Guys, do you find it annoying when a girl is indecisive about what she wants to eat?

Question

If you and a woman are going out and she NEVER says what sounds good, do you find that annoying? Would you rather her be decisive instead of saying “I don’t care” but then says no to the restaurant you choose?

zeitgeist057 · Accepted Answer

Well, I do want to eat somewhere, so if she wants to go somewhere else, I'm open to suggestion. But if she doesn't know where she wants to go and I know where I want to go, we can go to the place I want to go and I will get something to eat, while she takes the time to think about where she would like to go.

It's not annoying to me really, unless she is negatively impacting my ability to put delicious food in my mouth in a reasonable amount of time. I also am not going to play games where I list all the possible places to eat and she says no over and over. She can play that game with Yelp and scroll down all the options and mutter "nope. nope. nope..." to herself while I place my order and eat.

I totally don't mind choosing the restaurant every time, in fact that's how I roll when I'm alone, so it's nbd. I also think it's fine to order food separately as restaurants are often close to each other and we can go eat in a park, at the beach, or take it back home, poolside or whatever really.

If you don't know what you want to eat, my theory is you're not actually very hungry and maybe eating isn't that important. People who are actually hungry tend to eat whatever they can get their hands on.

Mantinziza · Accepted Answer

It's annoying to many because,

1. I'm hungry and I'm tired of wasting time and want to eat.
2. You say you don't care so I make a decision and you go eeew I don't want that, which not only itself is annoying due to the lack of sense, but exacerbates reason1, so it's a double whammy.
3. Trying to wrap ones head around why it's so hard to pick something when you supposedly "don't care", can create migraines especially coupled in with hunger.
4. The fact that this is happening means this isn't the first time nor the last, so the issues continuously compound until someone losses there shit about the fickleness due to irritation over the never ending predictable chronic monotony and anxiety of having to ask this mundane question every single damn time, full on knowing what the answer is going to be, and can have a tendency to start an argument over frivolous shit that would've never happened if you would of just picked something, so just make a decision all ready people want to eat.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Yes, it is annoying, but I solved that problem several years ago. If I ask and get that "it doesn't matter" response, then I do the following:

Me: Okay. I could go for Italian, Mexican, or barbecue [any whatever three cuisines I might like at that time.] You eliminate one of those from the list.

Her: Mexican.

Me: Okay. I'll eliminate Italian, so we're gonna get barbecue. Okay. Four Rivers Barbecue, Mojo's, or Bono's? You eliminate one.

Her: Bono's.

Me: Okay. I'll eliminate Mojo's, so we're going to Four Rivers for barbecue.

MrOracle · Answer

When I first started dating, this used to drive me crazy, but I solved this problem long ago. If I ask a girl out on a date in advance, I tell her in advance where we are going to eat. If I'm already dating a girl and decide to go out, she gets ONE 30-second opportunity to tell me where she wants to go, and if she has no answer, then I choose.

I make this rule clear when I start dating her, and the first time she experiences me enforce it, it's usually a surprise, but from then on, she takes me seriously and either figures things out on HER time, or she goes where I pick.

I'm happy to go to places I don't love if that's where she wants to go, but I no longer suggest 12 places to have her shoot them all down and still not know what she wants. That's just disrespectful of my time and effort and I don't stand for it.

Dragonpurple · Answer

This is common in marriages, where you do want to eat "I don't know or I don't care" I've often said if someone opened up a restaurant called I don't know they could make a lot of money.

Its a long running joke too, seen it in many acts, comics and other places... where she wants one place in mind but would rather have him run through a list of 50 places first.

So yeah it is annoying, I just got to the point of, if you don't care or won't say and you tell me to pick. if you can't find something you want to eat, not my problem... I am not your mother.

Wiredone · Answer

Yes that drives me crazy. One time it took 2 hours for my girlfriend to make up her mind what she wanted to have to eat. At that point I was starving. I went through every type of restaurant and fast food place. She finally decided on the first place that I mentioned.

Lliam · Answer

LOL It's a universal thing, isn't it?
Yes it's annoying. But after you've been through it dozens of times, it's not too annoying. It's just one of those girl things you have to get used to. I'll usually start naming every kind of food I can think of and see if any triggers an interest.

slatyb · Answer

That's fine, I'm happy to choose a restaurant. I think it's kind of a test women give men to make sure the guy has a spark of initiative. What's not fine: someone who never makes a suggestion but rejects everything that is offered. That's a deal-breaker.

jshm2 · Answer

No. Provided she doesn't mind I choose for her, to speed things along, or provide her suggestions to pick from.

I don't mind indecisive people. Hell. I am a line manager of many business professionals and these people are the type who wouldn't hesitate in matters of business dealing with millions of pounds, but shit themselves when talking to people or choosing lunch.

