as a straight woman with a gay bff (we've known each other since we were 18), i would see no issue with it; he likes men, therefore he's not interested in doing anything with me.
however
from your boyfriend's perspective, you shared a bed with another dude. and, because you aren't gay (meaning that you like men), he's treating it as though you cheated.
is your man overreacting? yes.
but should you have slept in a separate bed? also yes.
Maybe he thinks you're lying lol.
Really though, lots of guys wouldn't want their girl in the same bed as another guy wether he's gay or straight or even asexual. Neither of you are wrong in feeling how you do, and both sides have a right to feel how you do. Just try to understand each other more in this situation.
My best friend is a gay male and we both are 23 and we both been friends since 9th grade. He's overreacting a little but me and my bestie a little different he slept on the floor while I took the bed on our drunk nights lol but also we sleep on opposite ends of the bed when we fall asleep. Just talk to your man and get him to understand
He's overreacting in my opinion.
If you're friend is gay then there's no issue.
I think you should talk to your boyfriend and ask him why it upsets him. Him:"he's a guy". You:"so? He's gay". Him:"doesn't matter". You:"why doesn't it matter?" And so on. My point is exhaust his logic until he's stumped and realizes there's no problem
he does have a reason to be pissed, but he doesn't understand your friendship with the GAY FRIEND (it's sexist). I think it's your job to explain him about your friend, but I think he will understand. but not until u tell him
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I don't think it's so much about what we think, but what he thinks and how you feel about it.
Ask him about it and have a talk about how what you did upsets him, let him vent a bit of his feelings and thoughts rather than just having a freakout because it sounds unresolved between the two of you.
I wouldn't be to keen on my boyfriend sleeping in the same bed as a female friend, but I wouldn't have a fit or anything over it if it was just sleeping and nothing more. If it were reversed and I was sleeping with the friend, he would probably want to knock me upside the head with a brick. Very protective, but I don't do things like that so there's no issue really.
It doesn't matter if he's gay or not it's about respecting the relationship and how it looks on the outside.
No one can tell if a guy is gay by the way that they look, it's all about the big picture which is sleeping in the same bed as a guy when you are already in a relationship
Would you be ok if your boyfriend told you he slept in the same bed with a woman that is a lesbian?
I think he might be over reacting but he might be worried about possible drunk activities. Gay or not things can still happen out of curriousity
I wouldn't want my guy sharing a bed with anyone other than me. It has nothing to do with trust and is more about saving that sort of intimate arrangement for just us.
It's a friend, and if you assured him that nothing happens, he should except that. Just because the friend is gay doesn't mean they automatically are going to make a move on you.
It's sleeping in the same bed as a platonic friend. Regardless of sexual orientation, it's up to a person whether or not they get jealous about it.
Me personally, I have nothing to fear from my partner's friends.
It's not cheating, but it was still extremely inconsiderate and disrespectful. He has every right to be upset.
No... I don't think he's over reacting. But to each his/her own, if that's what you wanna do and you are ok with it then just say that's how things are gonna be, take it or leave it.
Yes your boyfriend is overreacting. If i had a girlfriend i would never
get mad cause she stayed over or went out with a gay guy friend
i believe also your boyfriend needs to place more trust in you too.
No. I wouldn't want my boyfriend in bed with a lesbian. I can see why he's upset about it
Yes... would he act like that if you slept in the same bed as a straight girl?
gay or not would you really want him sleeping in the same bed with another woman?
He's definitely overreacting. He has no reason to be pissed.
no honestly the idea is think as if he did the same with a lez
how whould you feel if he spend the night in bed with his smoking hot drop dead sexy lesbian friend? ?
I think he is over reacting but does your boyfriend know this guy at all? If he doesn't know your friend I can kind of understand where he's coming from.
I think it's just all about respect, I know many girls who wouldn't like it if their boyfriend slept in the same bed with a lesbian
A neurotic minority excepted, gay guys too can have a bi moment.
yes and no. he's trying to protect you but is being jealous if your friends gay
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