My boyfriend is sharing a bed with his gay best friend—should I be worried?

[Lucy66]

Sleeping same bed cooking together baking and watching movies his best friend knows mybf has girlfriend and they chat all the time i mean every day about everything mybf doesn't like to be on the phone when his best friend is around need some answers please

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3 mo

Thanks everyone, His best friend is a gay yesss do u all think this is fake but my boyfriend was single for 4 years my question is why the didn't start dating before and they talk all the time like boyfriends i did go through their texts and didn't get find anything weird but something isn't right to me

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3 mo

quick update we had conversation about this situation this man literally going crazy whenever i talk about his friend and this whole thing he's claiming he isn't gay and this is friendship only i can't find anything in their conversation not sure what's happening right now but i can't ignore my gut feelings as well i guess there's unspoken feelings between them , they literally talk nonstop they went cinema and my boyfriend ignored for whole 3hrs because he doesn't want ruin his friendship

[236color]

I can imagine circumstances where your boyfriend isn't gay, but it takes a lot of imagining. Are they really poor, living together and can't afford 2 beds? I live in a gay neighborhood and have quite a few gay friends and one trans woman, but I don't share a bed with any of them. Now, if we were stranded in a winter survival situation, I would, but outside of that I sleep in my own bed with my wife. Your boyfriend might be bi or maybe deeply closeted. That seems more likely than anything else.

[DonaldDarko]

Get rid of him. Homosexuals carry really bad diseases and obviously he's lying to you.

[FunkyMonkee]

Is his best friend a girl?
If he's undyingly loyal to you, I don't know that you have anything to worry about unless SHE decides to bop his baloney while in bed with him. Even then, if he's loyal to you, he'll stop her.

[slatyb]

That's really weird. Are you having sex with him? I would think he is either gay or bisexual.

[Lucy66]

we did it's what makes me to think he might be bi

[DryGermanGuy]

"Trevor is a fag!"

- Kathryn Merteuil, Cruel Intentions

[LiamS95]

It is very weird for a straight guy to sleep with a gay guy unless they are involved with some kind of hanky panky.

[Tomislav7]

Use your gaydar. y'all can spot me like a sore thumb yet this guy your dating. Your fkn up

[Lucy66]

lol and what's that 🤣🤣

[spartan55]

Gaydar is your sense of detecting the Gay when he is trying to present heterosexual.
Think RADAR, only for the Gay instead of aircraft, ships, etc

[Smegskull]

You know the male version of this question is, "My girlfriend is sharing a bed with her lesbian best friend, how do I get invited.", right?

[Lucy66]

😂😂😂😂lol

[Iron_Man]

Why would he do that? There’s something terribly wrong with that picture

[Mike_Hum]

This is fake and gay.

[Lucy66]

i think so how am i gonna know if he's a gay

[Anonymous]

sounds to me that your boyfriend is bi and live his gay part with his friend.

[Lucy66]

well that's what i think as well but he calls me whenever he's with friends even though he doesn't like to say on the phone that much, but it's actually a fair point

[Opinion Owner]

that's why I said bi not gay, he seems still attracted to you and wants you.

[Lucy66]

Do think sleeping same bed for 10 years friend okay? and his whole mood shifts whenever he's with his best friend meaning all he does is focus on him

[Opinion Owner]

Do you feel this focus on the friend is of emotional kind? Cuz it could be only sexual no feelings attached.

[Lucy66]

Well my boyfriend didn't let me to meet that one guy but he did ask me to meet all his other friends which is weird to me , yess i do feel this focus obviously my boyfriend turns his phone off when they going out just two of them , he claims that he's hanging out with friends but ended up being with this specific guy

[Opinion Owner]

Yes but that doesn't rule out that they could be only blowing off the steam when together.
Maybe he didn't let you meet him because he doesn't want you to find this out.
Also have you ever tried to go through his phone's chats, messages, history?

[Lucy66]

Yes i did go through their chat nothing weird but i can't ignore my gut feelings u get me and i dont want imagine my life in 10 years with this guy having his best friend a side nah i can't

[Opinion Owner]

If you can't then you better end it, don't give him reasons, just tell him that you no longer feel the heat and I'm sure you can find another one that matches you better.

[Lucy66]

We only been together 4 months but i still like him it hurts so badddd

[Opinion Owner]

4 months is not that long, it might hurt, but in my opinion it's betting than finding out this like after 4 years deep in relationship, of course this only if you are not willing to compromise, it's up to you, if you can tolerate his relationship with his friend which you still can't exactly figure out, then you can stay together.
My personal opinion: a man can replace a woman in another man's bed but he can't replace her in his heart.

[Lucy66]

Oh of course they can replace a bed but not a heart but i don't know if they have feelings already which is had to guess to be honest but im mentally prepared to move on this week we meet up to have deep chatt but in my heart im completely broken right now i know it will be hard it will be easier to leave now then wait a month or two

[Opinion Owner]

Yes talk together, try to understand the situation, and make your decision soon, better now than later.
Wish you the best.

[Lucy66]

thank you so muchhhhhh i appreciated

[spartan55]

Lol... what? Oh my...

[Lucy66]

I can't even believe what's happening

[spartan55]

You are dating Mr Gayerson, and you are his beard.

[Lucy66]

mybe 😂

[spartan55]

Keep burying your head in the sand... smh

[whosnumber_1]

Bail! End that nightmare!

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Yep. Your boyfriend is gay himself.

[Lucy66]

clearly something isn't right how can i know that any tips please

[oldman26]

How is your relationship

[Lucy66]

we done

[oldman26]

Life happens

[ABC1x1x]

Only if his gay friend sucks dick better than you

[Pterodon]

Gee ya think?

[Lucy66]

yess

[Jeff51]

Is he bi?

[Lucy66]

if you mean my boyfriend he says no is not attract to men

[DirtyOldMan777]

he gay

[In_Trance]

Troll

[Jmmmfi4]

Weird