Why do people take their heartbreak revenge out on others?

[Nazgol]

E. g. a guy that's been rejected and 💔 by some girls will find a target, some other random girl to put his revenge & hate on

[EmbraceThePain]

I mean, it’s quite natural to take your emotions out on an object or person especially if one is very angry. You feel the need to get revenge on the something that hurt you and so you target something or someone who is close enough in resemblance to the thing that harmed you and you subsequently hurt that thing.

[GingerGuy]

With a lot of guys especially, we often don't "deal" with our emotions properly, or in a healthy way. That could be for many reasons, his upbringing or society in general teaches us that it's not "manly" to show emotions, so we often bottle them up, and then it comes out in other ways, and often bad ways. This is one of them. This is a reason a lot of guys work out at the gym honestly. It's a way for us to release that energy.

[tupacs_only_wife]

It's probably because they are hurt and looking for a way to hurt the person who hurt them.

[Nazgol]

So why not hurt the person who hurt them then?

[tupacs_only_wife]

Because they just can't seem to let go of the fact that they have been rejected and they may go out of their way to make sure the person who rejected them is not happy until they are satisfied

[Nazgol]

But that's the thing though, they DONT do anything to the target but will find someone else to dump their pain on

[tupacs_only_wife]

True, they look for a much more vulnerable person or someone they may not want to be around in order to torment them and its hella toxic

[Sammie97]

I’ve been guilty of doing this in the past mostly because I didn’t take time to heal.

[InferiorElegy]

In what way do they do this? Just looking for specifics.

I've only ever been rejected in life and yet I have not targeted anyone else or wanted any kind of revenge or hate. I can only blame myself and my ugliness for all my lack of love, everyone who's called me ugly throughout my life are exactly right.

[exitseven]

I have done this. I dated many girls in the course of about a year. I treated them all badly. Some of them were real bimbos but some were nice. I treated them all badly. It was all because I broke up with somebody that treated me badly.

[Hairylegs222]

They're weak. I move on immediately after a break up. Seeing the big picture, there's millions of other women out there and 1 woman still bothers you lol.

[PBandJ_Nerd]

It's because they don't know how to handle their heartbreak.

[Starwitch23]

Hurt people hurt people. In buddhism it is said that people always give what they have.

[Nazgol]

What does that mean, people give what they have? Can u be more clear

[Starwitch23]

If you have pain inside your heart, you will give pain to others.

[Starwitch23]

In order to stop this chain, you need to stop wishing pain people who had hurt you. So that they don't continue the cycle of pain. Wish for your and their healing.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

That’s the same thing as adults that’s attack schools who were shit on in their childhood Love Style. I forget what they’re called

[SpaceGalaxy]

It goes both ways. Does it not? Girls do it to guys too. After all, we are all "humans" regardless of our gender

[DeltaCharlieEcho]

lol do some research on how women respond to rejection. This post is comical at best

[AhmetMiraç]

I don't know why people do this but it's wrong behavior

[Bee-Hatch]

Whst can I say - people are fucked up.

[dray995]

What do you mean by “Revenge”?

[Nazgol]

Whatever the meaning of revenge is lol. Look it up if you're not sure. Basically means doing wrong unto others that was done to you

[dray995]

I know what it means but I’m trying to figure out the context that you’re using it in.

[Nazgol]

The context is what I described in the question. Sorry, couldn't make it more clear lol

[dray995]

You really haven’t made it clear at all. If you did, I wouldn’t be asking what you meant.

[Nazgol]

Ok lol

[Hotboy_booblover]

Human nature...

[Sketti2021]

No clue