Girls, Should I apologize?

Question

Sorry for the long message. This is random but I was in a long distance relationship for a few months. Long story short I felt like her interest in me was fading, she was taking me for granted, and I ended it. I know LDR isn't easy but I told her how I felt multiple times and it wasn't changing and I fell like it isn't something that she could, I think it was something only taking time apart could fix (not talking). when I ended it she didn't fight for it and just said "thanks for telling me how you feel". We haven't talked in nearly 4 months (doing no contact), we still follow each other on social media and she still follows my fam too. I want to maybe try to be friends and see if we could try again later down the road. Should I contact her and apologize? or don't continue no contact?

SueShe · Accepted Answer

There is never a need to apologize if you did not do anything wrong. It would be wrong to apologize for something you did not do just to keep her.

That would send the wrong signal to send and show that you are weak because you would do anything just for the sake of the peace. That is not how a relation works.

Most of the time, a LDR is doomed from the start and people that think it could work don't take all the elements in account that could possibly go wrong.

Now, not having talked in 4 months is pretty indicative that she has moved over this failed relation and you should do the same. Time to think of the future and not reminisce about the past and what could have been.

WonderBell99 · Accepted Answer

Relationships take work. It's a two way street - if she was not willing to put in any work and expected you to do everything, then it's best that you ended it. How could not talking for a few months fix anything? If you told her how you felt and she was still not ready to put in the work, then what makes you think that she will in the future?

if you have not moved on from her yet, I would suggest you to cut off contact with her until you do. It is extremely had to be friends with someone you still have feelings for and you will be the one to be crushed.

You need not apologize for anything.