Sleeping with someone?

[Anonymous]

Pretty sure my ex is sleeping with at least one guy since she broke up with me a month ago... what does it mean or what should I think about it?

[WonderBell99]

I went through your replies, it sounds like you are still not over her. Please don’t dwell on the past and try to get over her. You can’t just get over someone, but time can heal almost everything.

I’d advice you to not contact her until you’ve fully moved on. You still have feelings for her.. this will make things more complicated if you keep hanging out with her.

Don’t jump quickly into another relationship. Give yourself time to heal and grieve.

I get it, you want her in your future.. but if she is not ready, what are you going to do? If a person has commitment issues, they should go to a therapist and make changes to be better. If she isn’t doing all that, I’m sorry, but you need to move on and find someone else who is.

[Bambalicious]

Unfortunately it sounds like it wasn’t hard for her to move on after your relationship. It means you shouldn’t dwell on the past and move on. It will be hard but you’ll make it through. The best advice I can give you is to not quickly jump into a new relationship until she is fully out of your heart. This way you can fully give your heart to another person.

[Asker]

The thing is, I want her back... I'm crazy about her. We've hungout 3 times after breakup but we never talked about the relationship... we just acted like everything was fine, with kissing, cuddling and all that... haven't seen her in over 2 weeks though, I'm tryna see her to talk about everything and tell her exactly how I feel and just lay everything out

[Bambalicious]

I’ve been there too. I just turned into a cuddle toy when the girls he actually wanted to be with were not available. It turned into me putting so much into a “relationship” without getting anything back. I was like that for 2 years (we were married and had a baby). One day when he bragged about cheating for the upteenth time I realized I didn’t hurt. That’s when I knew I was done with him. He then got upset because I didn’t care about him anymore.

[Asker]

I don't know for sure if she's sleeping with other people, but I'm 99% sure because of how many guys hit her up daily and her snapchat is filled with guys.. and she's a sex positive person. And she told me before that she's slept with 2 or 3 guys at a time before...

[Bambalicious]

It sounds like she may not be ready for a serious relationship. It’s possible that she broke up with you because she knows your serious.

[Asker]

She told me she has commitment fears and issues... she also thought I was too immature and not ready for everything... house/townhouse/ kids and all that...

[Bambalicious]

The commitment fears were truthful the rest were excuses to make herself feel a little better. I’m a stranger and I can tell that you’re probably not immature.

[Asker]

She's 7 years older, been on her own for a long time and I still live at home... she has tons of worldy experience and I barely have any

[Bambalicious]

But not having experience doesn’t mean you’re immature. I bet you’re an amazing person. It’s just you worship her so much that you’re finding faults in yourself.

[Asker]

Sigh... I just want her back... we have a special connection. We had an instant connection since our first date and since we started talking.. we'd talk about the future but now all that seems impossible... I want her as the future

[avony12]

Probably a rebound if it’s recent. But you shouldn’t think about it. Your hurting your own self.

[mandyfire98]

It means she's probably moved on. You're going to have to move on as well if you want to be happy.

[Anonymous]

It is really none of your business.