ChocoBrowny · Answer

No, not annoying. I usually tell her im paying for the food so she can get whatever she wants. Usually the indecisiveness comes from the prices lol
If however she is spoilt and orders expensive and more than she can handle, i will tell her at the end that im short and she needs to give a little.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Oh that's so annoying... indecision in general is annoying. Why do so many women think acting that way is okay? Is that dating advice, or something? My sister once told me that women tell each other to find meaningless bullshit tasks for guys they like to do for them so that the guys can feel needed. If you have an opinion, please just communicate it.

bowenw · Answer

It's always best if she is decisive or helpful, but if she honestly can't decide the guy should try to be nice about it and give her some options rather than just one choice. She could help avoid a conflict by saying, "I'm not sure what I'm hungry for. Give me a few options and I'll choose one." The same hold true for other situations in the relationship, such as what movie to watch, where to go on vacation, etc.

worldscolide · Answer

I absolutely hate it. My wife always makes me pick.

Fun fact, back from when I was working a drive through in my youth, the ones that always took the longest to order and had the most complaints were... You guessed it, women.

When the wife and I were in a drive through I always set a time limit of 30 seconds for both of us so we don't make people waiting mad..

When it's a sit down restaurant, I don't have any such limits..

na2398 · Answer

It wouldn't bother me. I'd want her to take her time. :) If it were a multi-cuisine restaurant, she'd be spoilt for choices haha. What's your fav dish, Hanny? Do you get caught in a dilemma before ordering? :)

BUNroaster · Answer

A bit yeah, but it passes and sometimes I can help by playing the douche who just starts ordering them stupid shit off the menu like grilled cheese or literally a blob of melted cheese at a greek restraunt. Once suggested eggplant with nuts and ranch dressing. The waitress enjoyed the humor more than my date was the vibe I got but alls well ended well. Eventually she feels more comfortable though and figures out what she wants and we get a good laugh instead of dumb silence.

t-8900 · Answer

half the time she's playing the yo-yo game to string a sucker along. And if she thinks she should be dominant or 50% of the decision maker in the partnership she's going to have to get used to me taking charge because otherwise things are never gonna get done. Personally I can't stand it because I am upfront, direct, and know what I want.

ShadezMcgee · Answer

I honestly find that annoying, but at the same time, that's on her. I view it as one of those little shit tests.

"Oh, you don't want to eat here after I suggested it and you said that it was fine? Too bad. We are here, we're eating."

hahahmm · Answer

I found it annoying back when I wasn't a leader type. Now I don't care. If you want to watch me eat my favorite food while you have something you don't really want, you can. Doesn't bother me at all.

MrWolf · Answer

No I don't because i can't pick sometimes too. But we usually kind agree on it. And if it's a different restaurant no worries there too.  Like I'm to old to even think about it.

COMMODOREII · Answer

Not at all. You can take all the time you need.

Anonymous · Answer

LOL, It is annoying but I have the solution. After 20 minutes of asking where do she want to eat and what kind of food she is in the mood for I will take her and bend her over the couch, my knee or lazy-boy and start whapping her ass. She screams out a restaurant within 10 seconds unless she is in the mood for what comes next.

Floppy2112 · Answer

Yes, especially when she's already shot down the options you chose and they she doesn't know what she wants, but she doesn't want what you want.
Get a favorite place and use that as a fall back whenever you're undecided.

SirJohn42 · Answer

Yes I went to a nice resturant with a gal.
She ordered steak, salad, Then she finally ordered milk and grilled cheese.
About 45 minutes to order then when food came she decided she wanted steak as well lol

MysticDevice · Answer

It is actually quite annoying when she does that however it's not like I'm one to talk because I do it too lol. Sometimes nothing just sounds appetising

Diamold · Answer

If she doesn't care, she needs to be ok with my choice then
What is annoying is when she doesn't care, but she's also not happy with any of my choices
Better go home and cook dinner for herself than 😂

Finchie40 · Answer

Just take her To the bar/restaurant called I Don’t Care

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

Never been in the situation, but yeah, I would find it annoying.

exitseven · Answer

I would not even notice this. It is so far down the list. I never went to real expensive restaurants anyway. Steak or seafood take your pick/.

GolxDX · Answer

Even even if she's not decisive, I'd like her to be either positive/ negative to the options I suggest.

Horny-ashell · Answer

Not really especially if we have just started dating it's just a nervous thing at first and most girls don't like to be seen eating.

KibblesBits · Answer

Yeah, she's heckin trolling. 9 out of 10 times I guarantee she would be happy to pick if she was with her girlfriends. Getting trolled is super aids.

chukio · Answer

No because most of the time I have no idea what I want to eat. I usually let the fam choose.

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