eat, my theory is you're not actually very hungry and maybe eating isn't that important. People who are actually hungry tend to eat whatever they can get their hands on.
It's annoying to many because,
1. I'm hungry and I'm tired of wasting time and want to eat.
2. You say you don't care so I make a decision and you go eeew I don't want that, which not only itself is annoying due to the lack of sense, but exacerbates reason1, so it's a double whammy.
3. Trying to wrap ones head around why it's so hard to pick something when you supposedly "don't care", can create migraines especially coupled in with hunger.
4. The fact that this is happening means this isn't the first time nor the last, so the issues continuously compound until someone losses there shit about the fickleness due to irritation over the never ending predictable chronic monotony and anxiety of having to ask this mundane question every single damn time, full on knowing what the answer is going to be, and can have a tendency to start an argument over frivolous shit that would've never happened if you would of just picked something, so just make a decision all ready people want to eat.
u Yes, it is annoying, but I solved that problem several years ago. If I ask and get that "it doesn't matter" response, then I do the following:
Me: Okay. I could go for Italian, Mexican, or barbecue [any whatever three cuisines I might like at that time.] You eliminate one of those from the list.
Her: Mexican.
Me: Okay. I'll eliminate Italian, so we're gonna get barbecue. Okay. Four Rivers Barbecue, Mojo's, or Bono's? You eliminate one.
Her: Bono's.
Me: Okay. I'll eliminate Mojo's, so we're going to Four Rivers for barbecue.
When I first started dating, this used to drive me crazy, but I solved this problem long ago. If I ask a girl out on a date in advance, I tell her in advance where we are going to eat. If I'm already dating a girl and decide to go out, she gets ONE 30-second opportunity to tell me where she wants to go, and if she has no answer, then I choose.
I make this rule clear when I start dating her, and the first time she experiences me enforce it, it's usually a surprise, but from then on, she takes me seriously and either figures things out on HER time, or she goes where I pick.
I'm happy to go to places I don't love if that's where she wants to go, but I no longer suggest 12 places to have her shoot them all down and still not know what she wants. That's just disrespectful of my time and effort and I don't stand for it.
This is common in marriages, where you do want to eat "I don't know or I don't care" I've often said if someone opened up a restaurant called I don't know they could make a lot of money.
Its a long running joke too, seen it in many acts, comics and other places... where she wants one place in mind but would rather have him run through a list of 50 places first.
So yeah it is annoying, I just got to the point of, if you don't care or won't say and you tell me to pick. if you can't find something you want to eat, not my problem... I am not your mother.
Yes that drives me crazy. One time it took 2 hours for my girlfriend to make up her mind what she wanted to have to eat. At that point I was starving. I went through every type of restaurant and fast food place. She finally decided on the first place that I mentioned.
That's fine, I'm happy to choose a restaurant. I think it's kind of a test women give men to make sure the guy has a spark of initiative. What's not fine: someone who never makes a suggestion but rejects everything that is offered. That's a deal-breaker.
LOL It's a universal thing, isn't it?
Yes it's annoying. But after you've been through it dozens of times, it's not too annoying. It's just one of those girl things you have to get used to. I'll usually start naming every kind of food I can think of and see if any triggers an interest.
No. Provided she doesn't mind I choose for her, to speed things along, or provide her suggestions to pick from.
I don't mind indecisive people. Hell. I am a line manager of many business professionals and these people are the type who wouldn't hesitate in matters of business dealing with millions of pounds, but shit themselves when talking to people or choosing lunch.
No, not annoying. I usually tell her im paying for the food so she can get whatever she wants. Usually the indecisiveness comes from the prices lol
If however she is spoilt and orders expensive and more than she can handle, i will tell her at the end that im short and she needs to give a little.
Oh that's so annoying... indecision in general is annoying. Why do so many women think acting that way is okay? Is that dating advice, or something? My sister once told me that women tell each other to find meaningless bullshit tasks for guys they like to do for them so that the guys can feel needed. If you have an opinion, please just communicate it.
It's always best if she is decisive or helpful, but if she honestly can't decide the guy should try to be nice about it and give her some options rather than just one choice. She could help avoid a conflict by saying, "I'm not sure what I'm hungry for. Give me a few options and I'll choose one." The same hold true for other situations in the relationship, such as what movie to watch, where to go on vacation, etc.
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